My daughter has 6 brides maids and her fiance has 4 best men. We are trying to find something else for two of the girls to do rather than stand with the bridal party... Any suggestion would be greatly appreciated.
2006-10-22 04:45:56 · 19 answers · asked by blueeyes 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
dress one up in a tux.. haha.. sounds out there.. but it might be funn
2006-10-22 04:49:20 · answer #1 · answered by Tiff 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How nice it is that your daughter has 6 friends who want to be part of her wedding. Let's assume that one of them is her maid of honor. If you're lucky enough that one of the gals is married, then your daughter could appoint her matron of honor. If that works, this might be a way to proceed.
The only time that the bridesmaids and the groomsmen usually walk together is during the recessional (in most weddings, the groomsmen wait at the front of the church with the groom) If that's what you're planning, have the maid of honor and the best man exit down the aisle immediately after the bride and groom, followed by the matron of honor and one of the groomsmen. The two remaining groomsmen would exit down the aisle with one bridesmaid on each side.
Hope this helps.
2006-10-22 12:14:57 · answer #2 · answered by Le Miccine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to keep them as bridesmaids. Your daughter should have spoken to her fiancee about numbers before she asked all six if now the unevenness of it makes her uncomfortable with it. I think your daughter and future son-in-law should have communicated better. This girl that I know (she didn't have alot fo friends - her fiancee picked 12 guys for the bridal party and then expected her to come up with 12 people she only had 2 good friends - I ended up in her bridal party as a filler with 8 other girls - I haven't seen or spoken to her since her wedding - as we weren't friends - but I did her from someone that she hates her wedding pics because she has all these strangers in them - strangers like me)...Brides and grooms need to communicate otherwise there comes these petty problems.
2006-10-22 13:32:03 · answer #3 · answered by BunnyRabbit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Act all stressed and say you desperatly need to people to help with the reception, it needs someone really responsible. To check it is all ready properly, to show people in and take some unofficial pictures.
I can see its a difficult one but who knows maybe a couple of them are actually dreading the whole brides maid thing and would love to be really involved without the fancy dress and being in front of the crowds, partly down to your daughter to still make them really involved and special to her.
It doesn't have to follow tradittion of cause create two new jobs for these girls, chief confetti throwers maybe, :-)
Hope it all works out and everyone has a wonderful day.
2006-10-22 11:58:08 · answer #4 · answered by Trudy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can include them as bridesmaids. Either have them men waiting at the alter with the groom, or, have all four men escort a woman and then have "two maids of honor" (even better if one is a matron of honor) that walk seperately and solo to the alter just before the bride.
Otherwise, they can be guest book attnedants and greeters that help to make the guest feel comfortable.
2006-10-23 15:18:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here are a few ideas. Have the girls light candles. Maybe they can usher in the grandpas.
At my wedding my little sis and niece were the junior bridesmaid and flower girl. Instead of them standing with us (because I knew they'd be talking or squirming cause they're young) they walked down the aisle and sat on the front row instead of standing. Maybe these two girls can walk down alone, first, then be seated.
2006-10-23 11:43:08 · answer #6 · answered by rdnkchic2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I wouldn't worry about it. Your daughter has chosen the people she'd like to be with her on her special day, and your future son in law has as well. I wouldn't worry one second about there being more girls than guys. If it concerns you during the recessional/processional, have 2 of the groomsmen escort 2 bridesmaids. It would be extremely rude and tacky to ask 2 girls that have already asked (and planned on) being bridesmaids to play a different role in the wedding. People aren't stupid, and they'll know they drew the "short stick" so to speak. Have them stand with the wedding party, and don't worry about it one minute, it will be fantastic!!!
2006-10-22 14:34:18 · answer #7 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
they could be the candle lighters, guest book and gift attendants they could help with the reception...or have the groom find two other guys, if these ladies would be hurt by having other jobs, it seems that they have already been asked and it would be kinda crappy to be like, "well sorry there's not enough room for you, but you can do this..." Maybe have the maid of honor and the brides maid next to her walk on their own then the count would be ok.
2006-10-22 11:50:56 · answer #8 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You do NOT have to match the # of people on the two sides. All 6 bridesmaids should still stand. During the recessional you simlpy have one pair of two bridemaids at the end of the recessional. No biggie at all.
If I were one of the bridesmaids and heard you referring to me as an "extra" I'd be very offended.
It would be extrmely rude to "demote" a bridesmaid.
2006-10-22 22:50:43 · answer #9 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have one stand on the groom's side. This is becoming increasingly popular at weddings. All the females do not necessarily have to stand on the bride's side. This will even it out for the purpose of things looking symmetrical...but really...who cares? She can have six on her side and he can keep the four. Trust me, this will be the last thing people will talk about in years to come after the wedding! There are bigger things to worry about.
2006-10-22 15:27:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have the more secure one wear a tux and pair off with the 5 bridesmaid...evens up the no.'s and allows all to take part!
honestly I answered before reading other responses
2006-10-22 16:08:02 · answer #11 · answered by chiefof nothing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋