My agony begins with my b/f that I caught cheating on me about 3yrs ago. Since then, this girl still tries to keep in touch with him by calling and blocking her # or emailing him at work. Over the years I have learned about other girls that have an interest in him but each time I learn about one of them he gives the same answer and says that he would never cheat on me again and to not worry about anything. Well this girl has showed up again in an email with her telling him that she is really upset that she hasnt seen him in a while. So he replied that he would go to her house the next day after work. Of course when I confronted him about it his excuse was that he was "looking at her car". What a big fat lie I assumed, but when ahead and voiced my opinion about the whole thing anyway. He knows I dont trust him one bit. Maybe he isnt going to cheat, but I will never know. I live with him with my son and breaking up is harder said than done. What sould I do?
2006-10-22 04:36:07 · 13 answers · asked by lybra975 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Baby, it's time for you to dump him. He's going over there to get a little. So it's time for you to cut and run. Sorry there's a child involved, that can be difficult. But for your own good, get out of there. It isn't going to get better, only worse.
2006-10-22 04:40:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The reason you have such big trust issues is because you are so attached or loving towards your boyfriend that you don't want to let go of him...or you couldn't, if he left you or cheated on you. You've been together for a pretty long time, so this is why you rely on him as almost your other half. It doesn't matter the only guy that cheated on you didn't matter, this one does matter to you I would suggest that you talk it through with your boyfriend. Even if it makes you sound sort of desparate, that's what you are, right? He will probably also feel happy that you love him so much and want to be with him. Try to communicate through this. Good luck!
2016-05-21 22:23:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a saying; once a cheater always a cheater. Unless they really want to change, they will continue to do this.
Stop believing him and tell him to hit the road. He will give you all kinds of excuses, why believe any of them?
Better to leave than to put up with this garbage. Why on earth are you living with him, what kind of an example is that for your son to see. Nice role model. Get outta there. Get some self respect. Don't live with a guy unless you are married to him.
2006-10-22 04:43:08 · answer #3 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well speaking from a guys perspective I have to say that your BF is playing you. Hence the term Player. Dump him unless you want to let him screw around. If he was concerned for your feelings he would totally disconnect himself from this girl as well as others. I'm not saying he won't have any friends that are women but when a man knows that his woman is having issues with a certain friend that is a girl then he should cut it off. And remeber the old saying "If it walks like a duck and talks like a duck then it is a duck". Doesn't matter what he says his actions are speaking for him.
2006-10-22 04:46:11 · answer #4 · answered by William J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like you will ever be able to trust him again so I feel the best thing to do is to break up with him. I know that will not be easy to do but its not easy living the way you are. In the long run you will heal from a break up. And, then you can be with a man you can trust and have a healthy, loving relationship with. Staying with him, I feel you will only get more hurt, angry, etc after time..... good luck to you, take care!!!
2006-10-22 04:41:28 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle : 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have all of the signs in front of you, but you said, breaking up is harder said then done. You should not have to learn to trust your boyfriend, If by now he has not proved to you he is trust worthy, why are you still their. He may never change, this may be his make up, in other words, he is just a player. So why would you waste your life, going behind him, checking to see what he is up to, or who is his next encounter! If you do not trust him, then their is no relationship to save. So you have to weigh your odds, what is best for you and you child!
2006-10-22 04:47:44 · answer #6 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey,
I know that it is hard to break up, but you will never feel sure that he will not cheat-somethings got to change. All his sorry excuses are just absolute lies, if he were truely committed to you and he cared about your feelings he would either block these girls ability to contact him, he can block her number on his phone and as far as them, and when i say them--i mean i am sure he is still seeing not just one other girl, I seems pretty clear that he has others that he is actively having contact with, Its time to tell him to get LOST!!!!!!!!!!!!! As far as them e-mailing him he can simply change his e-mailing address, and he could-should totally ignor her calls and e-mails. Sweetheart you are right in feeling that you cant trust him--he hasn't done anything to put these girls totally out of his life!!! And BULL-**** he can look else where for a car!!! It is just all bold face lies
It is time to get on with a real and trustworthy life with out this failure--loser and any other name in the catigory. Don't waste anymore of your life-get out with some of your real friends, and get around safe places to meet other potential boyfriends, or just start hanging out, you will meet new people, keep your ears and eyes open, before you comitt yourself to anyone. this guy your with triggers more that just signals, and he is treating you like and a fool and getting his laughs because you are still there with him. don't trust or believe all of his lies, you are way better than that. Also and this is a BIGGY--he may also bring aids home to you and then it will be too late, it takes time for aids to show up-i would get tested for HIV as soon as you can-and kick this free loading loser out of your home-you and your sons home! this is a guy that is exposing your son to his loosing behavior and i am sure you want to teach your son trustworthy behavior and he sure isn't getting it from this guy. I do know that it is very hard to break up--but once you do and a little time passes, you will realize that that creep isn't renting space in your head, and when you do find someone that respects you- you will for real-be glad to be rid of him, keep in touch and i wish you well. Get the ball rolling. And be true to yourself and get you self worth back that he took from you.YOU ARE WORTH IT!!!!!!!!
GOOD LUCK--
askthequacter
2006-10-22 09:57:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
SURE BREAKING UP IS HARD TO DO..so is contiuely being lied to and cheated on...dont u think u and ur son deserve better??...ONCE A CHEAT ALWAYS A CHEAT..I LEARNED THE HARD WAY,,and ya know my x-husband cheated on the 4 wives he had afterwards,,have a couple more kids by this creep till he walks out permantly and ur going crazy raising them by yourself
2006-10-22 04:43:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
next time he decides to go round there to "look at the sl@gs car" say, can i come with you.
he knows you are wary of the boyfriend snatcher so he should understand, and take you.
if he calls it all off. im sorry honey, but id start getting worried.
xXx Good Luck xXx
If he cheats on you again, dont stay with him honey. you are more important than that, dont let him walk over you again! xXx
2006-10-22 04:41:18 · answer #9 · answered by Fader's Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will NEVER learn to trust your boyfriend because he has abused the trust that should have been there in the first place. He is totally untrustworthy and he is a liar. He won't change, and even if he does, you will never quite get over his dishonesty with you.
2006-10-22 04:43:02 · answer #10 · answered by Marty P 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋