can i get better?

Question

i've hated myself for years, iim 18 now and every day goes by and ive began hurting myself, starving and cutting myself, no one knows, but im getting in a hole and i cant find a way out.
im about 5 2" and i always get myself down about that, my being short, i think constantly that im overwieght when i know im not, but i cant stop starving myself, i need help, but i dont know what to do.

Answer 1

I think, even though you are 18, that you need to talk to your parents. You have to if you really want to get help. They aren't going to be angry...they will be a little scared because they love you, but they do want to help. Give them a chance. Don't think "Oh they don't care about me...it will just prove that I'm worthless....." Wrong. Do NOT keep doing this. Do you want to end up being 40 years old and your life is a mess because you passed up chances to change everything? You just need help and I swear-----you will be amazed how good it can be.

Answer 2

You're probably at your toughest age right now. I think you'll get through this, but you'll need help (as you pointed out.)
You probably have at least two disorders going here - anorexia and the cutting and self-destructive behaviors. I don't know much about either, but I'll try to list a Website or two below which might help you get the information you need to choose an appropriate therapist. Getting the right therapist is very important.
I don't know if you can get taller by taking some kind of growth hormones or not. You can certainly live a very productive and happy life without getting any taller. Many many people do. In any case, it sounds like your height is not really the source of your problems.
I wish you well and hope the Websites listed below will help you in some way.
(Here is an excerpt: "Harming oneself, also known as cutting, self-mutilation, or SIV (self-inflicted violence) is a coping mechanism that is sometimes found in people also suffering with an Eating Disorder. For some, they may find it easier to deal with real physical pain than to deal with their emotional pain, or some may feel emotionally numb and using SIV reminds them that they are alive. They may even feel that they deserve to be hurt. It can be used to block out emotional pain, or to make the person feel "strong".")

Answer 3

See a Dr this is not something you can help yourself with you will need guidence as to how to get over this - soon people are going to notice your cut marks and your not eating you wont be able tohide this forever - I used to starve myself but it wasnt because I was fat (even though I was and needed to lose the weight) I did it because I felt like I couldnt control anything in my life and I am a fairly controlling p;erson so I figured that if I couldnt control what was going on around me I would control what went into my mouth. I allowed myself 1 salad sandwich a day and that was it - if I ate anything else even if it was just 1 bite and it didnt matter if it was a celery stick or a bit of cake I would then swollow up to 15 laxatives - this went on for 6 months and I lost a fair amount of weight - I lived on my own so it was fairly easy to do however people started commenting on how I was looking good and how did I lose the weight and I thought nothing of telling them that it was easy you just stop eating and then Id walk off - after the 6 months I started on antidepressants and I just decided that I didnt need to control my eating any more and just started eating again - however I did do damage to myself I ate that many laxatives in that 6 months that my body became dependant on them - I was constipated for about a year, my teeth started rotting and I now have irritable bowel syndrome and get kidney stones (you can get them from starvation) its now 12 years later and Im still paying for it. Please get some help ASAP dont be ashamed to tell your Dr about this they can help you.

Answer 4

Everyone else is probably going to say that you need therapy, maybe that's true. But I think you just need to find some other outlets, something that isn't focused on you. Do something to help other people, volunteer for a good charity, you'll build yourself up and help out other people in the process. And most importantly, when you're thinking about others, you'll have a lot less time to think about yourself, and what you think is wrong with you. You're alot better off than you think, I'm sure you have a lot of great qualities, just start focusing on what's right, instead of what's wrong with you and your life. Best of luck!

Answer 5

You've made the first step by admitting you have a problem. Next step is to seek help from your doctor who will refer you to someone qualified in dealing with problems like your's. Your body needs food in order to work and grow. Starving yourself is adding to the lack of height. You still have some growth years left, so the sooner you seek help,the sooner your body will recover and start growing. You seem very depressed, and something must have sparked this off. Please seek help NOW. I wish you the best of luck....and you will get better

Answer 6

talk to someone who is a good and supportive friend.make an appointment to get therpy.join a group on the internet Yahoo has groups for depression where there are people like you.you need help you can not beat this alone and you do not have to.most important to remeber there are people out there like you you are not alone.

Answer 7

Try to fit in your own box,not the box of others,get a woman and friends that respect you instead of use you.

Answer 8

Stop cutting and starving yourself and GET SOME HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 9

GET HELP NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Even if you feel you want to die-GET HELP NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!