i am 22 and my boyfriend is 33 i have a lot of friends who are a little younger than me and he hates them. he told me that if i wanted to be with him, i would quit hanging out with them because they are bad influences. he doesnt like the partying we do because of course he has kind of grown out of that stage, but yet he loves me. when i am with him we dont party at all and i keep all my bad habits away from him out of respect even though he knows i do them. im just not sure if i should just decide to grow up and get rid of the partying days and try to settle down, or just keep things the way they are. i am so confused. can anyone please help me out?????
2006-10-22 04:21:57 · 14 answers · asked by sexybeeotch 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You really have to do some evaluating here. You need to take a good look at your friends, you man, and your self. When I was 22 I had lots of friends, but they were just people I partied with, I didn't talk to them everyday, I didn't share my secrets with them, hell half of them I wouldn't even let into my car. They were just people I knew. I don't think you need to grow up for anyone but yourself, your 20's should be a time to get it all out of your system so when you get to be your man's age, you will be ready to live a quiter life. Take a look at your bad habits, do you only have them around your "friends"? if so then they are not really your bad habits, you just need to tell your friends no. now tell your man what is bothering you, if he loves you, he needs to try to understand that theri is an age difference, you can't be just like him right now, tell him that you will try to curb your partying around him, but that it is important to you because it is the way you release stress. Hope thst helps good luck.
2006-10-22 04:56:18 · answer #1 · answered by victoria E. 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
girl you do need help. do not drop your friends do not stop parting. your only 22! you need to enjoy it while you can. if you don't you will surly regret it and when you get older you would wish you could go back and live a little. the time to stop parting is when your ready to have a kid your kid should be the reason you get grounded and settle down not some old geaser who supposedly loves you it sounds like you have to be a totally different person with him its not you and thats not love honey good luck!
2006-10-22 11:34:13 · answer #2 · answered by jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think ur problem created for the age distance with your boyfriend. He is really a bit older than you. May be he is good in nature and all other side,but he is obtaining a different mentality than you. I am 22 yrs old, that's y i know that in this age having patry with friends are very much attractive. Now,1st of all decide whether you can carry out the relation with your boyfriend. what i think of u that you r already in a war inside you -- that is compromising for ur boyfriend. but one day ur mind will protect this kind of compromise. compromise may be effective for short time period,but for the long time your have to carry our a free minded lifestyle, in which you can find u happy from every side. For that reason try to understand that whether your boyfriend may consider for you also or not. if he may compromise for you then your compromising mind may last long,otherwise not. if your bf try to accept your mentality well then you may stay with him.........otherwise its better to be seperate with him to check you out that you can stay happy without him or not.......... then automaticly you can find ur own answer easily.
2006-10-22 11:35:01 · answer #3 · answered by akareem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay I'm really sorry I cant read the description because I have to go to bed soon. But I think you should talk to him and tell him to try and get along with them coz if he loves/likes you he will :) Or just don't hang out with both at the same time.
2006-10-22 11:26:24 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your 20's and 30's are completely different stages in life. Your 20's are about having fun... if you guys love one another then he should be able to respect you and your friends.. and he should be happy that you are respecting him with not bringing your "bad habits" around him.
Dont cut off your friends.
Good Luck
2006-10-22 11:30:25 · answer #5 · answered by Liz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love is something huge. If you two are in love, maybe try taking his words and try to use them. He understands that you are at an age in your life where its time to have fun and take your shell off and party. So no matter what he will love you. But he really has no right picking your friends. it your choice not his, if he cant accept it then he is not right for you.
good luck sweetie, and have fun!
2006-10-22 11:26:19 · answer #6 · answered by aricalyn10<3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you like controlling manipulative guys? No, then I suggest you drop this guy like a bad habit.
No one has the right to tell you what friends you can have and not have. He's right about the bad company corrupting good morals. You'll hopefully mature in YOUR timing and not be forced into by someone else...
You learn to control yourself... Don't let others do it...
2006-10-22 11:26:28 · answer #7 · answered by James B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well so what he isnt dating ur friends. tell ur man that u have a father n those r ur friends and will stay that way. so what if he leaves u at least he will know he dont own or control u. ur young partying is what u do at that age. u can tone down ur partying but those are ur friends. dont let someone threaten u with altamatimes
2006-10-22 11:25:47 · answer #8 · answered by devil_queen_biatch14 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your friends are your friends. hopefully they've been there for you for more than just partying. they'd understand. maybe if you only went out with them once in a while or on designated nights you could all agree on. when i was 18 i dated a 28 yr old. he wanted me to have new friends/his friends new clothes, i dressed 'too immature' for him and all kinds of other crap. it's not worth it. a friend can last a lifetime
2006-10-22 11:25:33 · answer #9 · answered by tomiyo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him, enjoy being young while you can, plenty of time to settle down once your older.
2006-10-22 11:26:10 · answer #10 · answered by F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋