2006-10-22 04:17:32 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Be nice to have a little more info. but I think you might as well forgive them it's to hard to spend the rest of your life being angry. The best revenge is to live well... that includes mentally too.
2006-10-22 04:26:56 · answer #1 · answered by Thankyou4givengmeaheadache 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a Life Lesson. I know you're hurting and bitter right now, but was there ever anything in your life that was so overplanned as your wedding? It's an event that has disaster built in. About 500 things have to go right in order for it to succeed. Even if all that went wrong was the wrong flowers were delivered to the church, you would always be angry and bitter that SOMETHING HAD GONE WRONG! Ask anyone how their wedding went and they'll tell you what went wrong. You haven't said what happened, but here's my advice. If you really love your husband, tell him you want another ceremony - this time just a nice one in Hawaii on the beach. Let it be planned FOR you. Your husband doesn't want to hear for the rest of his days about how unhappy you are with the wedding you had - it was hard enough on him just jumping through all the right hoops - now you're UNHAPPY???? So a small re-wedding in a year, inviting just one or two couples, and far away from home. That ought to cancel the bad memories.
2006-10-22 11:36:22 · answer #2 · answered by Miz Teri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My family did the same for mine. Didn't show or even acknowledge it. I would think carefully on who in the family you would still want to keep in contact with and only do so on a limited basis. Family should still support you even if they don't approve of your choices. Not sure how your family ruined your wedding, but they should have been more sensitive to you on your day. Good luck.
2006-10-22 15:02:10 · answer #3 · answered by Laura 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a few problems at my wedding as well. However I dont believe anyone deliberately sabotaged my wedding. I just try not to think about the bad stuff, and I know that they're family and always will be. I've always been accepted so why shouldnt they.
2006-10-23 11:44:18 · answer #4 · answered by rdnkchic2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My horrible aunt tried to sabotage my wedding by telling the other relatives that if they attended my wedding she would never speak to them again. My aunt was invited but she chose not to come because she and I don't seem to get along very well (she is always insulting me). However, my relatives did attend my wedding and they had a blast...!
Oh, my aunt also convinced my own brother and sister not to attend my wedding as well.
My suggestion to you is, if you family is trying to ruin a special and very important day for you, than they don't give a crap about you and your feelings and all the hard work you put into your special day. Don't even bother with these shallow, ignorant and immature people, you don't need them!
2006-10-22 14:15:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
By forgiving them. There may not be a reason why they "ruined" your wedding, but you can't truly let go of anything you don't make peace with. It may take a lot of time and conscious effort to do this, but once you do, you will be surprised at how much better you really will feel.
2006-10-22 18:17:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you don't give any info, let's just say you have to remember the good things from the day. After all, you got married.
My brother left his wife and kid the week before my wedding. My mom and sisters tried to hide it from me, but I found out the Wed. before. As a consequence, only he came to the wedding, not her - she was a fave. sis in law and their son. My brother got totally drunk at the wedding, and tried to pick up my husband's very younger sister! Don't really have anything to do with him anymore, am just polite. My mom was devastated!
2006-10-22 14:28:26 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time heals. My brother in law tried to ruin my wedding. I have nothing to do with him as a result.
2006-10-22 11:19:19 · answer #8 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest that you have a sit down with them and discuss the problem. Let them understand that you really dislike what may have happened and that you would like for them to think about what they did. If all fails, and you are still mad, remember that it will heal in time. You may not forget, but you will forgive. By forgiving them, you spend less time fussing over what happened and can start enjoying your marriage!
2006-10-22 11:24:43 · answer #9 · answered by Clio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know that you ever do, my husband and I have talked about having a second wedding and only inviting a select group of people this time.... it really hurts, I know.
Good Luck
2006-10-22 11:20:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋