How would you handle an adult child that swore (in a fit of rage)at her Father?

Question

Also turned around and told her Mother to" leave her alone" in a group of people.

Answer 1

If she is an adult, what is there to handle? Does she have mental problems or did she have legitimate reasons for her outburst?

People often behave like children around their parents even when they are grown up because their parents treat them like children still. This girl's parents should talk to her about her actions (especially if she embarrassed them and herself). If she doesn't already know what she did was wrong, she probably needs counseling or something!

Answer 2

I think you may need to address the issue not the outburst. I think someone in a fit of rage isn't trying to create surprise with the use of prophanity. Its more to get a very important point across. The important words are the ones just before and after the "swear" word.I think its inappropriate to use that kind of language to your parents but, I think an adult child has a different motivation then a small child when it comes to that. Address the issue and I bet it never happens again.

Answer 3

That depends on who I was in the situation. She's an adult so it's not like disciplining her is going to do any good. And if I'm not the mother, father, or someone very close to her then trying to talk to her isn't going to help. It sounds like she has some issues going on and someone close to her should find out what's going on and why she did what she did. She might need help or her parents might be jerks. What caused her to do this...that's what you need to know to find out what to do in this situation.

Answer 4

Just because a child has bcome an adult doesn't mean they won't be childish from time to time... We can all be childish time to time.... just let it go.... in a matter of minutes or hours or days...the child will realize...ooops, I blew it! Even if they don't apologize...they are thinking it. And even the group of friends will tel her...she blew it... Thats the good side of peer pressure...lol

Answer 5

first get the child alone so she could focus on you. Then explain in a calm tone that you would like her to listen for a moment and she will get a chance to speak. Tell her that you dont appreciate her talking like that and in the future you would like it if she changed. Dont yell but dont come on completely timid. Keep a firm tone. Listen to what she says and dont interject. Finish with a hug and ask her to apologize to her father.

Answer 6

theirs really not much you can do maybe stay away from her for a while and give her some space and if shes an adult you really can't punish her and you also have to remember shes an adult not a child so it would probably start the healing process to treat her like an adult

Answer 7

you do not disrespect your parents no matter how old you are. i would tell this [adult] to come and discuss issues when he or she has calmed down. it will save alot of hurt feelings all the way around the family. most important maybe the argument can be resolved. if it is really seriuos all should go to counseling or a mediater. good luck

Answer 8

something deeply is bothering her, and she is lashing out at you and your husband, remember if you yell, she will yell loader, so try to sit her down, and in a very calm loving voice talk to her, she will probably cry, because she can't express what is going on in her mind. You sound like you may have tried somethings to no avail, so just give her tons of love, sooner than you think, she will do a turn around, good luck .

Answer 9

I would kick her out of the house until she apologized and straightened up her act. She has no business talking to anyone that way - specially her parents. If she lives with you then she just lost her home.

Answer 10

Leave her be. She's adult. Nothing can be done for her. Just leave her as she is. If she expects her parents to be there, she needs to realise that she needs to be there for her parents.