I am verrry shy, especially at parties and when i go peoples houses. I am so shy that i think I have social anxiety. I want to be comfortable in my own shoes, and be outgoing. I want to make friends and not be shy or scared to talk to people.!!!! plaese help , I'm 14 by the way. thanks!!
2006-10-22 04:08:38 · 17 answers · asked by jose_almeida@sbcglobal.net 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
The good news is that you aren't too shy that you can't go out. Embrace your shyness. It's not a bad thing and it's a quality that some people like very much. As long as you can go out, you are just fine sweety. Stop kicking yourself. Your future spouse may love your shyness. I'll tell you a little secret. Shyness can save you from horrible mistakes.
2006-10-22 18:56:23 · answer #1 · answered by wv_country_princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 14, probably going through puberty. You are shy. In other words, you are probably normal. I went through that myself and came out just fine in the end. Puberty does strange things; the reason you are not comfortable in your own 'shoes' is because those 'shoes' are changing. The key is to recognize that you yourself are a valuable person and not to worry about those who devalue you. You may have some social anxiety, sometimes I felt that way too, but just talking to people will help. You may get nervous, but the more you do it the easier it will become. Above all, be patient. You are becoming the person you will be for the rest of your life. This takes some time, but just hang on for the ride and you will come out fine.
2006-10-22 11:13:56 · answer #2 · answered by Jeremy P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're perfectly normal. I think there is a law about 14 year old girls being shy. Just take a deep breath and try and remember everyone around you is just as nervous about new people too. Some people are just better at hiding it than others. I was painfully shy until I got to my Sophomore year of high school and then I came out of my shell. I have a feeling it'll happen for you too. Just don't put extra pressure on yourself to make friends.
2006-10-22 11:16:56 · answer #3 · answered by bunny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok find somethn u r good at then take that at school ask a classmate to borrow a pencil or peice of paper or if they no the answer to a question. next u can c wat kind of shoes everyone is wearn save ur money n get some or c if ur parents will get u some guy shoes by the way.dont wear ur jeans too high or too dark n when u go to lunch who do u sit w just walk up n sit down if they ask u to leave then leave but dont giv up keep tryn or u will never get this ok dont worry u will find ur nitch sometimes it just takes a little longer than others
2006-10-22 11:17:59 · answer #4 · answered by Jojo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you have a social anxiety, its normal. Just stop caring about what other people think. That always helped me, I can just be myself. And being cool isn't being the loud annoying person at the party. Just speak up, talk to people and let them know the real you. Trust me the sooner you stop caring about what others think, the better you'll feel during your teen years.
2006-10-22 11:13:10 · answer #5 · answered by Kbailey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not be afraid to show yourself. because if you continue to have social anxiety then you probably won't have friends because they might think that you don't want to be their friends. so the next time you go to a party find one person that by their self and start a conversation with them and that could probably help you come out of your anxiety.
GOOD LUCK!
2006-10-22 11:19:51 · answer #6 · answered by mattie B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess is that you have a poor self-image. What are you good at? What do you enjoy doing? Odds are that you are or can become good at something you enjoy. When you can let yourself admit that you are good at something, you have a base to build on. To be outgoing, be comfortable with who you are then you won't mind sharing who you are with others.
Three years of public speaking classes in high school really helped me. Good luck.
2006-10-22 11:18:03 · answer #7 · answered by PAUL N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
youll grow out of it- but it will take some time. for some reason u dont like yourself, maybe u are very different from the other kids at ur school? Its ok to be the oddball, as long as u stay true to who u are, and dont change to fit in, people will like u!
2006-10-22 11:29:25 · answer #8 · answered by broctune 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm the same way, but people don't know it because I act confidently. Act like you are comfortable- even if you are inwardly shaking and nervous. You will feel awkward, but try not to let it show.
2006-10-22 11:13:10 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can do one thing, take a martial arts class. It will build up confidence and self-esteem. After a few weeks, you will see great improvement, plus when you get to high school, you wont get picked on. Plus girls love to have a guy who can protect them.
2006-10-22 11:14:25 · answer #10 · answered by ihopeusleptwell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋