Is it in Bible to spare rod and spoil child?

Question

I am 12 and got in big trobble last week and my mother say that to me when i get a spanking from her. And that she do that because she love me and want me grow up rite way. She not abuse me but it do hurt lot when she spank me and i cry alwayys. Is that in Bible i not see it when i look in mine.

Answer 1

Here are some verses on raising children from the Bible:
Proverbs 22:6 & 23:13
Ephesians 6:1
Colosians 3:20

Yes corporal punishment hurts and it is supposed to so that you remember what happens when you do something wrong hopefully encouraging you to do less wrong and more good. You'll understand why your mom does it when you have children of your own. By the way, I'm only twenty and I had my share growing up. You won't die.

Answer 2

It is in the Bible.
As the Bible tells us: "He who spareth the rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him correcteth him betimes" (Proverbs 13:24) and "Withhold not correction from a child: for if thou strike him with the rod, he shall not die. Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and deliver his soul from hell." (Proverbs 23:13-14)

"According to Physician magazine, spanking should be used selectively for clear, deliberate misbehavior, especially a child's persistent defiance of a parent. It should be used only when the child receives at least as much praise for good behavior as correction for problem behavior. Verbal correction, time out and logical consequences should be used initially, followed by spanking when noncompliance persists. Only a parent should administer a spanking, not another person. Spanking should never be administered on impulse or when a parent is out of control. Parents sometimes need a time out too. Spanking is inappropriate before 15 months of age, should be less necessary after 6 years, and rarely, if ever, used after 10 years of age. Spanking should always be administered in private. Appropriate spanking only leaves temporary redness of skin, and never bruises or injures. Spanking works, but must be used thoughtfully and carefully in conjunction with other disciplinary measures."

Answer 3

There are some like that:
Website 1:
http://sandradodd.com/s/rod
PROVERBS

13:24 He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.

19:18 Chasten thy son while there is hope, and let not thy soul spare for his crying.

22:15 Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.

23:13 Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die.
23:14 Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell.

29:15 The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame.

Site 2 confirms this:
Here is the URL for the article I'll be quoting
http://www.thewaters.org/columns/childabuse.html

-from the site

"To begin with, this “verse,” as quoted, isn’t in the Bible. The closest verse like it is Proverbs 13:24
which reads, “Those who spare the rod, hate their children, but the one who loves their child
disciplines them diligently.” The question is, what was the use of the rod, and is it a directive or a
metaphor? "

Answer 4

You can use the Bible to substantiate anything, as it can be interpreted so many ways. Didn't realize you were a kid: it is a sign of failure to use spanking. Your mother has not been able to logically approach you with reasons for good conduct. She may also be in trouble mentally. Sometimes we parents take out our own frustration on our children. Try to get your mom to speak to her minister, or get counseling.
Unfortunately, "Honor they father and mother, that thy days may be long upon this earth" has been inverted to allow the parents to pretty well abuse their kids as they like. However, we have eventually realized that children are not property, and neither are wives. So you go to jail for a long time, if you for example, hold your kid's feet in boiling water. Or throw them against a wall, as is the case in several situations we've seen in Ma.
Oh, yeah: want to raise an abusive person. Abuse them as children. He who sows the wind will reap the whirlwind: a Biblical truth.

Answer 5

Sparing the rod,does not mean to beat your child but to know if you do things rebellious,as in not doing what your parents tell you to do,,then there is punishemnt involved..If you don't want punished then walk right and there would not be punishment..



As the Bible tells us: "He who spareth the rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him correcteth him betimes" (Proverbs 13:24) and "Withhold not correction from a child: for if thou strike him with the rod, he shall not die. Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and deliver his soul from hell." (Proverbs 23:13-14)

Answer 6

Many people misuse this quote to overly punish or sometimes abuse their children. The rod referred to is the "iron rod" witch is meant to represent the Word of God. So "spare the rod and spoil the child" means. If you don't teach your child the word of God you will be responsible for their downfall.

Answer 7

Your mother should be spanking you for not knowing how to spell properly and write proper English. And yes, your mother is lying to you. It is not in the Bible. But even if it were, who follows what a mere book tells you to do?

Answer 8

It is in Proverbs and I see that many people use to quote this in order to justify spanking of their children. But I think they are not right. I asked a question about this issue before, here is the link:

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AjAAEpEfY.QBZHOu2XF4pdDsy6IX?qid=20060920042227AAcHwaU

Have a look at the answer that I chose as best.

Thanks for asking this question, I read so many posts by parents who say it is best for their kids to spank them, and I think it is wrong, and it is good that you show the issue from the other side.

Answer 9

In Common Sense, a book by The Book of Jack, it says to spare the rod is to spoil the child. Listen to your mama, child. She speaks the

Answer 10

Proverbs 13:24 states "He who spares the rod hates his son (or daughter), but he who loves him is careful to discipline him."