I planned my life to move in with my separated boyfriend and look for a job. He wanted to work things out with his wife, so I told him he should. He also said that he felt responsible to me and I should think about things before making a decision. I told him that was it, and I packed up my stuff and my cats and drove 15 hours to my sister's house. She has 3 kids and 6 animals already.
My cat's are hiding and I'm sleeping on a blow up bed in one of the kid's room. It's a weird situation for everyone and I don't know what to do. I'm tempted to call the ex and take him up on his offer until I find a job.
2006-10-22 03:51:12 · 11 answers · asked by torn 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well, you're ex boyfriend won't patch things up with his wife if you're there. I don't think that would show a real commitment on his part to her. Hurry up and get a job and get out of sis' house if you're uncomfortable there. At least you don't have kids to worry about.
Don't let your current living arrangement cause stress. This is your sister after all. And unless she's a slob and her kids are brats, ya'll have fun during this down point in your life. Get a job, help her with a few bills, save for your own place. You are 1000 miles from the ex (if you drive like I do in 15 hours). He's out of the picture. Live your life for you.
2006-10-22 04:24:26 · answer #1 · answered by unclewill67 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to sound callous, but if you are unemployeed, get rid of the cats. There are many unexpected costs that arise with animals as well as many other maintenance costs. I think that you should definitely stay with your sister until you find a job. One thing for certain is that you should definetly not go back to the ex, unless he has an extra room that you can stay in. Of course this would be a business arrangement. Ensure that you pay him rent money and avoid any emotional contact with him, the same as you would if he were simply a business partner.
2006-10-22 10:57:11 · answer #2 · answered by zitterich138 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay at your sisters house until all of this blows over. If the storm at sea last too long then look for another boyfriend because this guy is dragging his feet too long and that means he doesn't want to leave the relationship he is in. Besides aren't those blow up beds giving you a new perspective on life? Things are not what some people blow them up to be.
2006-10-22 10:57:01 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. PDQ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your x is not responsible for you at all. so the answer to that is no. and, i think that you living at your sisters house is not that good of an idea, but you have to sleep some where.and why would you plan your life to move in with anyone before you even had a job.sounds to me that you planned on living off him. so, what are you doing to look for work? you should be up and out the door every day by 8am.and at night looking at the paper so that the following day you can go to those places that you circled in the paper. then after filling out your applications do a follow up phone call, see if they have looked at your application. then a few days after that call again, and it would not hurt to stop by those places and check on the status of your app. it sounds to me dear your just looking for a free ride.
2006-10-22 11:31:01 · answer #4 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are doing the right thing. You can work through the problems one at a time, until you find a job, and then you'll have new problems to work through. HA!
You have no business interfering with your EX and his attempts to work things out with his wife. Stay clear.
2006-10-22 15:08:29 · answer #5 · answered by delmaanna67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What ever you do "DON'T CALL THE EX"... you'll be okay. It's weird at first but you'll sort out your life, find a job, get your own place and move on. I've been exactly where you are and it's painfull as hell but I promise you if you go back with thte EX things will eventually go south again and you'll be right back where you started. Believe in yourself, it's weird at first but it will get better.
2006-10-22 10:54:10 · answer #6 · answered by kitkool 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you`ve been living with your BF already, stay with him and be independent by getting a job fast.
...or if you give him the freedom to work things out with his wife,
he may not be back, be ready to be independent.
...or it might take a while for him to be back in your arms, so, just
the same, get a job and a place of your own. be stable.
...or if he`s back in your arms already, then set your plan B
together...the 2nd episode in your life sharing & togetherness.
2006-10-22 11:12:43 · answer #7 · answered by ServantOfTheMostHigh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry to hear :*(
Well if I were in your shoes I would probably live with my Mom, as she said that we can live with her as long as we want to. Not my sis because hmm I plan to move in with a guy when I'm in my 20's and my lil Sis would be in her teens still at home with my Mom lol
Hope everything works out for you ^_^
2006-10-22 11:55:45 · answer #8 · answered by Danny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay with your sister you can find a job there and it was the right thing to do to let him resolve things with his wife that was very mature on your part
2006-10-22 11:24:06 · answer #9 · answered by animallover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would stay with my sis until i could get a place of my own.
2006-10-22 10:53:14 · answer #10 · answered by I know, I know!!!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋