The nice blokes that wanna treat me like a princess just don't appeal to me... ?????
2006-10-22 03:31:54 · 42 answers · asked by punkydorieme 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe deep down you don't want a relationship - you like the mental challenge, but don't desire the physical or committment part that's why you choose men you can't have...its safe for you. That most likely stems from childhood...you should look at that and maybe get some counseling. You deserve to be happy you just won't let yourself.
2006-10-22 03:35:23 · answer #1 · answered by totalstressor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either you have been watching too many movies with the female role doing the same or you never really liked yourself enough to know what was good for you settling on the spoiled fruit. Would you pick the ripe banana in the grocery store or go for the one with all the brown blotches on it? Pick the plump red apple or take the one on the aisle floor? You may think the ideal man is the one you have been after for years yet you won't even give the other guy a chance. Realizing a problem you have is half of the way to correcting it. Next time the nice bloke asks you out go for it he may surprise you and maybe you are the one he is searching for. Now are you the nice girl or the one he shouldn't have or can't have?
2006-10-22 03:43:54 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. PDQ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is perfectly normal and an excellent question which strikes at the very heart of human relationships, behaviour and self esteem:
We dont want the people that want us because we lack self esteem - if theyre crazy about us they must be mad or desperate or something wrong with them!
We lust after what we cant have because we are always taught from childhood to strive for our goals, reach for the skies etc.. So later on in life we look at people who liked us and wish we HAD gone with them cos there was nothing wrong with them at all.
Of course in the end we all settle for who we get but we sure tried didnt we?!!!LOL!
2006-10-22 03:37:27 · answer #3 · answered by vaivagabundo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like me honey. You like a challenge but honestly that is not good. I have been through so many relationships because I wanted a challenge and was just trying to win over a man's heart who's heart just didn't belong to me. If I did win his heart over, he wasn't the one for me anyway. You have to start now. You have to find someone who cares about you for you and who is willing to show it. I am not saying go with the first soft puppy who comes your way. I am just saying start working on this problem now. Start giving the one's you don't think you can have a hard time too. They will soon come around. Trust me. I have been there and done that. Just make sure you are ready for him when he does. You might be like me....when you get him, you are probably not going to want him anymore. It was just the challenge. Good luck to you girlfriend.....!!!
2006-10-22 03:43:02 · answer #4 · answered by deljuana1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm the word forbidden fruit rings a bell....listen we always want what we cant have, and what we have, we don't want...but if you are saying that you don't want the men who treat you like a princess are you then attracted to the guys who treat you badly?.... you probably are excited by the fact that they are a challenge...a challenge you might try to change.
2006-10-22 03:49:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's much easier to like someone that you can't have. There's no sense of rejection there. If you start out with feelings for someone that you can't have and they don't reciprocate the feelings, you don't feel rejected. Also, if it's someone you shouldn't have, when the relationship fails, you can say why you knew it would from the start for the reasons why you "shouldn't" have had him. With the nice guys, it's harder if the relationship doesn't work...you have to look at yourself harder and see if you failed in some way.
2006-10-22 03:37:07 · answer #6 · answered by Jan S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe at the moment they don't appeal to you, but I guarantee that maybe 10 years down the line of dealing with the "bad boys", all the nice guys will be gone and you will be wanting one of them. Modify your "wants". Godloveya.
2006-10-22 03:33:47 · answer #7 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One day they will!
I have known lots of ladies who always go for guys who treat them badly, but one day they realise that they value themselves and that others should value them aslo.
Date the nasty guys now and then settle with someone who really loves you. They will be sad and on their own once their looks go if they don't change their ways.
2006-10-22 03:39:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like a case of the forbidden fruit syndrome, you really need help. There are so many gorgeous men out there who are fun, adventurous, loving, respectful, kind and sexy.
2006-10-22 04:14:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you're a woman! Loads of you are like that, and have to go out with loads of idiots before they realise they'd rather have a nice guy (like me!). I'm considering starting to be a bastard just to get more girls!
2006-10-22 03:34:15 · answer #10 · answered by homiepr8 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋