She is 8. She started this about 2 months ago saying she didn't want to sleep in her own bed, she didn't want to sleep alone anymore. She is an only child.
On the rare ocassion she does actually fall asleep in her own bed, she ends up in mine at some point during the night.
I have tried threatening her, rewarding her, bribing her - nothing works.
Any ideas?
2006-10-22 03:19:16 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
First of all I don't agree that you should humiliate her. That is never good. Find out what is happening with her that might be different. At that age my daughter started having nightmares. She was worried someone was going to kill us; every noise was someone trying to get in the house etc. We started watching her TV watching for things that might be scaring her (news, scary shows etc). I also started reading to her for a half hour or so every night I was home (again watching for content. Had to stop reading Charley and the Glass Elevator- aliens were giving her nightmares). The key was the routine and the relaxation before bed. Also I work nights seven nights a month so she gets to sleep with her mother in our bed on those nights. I guess my advice is see if anything is bothering her; set up a nighttime routine; and maybe let her sleep with you one or two nights a week. Maybe Saturday night or something. Only if you do stick to the schedule or she'll back to every night again.
2006-10-22 03:38:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its gonna take a while... what your daughter is doing is finding some sort of comfort and safety around you (mother), otherwise she can't sleep. What you need to do now is let her sleep in your room but not in the same bed. Bring a small bed next yours and make her sleep there. Remember that if you push the beds together it won't count. keep distance but let her also feel your presence. Once she's comfortable with sleeping alone (takes about 2 months for a 5 year old, probably 1 month for an 8 year old) in your room, then take the next step and make her sleep in her own room.
2006-10-22 03:43:01 · answer #2 · answered by tulgovski 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's what you do. Lay her down in her bed and sit down on the floor of her bedroom. DO NOT LOOK AT HER. If she starts to cry just ignore her. Do not say anything. I know it'll hurt but you have to be strong if you want her to be a big girl and sleep in her bed. Next step, every 2 minutes, you move a little closer to the door until eventually you are out of her bedroom. She will eventually wear herself out and fall asleep. If she gets up out of bed and comes into yours just repeat. It may take a couple of days to get her to actually stay and fall asleep in her own bed but she will in fact stay and go sleep without a fuss. Hope it works for ya. Good luck.
2006-10-22 03:25:51 · answer #3 · answered by Steph 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
definite, your daughter should not be dozing together with her father, who's staring at him all night? i does not have confidence him, the devil never sleeps.... in case you have been to lease or purchase a house via 'Housing Authority,' in Texas, the couple might get a mattress room, the little ones might each and each get their very own room as in one room for a million-2 boys and one room for a million-2 women, the extra little ones you have, the extra bedrooms you get. She no longer in basic terms needs her very own mattress, she needs her very own room at Dad's place so she will lock her door at night.
2016-10-15 07:26:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pick her up, put her in her bed, and repeat.
Be consistant. There is no other way. She comes out, she goes right back in. She's far too old for this nonsense, but the technique is the same as it would be for a toddler.
She gets up, you carry her back into bed. She follows you out, up put her back in bed. She cries, let her, she yells, let her, she throws a fit all night, let her. No matter how long, no matter how many times, put her back in her bed.
2006-10-22 03:22:11 · answer #5 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you find the answer to that one let me know!!!!!!
P.S. Just putting them back in doesn't always work. My daughter is so sneaky she will wait until I go to sleep and literally sneak into the bed and I don't even know she's in there until I wake up!
2006-10-22 03:26:30 · answer #6 · answered by mommy of two! 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Humiliation always works, she is getting to the age where she is due to start having sleep overs and the such like, just say to her that her friends will tease her if they know that she sleeps in mommys bed still, and that she needs to try and learn to become a big girl, so that she can have her friends visit.
2006-10-22 03:23:24 · answer #7 · answered by Mintjulip 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
My son use to do this. But he's two! I just lay by him tell he falls asleep....takes him about 10 min. But now he got use to it all i have to do it tuck him in and turn off the lights and he's asleep! :0)
2006-10-22 03:37:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make her bedroom so inviting that she never wants to leave!
Try redecorating it in a style that she'd love with nice girlie lamps and accessories, she'll consider your room so boring that she won't bother you again.
2006-10-22 03:43:16 · answer #9 · answered by Witchywoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Duct-tape, handcuffs, and Ambien. She wont get up till you let her
2006-10-22 03:43:25 · answer #10 · answered by Redwine 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋