We moved out cause she wanted time apart, I know she loves me but I want to live with her, I know we can work it out, we just need to have space and do our own things . But she will not listen to me. I think she just wantsher money to herself. When we lived together we couldn't go on shopping sprees but we managed to save a bit of money.
2006-10-22 03:09:42 · 14 answers · asked by keithjb1075 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why wouldn't she want her money to herself? What planet are you on?
You sound like a control freak, I wouldn't live with you, either.
2006-10-22 03:13:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are begging her to move back in with you then she is less likley to do it. Give her breathing space like she asked but stay in contact and go out for a drink or even something to eat, anything to stay in contact. Eventualy she WILL realise that she can't just string you along and will make a decision, and if you know for a fact that she does love you then I wouldn't worry to much cause she will come back. Respect her wishes. But if the treu reason behind he leaving is because she doesn't want to share "her money" then she is being selfish and you should have a seriouse chat to her about it.
2006-10-22 03:16:44 · answer #2 · answered by cherri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You talk about her loving you, but what about you loving her?
Your having a hard time making it financially huh? Finally, seeing how good things were when you lived together?
My guess is she didn't want to do her own thing, she wanted you. You wanted space to do your own thing.
If this is the case, you need to learn to make it on your own. Doesn't sound like you love her at all, just love having a little money left over after the bills are paid.
2006-10-22 03:15:54 · answer #3 · answered by LucyLinnae M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her the space she needs. if you persist then the love she has for you will grow dimmer and dimmer. anyone being pushed into a relationship will retaliate and back off. talk to her once more. tell her how much you love her and want to be there for her. that you understand she needs space right now. that you are going to back off, but would like to call from time to time to see how she is.
but don't go falling into assuming her reasons. until you hear it from her.......you have no idea what is really going on for her. money may be the last thing she is thinking about. if you two seemed to be getting more serious then she was ready for she might of gotten freaked out and needed to back off to ground herself again. or.....she may love you.........but not love you the same way you love her. she realizes that she doesn't love you like she used to and needs time to figure it out.
don't go pushing her into something she is not ready for or you will lose her for sure. give her space then stick with it. don't be calling every day.....that's not space. let her call you sometimes to. meaning......give it enough time that she will take initiative on her own to talk to you. people don't react well to feeling like they are being smothered
2006-10-22 03:23:30 · answer #4 · answered by Jody SweetG 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can carry a horse to the water but u can never make him drink it.....
No matter how hard you tried if she don't want to come back she never will, jus respect her time apart and see whats happen after see if you all could work out the little hinders in your relationship
2006-10-22 03:14:38 · answer #5 · answered by tutsie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might just be in a different place maturity wise. Maybe you should give her the space she wants. She'll either realize that you're where she wants to be or grow more distant. Good luck.
2006-10-22 03:14:45 · answer #6 · answered by ncladams 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The new Mustang convertable in the driveway, the gift certificates for the better stores in town, dinner and dancing, romantic weekends away didn't help, huh?
2006-10-22 03:12:53 · answer #7 · answered by IGH3Rat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's almost like "her" money is more of your issue that wanting her back.
Sounds to me, that you had you a woman, who knows what she wants!! Can't blame her for that!!
2006-10-22 03:16:24 · answer #8 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its time to move on if she's the high maintenance type.
2006-10-22 03:19:17 · answer #9 · answered by mmmporg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
offer her commitment, maybe that's what she's waiting on,talk to her and let her know how you feel and ask her to explain to you what she sees in the long term for you both
2006-10-22 03:14:37 · answer #10 · answered by grace k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋