Looking for Some Advice. Wait before judging.?

Question

Me and my ex gf have been together for 10 months. We loved each other alot, and always spent time together, Than within the last 2 months, she started talking to other guys more, put her friends before me, Fought AGAINST me when i had an arguement with one of her friends...

I tried to treat her nicely. She still did the same thing, so I started to accuse her of cheating on me, which seemed like what was going on. Than this caused fights, than she started fighting me over stupid reasons, which lead to the breakup..

I love her and I think we brokeup over dumb reasons, but i begged her back for 3 weeks and she rejected me. Now I moved on, but still want her back. She says shes hanging out with her ex alot, and saying stuff like she kissed him or w/e. And this guy cheated on her twice, and kissed with her sister while they were going out. And I can't beleive she'd do this

Adding more details-

So today, I stopped begging, I stopped talking to her alot, and went to a club, she asked me why i went, What I did, What are you hiding from me, etc. Than When I said, Why does it matter? You had fun with your ex didn't you? Than she started to say stuff like, yeah I did, why does it matter? And I said it didn't. This is very confusing for me, Supposedly, shes going to hang out at her ex's house tomorrow again. Shes 16 and her parents are strict from what i know for 2 years of knowing her. I was 17 when i went out with her now Im 18.

What can I do to get back with her and fix our relationship..?

Thanks for any advice.

- I don't know if shes really hanging out with her ex. She told me he lives 20 minutes away, and I think she screwed up pretty badly today by telling me shes going to hang out with him and be back in 1 hour. So I don't know what kind of game shes trying to play, but it seems stupid and pointless now.

Her Ex Double Dated. He was with her and some other girl at the same time. Im pretty sure he just wants her for sex. But she's too stupid and hardheaded to realize it.

More Details- I asked her some questions- Do you still have the same feelings for me? She said yes. I asked her if she still loves me as more than a friend, she says just a little. I ask her if she cares if I go have sex with other girls She says " just a little" I ask her if she cares about me, She says yes.

I ask her if shes sexually attracted to her ex, she says yeah she is.

I ask her if she wants a relationship with him? She says she doesn't know.

All your advices are helping me thanks.

And She says we're better off as "friends" And she doubts of having a relationship with me right now. I asked her to reconsider, she said fine. So I think best thing to do is leave her alone for about a month and move on to see what she does or says.

Answer 1

WHAT? You want back with her? Dude, you're not thinking rationally...

She was all sweet and lovey dovey. She turns on you. Assuming that you were right in an argument, she doesn't show support for YOU.. She sides with her friends. (In my perfect Al Pacino imitation... "Never take sides against the family.")

DUMB reasons or not. You broke up. She thinks you are her go to guy when this bum of an ex is treating her like trash. Instead of her venting her anger over the way she was treated by her EX. She's turning that vent on YOU. Can a leopard changed his shots or a Tiger his stripes?

She's going to get cheated on again by him. Meanwhile, shes not spending time with you. You're broken up. You go to a club. She accuses you of cheating on her when she's already OUT of the relationship.

What does it matter to her if you took 6 girls home and had an orgy? You are not in a relationship with her anymore!!! How do you cheat on someone in a relationship if you're not in a relationship?

Ditch this chick all together. Find a girl that is not possessive and an emotional whack job. Give her a teddy bear with your name attached. Tell her, when your ex cheats on you AGAIN, instead of using ME as your emotional punching bag... Use this and you can put your false hugs and kisses on this object. Use things and love people, that's the way it is supposed to be done.

There are plenty of women out there looking for someone that is going to treat them nice. The sooner you move on, forgive her to keep the bitterness from eating you alive, the sooner you find someone that is going to truly love you and treat you the way you need to be treated.

Don't seek vengence on her because it will just cause you to get emotionally involved and bitterness creep back in... Let her go, man. Let her go.

Answer 2

Leave the girl alone for a while. You guys need a break from each other. The surest way to get someone to "cheat" is to start accusing them of doing it..."why shouldn't I cheat? He believes I'm doing it anyway". Obviously you're both not mature enough to carry on a one-on-one relationship. Why not date a few girls and really enjoy yourself and your youth? Just be nice to the ex. She might come around again. Godloveya.

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Answer 4

It might hurt and i know how it feels when you're this young, but you should move on. After doing so, she might realize that she really does miss you and try to get with you. Being in a relationship for 10 months (which is long to me) has it's pros and cons. One of those cons is that there isn't really a chance to evaluate how you've changed and this period away from her can really help you think about that.

Answer 5

Best advice I can offer you is to walk away from her and now.
It would never work out. She is a game player and perhaps her remarks about what goes on with her ex are only to hurt you.
Get wise gy. There are way to many nice gals out there waiting for a man. go for it find a better mate and be happy something you will never have with a gal like this. good luck ...

Answer 6

dont' go back there. i know it hurts. but what you need to do is to stop having contact with her. stop calling her and tell her to stop calling you. you are worth more then that to be played like that. plain and simple.........she's playing you. if you don't care and still want her back.....then you need to work on your self esteem. accepting any behavior from her as long as she's in your life is like being treated like a kicked dog. walk away. in time you will get over it. i guarentee it. the hurt won't last forever. use the experience to know what kind of relationship you want next time. you are doing right by taking action to move on with your life. give yourself time to heal. it will happen. but don't bounce yourself back and forth either.

Answer 7

Friendship is a tricky word. there are fake friends and real friends. friends are supposed to make you feel good about yourself.
she knows that you still love her.
i say cut all ties from her. what goes around comes around. someone is gonna hurt her.
find new friends, new hobbies, and eventually you will meet the girl of your dreams. it's gonna be so much better and then you will regret wasting so much time on this chick.

Answer 8

Even though the ex cheated on her, the bond between them is apparently stronger with him than it is with you.
Often-times, the woman/girl will go back to the ex because there are still strong emotional attachments to them that haven't ended, even though they broke up.
My best advice to you is to go on with your life, without her... I know it's easier said than done, but if you don't, then it could drag you down & keep you confused.

Answer 9

i think you should just phase ehr outta your life. there is the right person out there for all of us and i dont think she is your 'right person' she seems too immature for you a quite frankly she sounds like a b*tch. you dont deserve to be treated like that and you dont deserve to have your heart dragged around by her. by letting her go adn forgeting/not talking to ehr you are going to be helping yourself adn you will find yourself another girl adn you will look back on your relationship with this girl and think "what was i thinking, what i have now is so much better then what i had with her" adn you will be hapy. so do yourself a favor and cut her out of your life and try to have fun with someone else
good luck ;-)

Answer 10

She is treating you like crap, don't you deserve better than that?

You must be pretty young to put up with that kind of drama, most guys in your position would be thankful it's over and let the mean & manipulative ***** go.