I am 43 and my wife 34.We have two great kids aged 7 and 4 we would love another child as we enjoyed the first two soo much.Am I too old, will they still love me when i'm 64 (and they are 20)!
2006-10-22 02:50:19 · 42 answers · asked by jumbo remote 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
aww! If you want more kids..go for it! I'd say neither of you are to old! How does 'simon' know when you're going to die? Where's his crystal ball?....I was 22 when my dad died, no-one knows what's going to happen in the future!!
2006-10-22 02:52:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My dad was 52 when I was born and 58 when my brother was born. He had been married before and had grown up kids from his first marriage.
Yes, I lost him earlier than some peopel lose their parents (I was 26)
But I can tell you now that /I would never change a thing about him or ever tell anyone they are "too old" to have kids.
He was the best dad any kid could have wished for - spent loads of time taking me out and about and playing fun games, taught me to swim etc (he had been a competitive swimmer in his youth). So different from some of my friends' 20 something dads who, when they weren't at work, spent their time slobbed out on the sofa watching tv and drinking beer.
He was a WWII veteran (served in the Desert with the 8th Army, also in Malta and Monte Casino) and had loads of stories to tell us about the exciting things he'd done. My mates were so jealous. The most "exciting" thing their dads had ever done was get drunk in front of the footie on a Saturday afternoon.
My dad was retired when I was quite young so he had loads of time to spend with us.
I would never tell anyone they're too old to be a dad because I had the best dad in the world ever and he was 52 when I was born.
Incidentally, I'm 34 and having my first baby now! My partner is 24!
As for your kids still loving you when you're 64, I loved my dad right up to the day he died (at 78) and still love him even though he's no longer here. I couldn't give a damn how old he was. He was my dad and I was proud of him.
2006-10-22 07:55:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it your not that old at 43 and 64 is not that old to be a dad to a 20 year old. If you want another child go for it but take all the tests going just incase as you get older you have a higher chance of a down syndrome child. Good luck to you and your wife!
2006-10-22 02:56:19 · answer #3 · answered by jules 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how long your men in your family tend to live and how much energy you have. At 43 you are going to need your energy for them when they are in their teens. I hate to say this but you don't want your pink flamingo years to be spent chasing another rugrat. I'm in a similar situation. Older lad with a younger women, three kids (all in a row).
The wife and I have thought about another but I don't think I could take the terrible two's again and I was in my thrities then with a lot more stamina than I have now.
If you're willing to give it shot and love kids (and love your kids of course) I don't see why not. Just avoid being one of the older parents that cram ritalin down their kids throats because the parents over estimate how much energy it takes. Somehow I don't think you would though. You're not a first time parent and you know exactly what to expect. (Seems to get easier with each one, no?)
Hope this helps a bit.
2006-10-22 03:03:57 · answer #4 · answered by SpankyTClown 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your children will always love you! You are not too old at all. If you would like another I say go for it. Your wife is a fine age to have another. I am 26 and my partner is 22. We have been together for 6 yrs and have a two year old daughter. My partners parents are 45 and 63. Three years ago his mother had another baby!! She didnt even know she was pregnant! Went into hospital with pains and found she was in labour. 9 months gone! Although his Dad is more like a grandad just shows your never too old! Good luck with your decision. You have years in you yet!
2006-10-22 02:54:53 · answer #5 · answered by Teresa M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 36 and my husband is 48 we have two great kids 0f 4 and 20months so no your not too old. As long as you are a good dad why wouldn't they still love you at 64 love isn't age dependant. I still love my dad and he is 70. If you want another child go for it.
2006-10-22 07:30:02 · answer #6 · answered by zephs mummy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband was 45 when our youngest was born. He is more patient, kind, and relaxed with this one than he was with our other two. He has more time, and really likes taking care of the little guy. Go ahead have another one. As a side note I just heard that Julio Iglesia's father who is 94 has a two year old. Julio himself is in is 60s and has a young child as well. Age is relative. We can't judge how much time we have left on this earth to parent kids. Plenty of young parents die unexpectedly with young kids. You just got to do the best you can do every day.
2006-10-22 03:00:34 · answer #7 · answered by M K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my doctor told me that my husband would be too old for another child after our second was born when he was 40 because he would be putting another through college at time when he should be considering retirement. Now that child is 15 and when we finish with her college, we will be able to focus on retirement...not just the $$$ but the energy and desire to do other things. Your kids are not even into their "busy" years...just wait...it is tons of fun and fast paced but at our age now, it has been nice to slow down a bit. Would not trade those year for anything.And by the time the 15 yr old is finished with college then the older child may be having grandchildren for us to have fun with and spoil then send home, best of both worlds!
2006-10-22 03:04:49 · answer #8 · answered by Library Eyes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not to old. I'm 36 and my husband is 21. We are tying to have a child. I, at times, feel im to old, but people are having children even older. my children are 13 and 16. yours are still young. 4 yrs, im sure they would like a little sibling to play with. And as for you unborn child your thinking of having, will love you for ever. even after your passing. Children have an unconditional love for there parents. I think if you want another baby go for it. Hope all is well.
2006-10-22 03:22:08 · answer #9 · answered by Sillybeans 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No NO No again your not to old to be a dad at 34. Your a good person and father. My ex hubby is 44 and heis girl 30 and they just ha a daughter and all is well with them. So yes if you and your wife are able to have a baby i say go for it and good luck.
2006-10-22 03:02:57 · answer #10 · answered by chass_lee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are only too old if you feel you are too old to be a father to a baby. Remember all the sleepless nights and trying to keep up with a toddler? If you can still handle that, go for it.
Of course they will still love you when they grow up! My dad was 38 when I was born. Sure, he was an older parent when I was in school, but that didn't matter to anyone.
2006-10-22 02:55:37 · answer #11 · answered by dr_imzadi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋