2006-10-22 02:39:08 · 23 answers · asked by toronto27c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ooh Baby! You know I usually condone letting people know their feelings to a certain point but in this case I don't. Number one your friend is straight. Number two you might ruin a great friendship. Have you ever considered how he feels trying to be your friend and straight? Any many cases straight men do not want to be friends with another male if they are gay. They have to face the ridicule of being picked on by other friends and trying to get a date may even be harder. Do not blow your friendship unless he confesses he has some kind of likeness for you.
2006-10-22 02:51:26 · answer #1 · answered by Still_21_nheart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sort of with the pp.
If he's straight, then telling him will only make him uncomfortable. Telling anyone something like that isn't something they can just forget about after a few days - he'll always think that when being near you from then on.
If you know he's straight, and obviously your situation is not, I would deal with getting over it in your own head rather than spoiling a friendship also.
2006-10-22 02:43:34 · answer #2 · answered by TrendChick 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i myself am going threw this right now. I'm a female and my best friend [also female] told me that she is love with me. i to am straight yes it came as a shock to me but i explained to her that i was not into it. we are still best friends. but guys take it harder than women do. i don't think you should tell him, you know he is straight and that you will never have a relationship with him other than friends so why lose that. just so you know this friend of mine whom i thought was OK with the fact that i told her I'm not into that. well there is this guy she knows i like so behind my back she has been saying things to him about me to make it so he don't like me. as a matter of fact the guy wont even speak to me. so, what does this tell you. just keep what you feel to yourself.
2006-10-22 02:46:41 · answer #3 · answered by here to help 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell him... if he's straight, he won't reciprocate, and that's just gonna make things akward for the both of you. If you feel you can't be simply friends with him without crossing the line, then break off the friendship. If you really love him, you'll want what's best for him, and the emotional stress of wanting to please his friend yet not having any attraction will be too much.
...I've been through this. Trust me. Don't tell him.
2006-10-22 02:43:10 · answer #4 · answered by foundmercy 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell your friend that you had a dream about him and you getting married or something like that.. and see what his reaction is. It's easier to say that you had a dream and see what his reaction will be to the dream, than to tell him straight out that you are in love with him because dreams are not real. So just say to him "Oh man, I had the weirdest dream last night, it was about you! I dreamed that you and me got married. We had a big huge wedding. Our families all showed up and everything, man..it was a weird one!" ..Now watch for his reaction.
2006-10-22 02:44:26 · answer #5 · answered by Daft One 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ouch. That's a tough one. I am a lesbian and all I can say is if you have a crush on some one who is really straight, they will be confused if you tell them. It scares straight people. Personally, I have held my tongue and loved from afar more than once.
2006-10-22 02:41:44 · answer #6 · answered by Isis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First does he know about you? If he does and you are friends he does not want to hear it. He already knows. If you say it he has to deal with it. And you know men don't with this kind of thing well.
You need to know how he feels in general about gays and take it from there.
when you are telling stories use him and you as an example and see how he reacts.
2006-10-22 03:04:28 · answer #7 · answered by redpab 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are gay and he is straight and you are both the same gender, that will just be awkward for both of you. You might feel better for having told him, but you can't argue with anatomy--he just isn't going to want a relationship with you "that way" no matter how much he values your friendship.
2006-10-22 02:45:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think some things are better left unsaid.... but if you must..please realize it may affect your friendship.
And whatever you do... don't tell your friend on the Jenny Jones show...lol
2006-10-22 02:41:55 · answer #9 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget it......he already knows and is hoping to all mighty God you don't say a word so he can stay your friend. If by some stroke of luck he is interested at all you will know it time. Be silent.
2006-10-22 02:45:51 · answer #10 · answered by mygreensilhouette 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋