people at my work talk very offensive - how do I ignore it without being rude or isolating myself?

Answer 1

Dont react to it.Whats the point? You cant change people or tell them what to think or say,or you could just ask them casually why they speak that way? One place I worked at was very similar,I just let it go over my head and didnt let it bother me.

Answer 2

You did not say what kind of work you do, or what type of environment it is. I'll give it a shot anyway. I'm ex-military (Very easy to curse when a regular word will do.) and have been in warehouse and driving jobs where a swear word just pops out from force of habit. (When I say force of habit, it's because when we were growing up way back when, to curse was a sign of adulthood.) If you work in an office, then there is no excuse for bad language. I work in an ALF and have to be very careful about what I say if the residents can hear. My boss, a born again Christian, uses no swear words. He says "Shoot", and "Darn". Every now and then I let loose with a torrent of bad language, and he just looks at me. It's not a good look. Try that to start. If they use bad language when they speak to you, give them "the look". Ask them to repeat themselvs. Say: "I'm sorry, I didn't understand what you said after the word %#$&." (Not to use it yourself, that is.) Don't worry about being rude. If they are using offensive language, then THEY are being rude first. (Yes, I know. Two wrongs don't make a right, but you are given the chance to bring the subject up if THEY start with the foul language.) Myself, I don't care one way or the other, so take this info with a grain of salt. I curse in my parents home, and get away with it. (They also use quite inventive language from time to time.) It's a matter of principals. If you believe strongly enough, then they will treat you with respect and not use bad language.

Answer 3

I know exactly what you mean. what I usually do is try to keep in mind that first, they have a right to think what they think. Second, that their culture, upbringing, environment, and whatever is different. Third, as long as it's not directed to me, it's easier to ignore. Now, it doesn't make what is said right, and if it's particularly wrong I'll mention something. But, not only do some people not realize what is being said; they may not realize what is said could be offensive to any near. It's tough, but doable.

E.I. I don't swear (no really), but everyone else does. I tolerate it to a point unless it's towards me, blatantly not needed, or too much.

Answer 4

Have you heard of a person named Mohandas Karamchand Gandhi who walked on this earth half century back. Read about him. He did not offend any one, but freed the India from British without waging a war. Non-violence. is there any better example than this? change yourself. do not bother about the other, be concerned about yourself. when you ignore the other, when you do not go offensive - they will get tired and stop it themselves. Requires tremendous patience. Be persistent. Do not give up until you see the results. Be true to your nature. Try it. Start from today. after a few days you see that you have changed yourself first and in course of time others will change their attitude towards you. They will notice that you are enjoying thier stupidity and they are struggling to hurt you; still you are not hurt. Keep working on it, on yourself.
True path is working on yourself, not on others.

Answer 5

If it's offensive, like they are talking about sex, or something similar, you could probably tell them you are uncomfortable with these discussions, if they do continue it's harassment.

my guess is your probably not the only one who feels this way, so maybe find some of these other people, try talking to them, i think if you had a few friends who agreed with you how offensive these people are you would feel better.

Answer 6

You must be your self did not think you are strangerer only look at your self if you really very strang you must take a holiday with your friend or your family and dint be worry and go to your work and think that your are not a stranger in the work OK

Answer 7

Change the subject if you are involved in the conversation. If you are just a bystander, you will have to remove yourself from the area. But they are being rude, you will have to be a little 'rude' to cope with them.

Answer 8

Just smile and tune them out. Don't participate and they will eventually respect you. Be friendly but don't get involved in the socializing. It can be intolerable at times so just always be busy with your job.

Hopefully someone will join that workforce that thinks like you do.

Answer 9

Carry ur cellphone with u,when they start getting offensive pretend you have a call. I do this with persistent guys who wantz me but I am sure it will work in this regard as well

Answer 10

pray about this situation and maybe God will fill your space with new friends. I once started a conversation about my mother and started talking about God and I tell you people usually change their mind about being rude with God in the mix....