i mean to say on every damn little thing they have something bitter to say...........u get it....
2006-10-22 02:24:25 · 16 answers · asked by rocking arian 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your parents still view you as a little girl.
They do not know how to relate to the young adult that you are becoming. So you are going to have to teach them.
When you speak with family, speak with respect. Respond to what they say. Do not react. Take a breath, think of what you want to say and say it calmly and respectfully. You are teaching Respect. When someone says something disrespectfully to you then you can say, " I dont speak to you like that ,.......Why would you speak to me like that?" And they have to think.
Teach trust. Be where you say you are going to be when you say you are going to be there, be home on time, do homework and turn it in, maintain your living environment without prompts or reminders. This teaches Trust.
A parent's greatest fear when a child reaches for independence is that the child will not make responsible decisions for himself and end up hurt or dead. No parent ever says this, however, if you scare your parents and end up in eternal lockdown you will know this is the point of origin. Learn to make a responsible decision for yourself. Advise your self as if you were your dearest friend, and follow through.
You only have several years before you walk out that door for the last time. Do the things that gain you independence, find a job and stick with it, plan for your car and all the related lessons and expenses, start a bank account.....
If you are having conversation with your family and the conversation goes south, all you have to say is, " I can't talk about this right now." And end the conversation. Try not to get sucked into conversation that brings on misery.
Calmly and gently teach your parents about the person you are becoming. Teachers are calm, gentle, and firm in their resolve. Be the Teacher.
2006-10-22 03:02:19 · answer #1 · answered by Sunbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe if you talk to them and tell them how it is making you feel when they say the bitter things, both you and your parents could find a way for them to say what is on there minds in a more positive way. Hope this helps some.
2006-10-22 02:52:22 · answer #2 · answered by reaganaiken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they don't believe that they have done a nice job as parents, until now. Confront them with that. If they has given you their best, they have to trust YOU. Is not logical for them to SAY that from all the things they has teaching you all those years, YOU HAVE GET NOTHING. Let them know that you have learn, but sometimes, you want to make what you think that is the BEST !
Thomas The Greek
2006-10-22 03:52:18 · answer #3 · answered by kan1nas123 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents have the worst job in the world. They nag because they want the best for their kids and don't want the kids to make the same mistakes they made.
2006-10-22 02:27:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-24 22:27:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't know what you mean about the "bitter" comment; but parents usually do what they think is best for their children. All kids need discipline. When my kids (of whom are all 5 are Teens!) whine, "I'm sick of you controlling my life!" I say, "I know; you will control your life for the rest of your life....you don't get to until you graduate!" And that is it!!! Parents own their kids until they graduate high school. That is the unspoken rule of parenthood 101....!
2006-10-22 02:32:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some parents are Just Over-protective!
They project their own insecurities onto the Child(By the sounds of it..YOU!!!)
Try to avoid confrontation and take deep breaths and walk away from Potential Volatile situations!
They will either come round or back off!
2006-10-22 02:26:44 · answer #7 · answered by J. Charles 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
All parents don't nag, and yours would "nag" a lot less, if they didn't care a whit what you did or where you went.
Your attitude stinks!!!
Be thankful they care enough to stay with a brat like you. Many don't. They hit the road and do their own thing!!!
2006-10-22 08:49:56 · answer #8 · answered by delmaanna67 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They care about you
It's their job
Sometimes, you probably just don't listen
Sometimes, you probably just don't get it
They've already been where you are now
Believe it or not, they do possess wisdom
They love you
They want the best for you
They don't want to see you get hurt
They truly care about you
2006-10-22 02:32:55 · answer #9 · answered by alchemist0750 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
coz they wanna protect their chicks from any harm. so throw instructing and lecturing they are trying to make u understand what they feel and percept.
2006-10-22 02:37:41 · answer #10 · answered by rularashid 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋