I always think how can I make him happy but he just doesn't care to think how to make me happy.I need little surprise from time to time,but he is just too lazy to surprise me.
WHat should I do about a bf like that?I talked to him but it doesn't work.
2006-10-22 01:59:52 · 17 answers · asked by angela 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
accept it or leave.
forcing anyone do what you want is futile. you can express what you want. it sounds like you did that already. and if that doesn't work and you still persist, then it goes into forcing them to do it. and myself, i would not want to force anyone, cause then its not coming from their hearts.
if this is something you can't live with out then leave. but stop and look at what you do like and what he does do to contribute to the relationship. for example, working to help with bills, starting dinner.
i would also try to make your own outlook on it different. you say that he's lazy and won't do what you want to make you happy. maybe you can see it as, he doesnt' like to suprize me or do little things that i know will make me happier. instead of breeding a negative feeling try to turn it around to a positive outlook at least.
make you happy.......so.......the question that it comes down to is.......are you happy? you need to ask yourself are you happy with the way things are if they never change. can you accept him.
you do things for him to please him, do it from your heart and not expecting something in return........ie: him doing likewise.
2006-10-22 02:08:34 · answer #1 · answered by Jody SweetG 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is too lazy to even try to make you happy, he certainly doesnt care at all about you! wake up girl! you deserve better! and dont think that he will eventually change. he won't. what should you do about a bf like that? -- dump him and move on! i should know. i really believed he was something else, that the relationship will grow. staying in the relationship was the stupidest thing i have ever done. he never changed. you asked this question, so -- listen to all the answers given to you here.
2006-10-22 09:20:45 · answer #2 · answered by edit s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are 6 billion people in the world. Why compromise? Give goofball a hug and tell him you wish him the best....then move on! Life is too short to try to work with something like this.
2006-10-22 09:04:39 · answer #3 · answered by tiffany_willis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do the same to him.. Ignore him and show him how it is to be ignored and left out.. If you give him everything he needs and likes then he's happy with it so he doesnt bother to make you feel happy back because you already do what he wants you to ..
Dont be mean to him just do the mirror game :P when he realises how you feel Im sure he'll change,if he loves you that is. =D
Good luck
2006-10-22 09:06:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yawn, this is so boring.....
stop giving 150% ... If he isn't interested in making you happy now, what do you think is in store for you later on ...
If you accept his behaviour and don't do something you will hate yourself...
One sided relatinships don't work.
Pull the rug out from under his butt.... if he yawns and rolls over, honey it is time for a new dawg.....
2006-10-22 09:08:00 · answer #5 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to go in agreement with everyone on this.
Get rid of him. I mean, you've already talked to him about it and nothing has changed. Tell him that his laziness is making your relationship incredibly dull and you feel like you have nothing to look forward to.
If he doesn't want to try, then tell him you're done.
2006-10-22 09:11:43 · answer #6 · answered by apinkfreak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up with him...life is too short to be with someone who doesn't make you happy! God knows I spent 4 years in my early 20's w/a LOSER... I can NEVER get those years back...what a waste!
2006-10-22 09:03:45 · answer #7 · answered by i_love_my_mp 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG, I know exactly how you feel. It's horrible.
No he won't change and you will continue to resent it, and over time, feel even MORE miserable.
Now is the time to cut your losses and move on to find a guy who will be more considerate of your wants and needs.
Good luck.
2006-10-22 09:08:45 · answer #8 · answered by Patricia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he doesn`t love you, he is with u for the sake of being wiht you only .......just a time pass company nothing else
just avoid him for few days and then see the reaction if stil the same find somebody else
2006-10-22 09:47:20 · answer #9 · answered by may_minu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if hes to lazy to think I hate to think what else hes to lazy to do,, KICK His LAZY *** to the Curb
2006-10-22 11:55:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋