I am 21 years old and have had 4 or 5 boyfriend in my life. I feel I am attractive, and pleasent to be around. I have a good sence of humor and am fun. I have a great job and am independent. I dont understand why I cant get a boyfriend. I feel like men do not even look my way or are interested in me at all. I seem to be the friend and never the girlfriend. Does anyone have any suggestions or ways to help me out?
Thanks
Jen.
2006-10-22 01:59:16 · 21 answers · asked by cherry_girl4u_85 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh you will.
2006-10-22 02:00:56 · answer #1 · answered by bor_rabnud 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although it must be really frustating for you, it's actually a very good thing that you can be friends with guys. At least that shows they find you nice to be around and approachable. Have you had feelings for guys that only want to be friends with you? Have you told them directly that you're interested in being more than friends? If not they might not realise that you're interested in anything else. If you do tell them and they just aren't interested, you're probably just very unlucky. It sounds like you value people really well and you don't want to jump into a relationship with just anyone which is a great quality but will mean that you don't see as many men to date as other people do Perhaps you should try just upping your approach a bit more and making it clear you're interested in men as potential boyfriends. But try not to woryr about it too much as you can guarentee a guy will come along the moment you stop looking for him!
2006-10-22 09:05:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I know what your saying,, I am usually the friend and never the BF in the last number yrs,, its not a real confidence booster, but the thing I would say,, DONT worry or put so much thought into it,, all in due time, your still young and from what you said attractive, join a social organization, or a church to meet guys, but just remember - Guys will tell you WHATEVER you want to hear if they think theres a chance they can get into your pants, Approach with caution, Really watch their body language, and dont be afraid to question them about past or present relationships, they may be involved and swear to you they are single, Good Luck, Or Better yet, if you like older guys, Would you consider relocating to west coast, ? lol
2006-10-22 11:39:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Jen, I'm 23 year old male and the way it sounds is your to into yourself. Has anyone ever told you that before? Personally, I've had about maybe 3 serious relationships including the one I'm in right now. You gotta let them know your interested in them. When I'm with someone is when every girl wants me and when I don't have a g/f they don't even know I'm around. Let a guy know you want to be more than just friends.
2006-10-22 09:05:31 · answer #4 · answered by josh l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys have a huge ego and are afraid of women who, they feel, can challenge them intellectually. the truth is, you are an independent woman who is capable of thinking for herself. that is a very commendable trait, but guys want someone who can look at them with wide eyes and keep praising them, no matter how dorky the guy is-u getin my point?
so u have two options in front of you- either act stupid next time u wanna attract a guy and be dumb, anf u'l;l get a guy who thinks he's the king of the world and u r his maid-of-honor
the second option is- bee your self, stay true to your character, and it may take time, but you;ll attract a like-minded guy who can appreciate the fact that you are what you are, and is confident enough in his manliness that he does not get challenged by your independent streak .now THAT is what a real guy is.
2006-10-22 09:04:58 · answer #5 · answered by thehelper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are attractive to you.. but are you attractive to men in general? There are certain physical aspects of a woman that are by nature.. strong attractants. Have you considered dressing provocatively? I'm not saying that you should loosen the second button on your blouse. I'm talking.. lengthen the hair, and shorten the skirt .. and wear heels baby!! Go all out. Don't do it half-assed.
2006-10-22 09:15:13 · answer #6 · answered by Art 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it's just not the time for you to find your "Prince Charming" yet. You need to be confident with yourself & patient. Men like a confident woman. If you're not confident how can you attract guys? Try mix with more people by joining clubs or outdoor activities to get know more guys. Good luck!
2006-10-22 09:04:25 · answer #7 · answered by CM C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hm...maybe you re too perfect for them and they scare to come close to you. I suggest you to if you like a boy..who is ur friend...stay close to him...try to be more close..be more than a "just" a girlfriend but less than a steady...and then observe his behaviours....Try to meet with new people...maybe the guys around u really accepted u as a "just" a friend...or...maybe u have something missing ask your friends advices...(not only girls but also boys) ask them whats wrong with you.....And maybe you re looking someone similar and these days its not easy to find the perfect similarity guys.........someone who is MR.right may have the less social properties or living standarts...dont judge guys in the first sight...dont be prejudiced.....good luck!
2006-10-22 09:07:24 · answer #8 · answered by SvartSjel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too get a better judgement of yourself, why don't you ask your girlfriends and tell them to be honest with you, i would have to be around you to give you some suggestions, it could be a number of things.
2006-10-22 09:04:57 · answer #9 · answered by usay01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are intimidated by you! My mom always used to say that...but it's true, you'll find a good STRONG man when the time is right, so just enjoy being young and unattached while you can!
2006-10-22 09:01:40 · answer #10 · answered by i_love_my_mp 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi there, saw your post on yahoo answers reg getg a BF. Would you like to be friends with me? My name is Tom from Asia. Do add me on bh37bh37@yahoo.com or bh37bh37@hotmail.com so that we can chat. Your Prospective Friend, tom. xxx
2006-10-22 09:54:46 · answer #11 · answered by bh37bh37 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋