and now attend one of the Historically Black Colleges in the south ... the Asian males are not included in any of the social activities during this weekends homecoming events&we are treated like outsiders/foreigners ... I see the Black guys with Black girls&White girls&Asian girls (there are a few on campus) and Black girls with Black guys&White guys ... and the Asian guys are alone or with other Asian guys ... I dont want to turn to being gay &my wrist is getting tired(now yall know why Asian guys are the best at wrist sports like pingpong&pool:) ... how can I get a girlfriend like my Black&White male counterparts?... when I turn on the tv for role models so that I can get inspiration and imitate thier behaviors, I dont see any Asian guys! ... except if they are some kungfu fool or delivering Chinese food to Martin&being made fun of ... I keep on striking out with girls ... can anyone give me some tips?
2006-10-22 01:43:48 · 16 answers · asked by strongchin1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Okay, I can only speak from what I have seen. Yes you are right, I don't see many Asians around on t.v. or in public. However, that is mostly because you guys only make up 8% of the population. That is almost half of the black and Hispanic population that is round 12%. Tyrese the famous model/actor is considered hot and he is mixed with Asian. Many black people i know consider other races to be better because they have 'nice' hair. Let me tell you that a black women would love to have your child because it would come out pretty and have 'good' hair. Also, you guys are higher on the race pole than us. Yes, white is the majority therefor the ones we see on t.v. all of the time. But blacks are and will always be on the bottom. Maybe if you tried hitting on some black women then you would see that they will easily date you. The only reason they might not is because they like to stick with their own kind because they feel comfortable and safe that way. My boyfriend always calls me a ****** and it hurts me. He is white and there is always that feeling of inferiority when I'm with him. Still, I have no problem and really actually want to date an Asian guy. I really like you guys because you're so cool! I only worry about the size thing... But other than that, I wish that Asian guy at school would hit on me, you guys should be more friendly instead of sticking to yourselves.
2006-10-22 06:23:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
As an Asian guy, I have to say its all in the mind cos I never had this problem but youre seeing it in a live situation so you know better than I do.
The only thing I will say is Asians as a community tend to stick to their own race and do not integrate as easily as other races, I think its the language and culture thing. In turn other people dont think an Asian guy/girl would be interested in them and are just looking for a bit of fun until they get married to one of their own race, this makes the girl feel like shes just a substitute or stand in for what youre really after i.e. not a girlfriend but just being used for a good time.
My advice is to be friendly, genuine, sincere and relaxed - if you come across as deperate you will get nowhere. Never approach any girl unless she is giving you lots of eye contact, otherwise you will just embarrass yourself.
Make an effort to mix socially with others and be part of their group - you dont have to be invited to these social events, just show up and be friendly, that will send a message that youre just the same as any other guys.
Good luck and dont accept stereotyping or it will consume you.
2006-10-22 01:54:23 · answer #2 · answered by vaivagabundo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hahaha, I see that eveytime whilst i pass out to 30s or above bars yet whilst i pass to varsity it incredibly is a diverse tale, I see asian women with avrg white men and vice versa. I in basic terms see asian woman with grotesque white men interior the older technology. i assume they choose somebody diverse this time around, of their techniques it incredibly is. no rely what coloration, each and every person human beings has a similar traits once you're look closer.
2016-10-15 07:23:19 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is wrong with these people!? Heh, I personally can't see how the average Asian guy would NOT be better looking than Brad Pitt. The world is so white-centric it's crazy.
And that's just on the level of appearances, too....>.>
2006-10-22 06:25:29 · answer #4 · answered by l868686l 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are trying too hard to find someone!!! Just be yourself,and believe me,someone will come around who will care about you,and it won't matter what race or culture you are from. There are people out there that none of that matters to them,so just hang in there,and don't try so hard! Finding the right person takes time,but you shouldn't have to work at it. Enjoy your life now and your friends,and one day your soul-mate will be standing beside you!
2006-10-22 01:53:08 · answer #5 · answered by roses are red 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i am a black american female so i would say be confident don't try to be something you are not. not all black people isolate different folks like that maybe they don't know what to say to you show that you are interested in the activities avalible and if you are overlooked then say something like "oh i can't come along oh that's mess up"trust me they will respect you for it. sometimes i get very shy also if you really want to be apart of everything show intrest you are a student also that is a very common ground you all have.
2006-10-22 02:01:10 · answer #6 · answered by kittywiz28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u know what i have the same question... why are all the asian guys on TV always made fun at and are made to be so funny!
we need to have some Brad Pitt asian guys on TV!
we need to have somekind of role model!
2006-10-22 01:56:11 · answer #7 · answered by mauiwaui16 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It's all about getting involved and seeing your self as one of them. Don't think just because you are Asian, that you are seen as a outsider. There are cool Asians too, its just a matter of how you force your self to fit in.
2006-10-22 01:49:06 · answer #8 · answered by J B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
easy, just take it easy
I m 20 now and I m still waiting for her. I m proud being an Asian, and I always have my national flag hangin on the wall.
2006-10-22 21:12:37 · answer #9 · answered by LB James 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
be confident gotta get out there and try you just can not sit back and wait for the girl to come to you. Its a dog eat dog world.
2006-10-22 02:22:15 · answer #10 · answered by krazeetingtong 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋