Could you be friend's with someone who'd had an bortion? Would it change how you felt about her?

Question

An abortion, is what I meant, obviously...

Answer 1

My sister had an abortion when she was about 15. What you have to realize is that our dad sexually abused both of my sisters from a young age and they had low self esteem. I think she was looking for someone to love and got pregnant as a result. I feel sorry for her that it had to happen that way but she was in no way ready to handle the responsibility of raising a child. She still regrets it somewhat to this day. She has 2 beautiful children but she miscarried one in between. She thinks God was punishing her for the one she aborted. I think that is sad. The reasons and rational behind why the abortion took place would color how I felt about it. Not every thing is black and white like most people would like it to be.

Answer 2

Yes, I would continue to support her to her dying day. What she did was NOT a sin, nor was it immoral in ANY way. It is her body, & she can do whatever she feels necessary to protect it, whether her health was in danger or not. It is not my place to judge.

She is a woman, & only SHE has a right to decide whether or not she is responsible enough to raise a child or not, & if she doesn't feel that she's ready for that kind of resopnsibility, then I would be proud of her for being brave enough to accept it & have the abortion, rather than fall to the media pressure for ALL women to be single mothers & not have futures or jobs or lifes of thier own & give birth to a child that she cannot raise or even love, just so she can look like a good person to all the self-serving Evangelicals who think that abortion is murder. It's not. Murder is killing a living, breathing, walking human being. A fetus is NOT a human being. End of descussion.

I accept people from ALL walks of life, regardless of thir pasts or even futures, because deep down inside, EVERYONE is a Human Being & EVERYONE deserves to be loved. I myself have sinned as well, & therefore have ABSOLUTELY NO room to EVER judge another Human Being. Only the Deciding God has that power; be it Christ, or Buddah, or Allah or even Hindu. It doesn't matter. I am not either of them, so it is not my place to decide thier destiny.

Amen.

P.S: Whoever gave me thumbs down obviously was not paying attention to what I wrote, & passed judgement before he/she gave peace a chance. These are the kind of people that go against everything I am standing for. But since I am not the Deciding God, I am not inclined to judge them back. I only ask that they read what I wrote completely before passing judgement on me again.

Amen *☺*.

Answer 3

a true friend forgives a friend
that is what friends are for
god knows what is in her heart ,he was beside her all the time
a friend stays a friend ,loyal and true
we are all of gods grace able to be forgiven
there are enough that seek to blame
a friend need not have told you ,because she trusted you she did
were you at the lowest time in your life would you be rejected or be made to feel evil ,certainly not
she did not do that she did lightly nor of spite or of evil intent ,god loves us equally ,give to your friend the love and support to overvcome this horible experience ,the child is with love waiting for when she is ready ,she now has to wait ,thats going to be hard without a friend ,would you add to her burden?
dont be a faulse friend
she honestly felt no other choice made sense
your rejection would hurt more than anything else
friends are chosen
many are called few are chosen

Answer 4

Although I am and always have been pro-life, yes I could and would be a friend to someone who has had an abortion. It's a decision one makes and regardless if some view it as a sin does not change my spiritualism. Did Christ himself not love the thieves, prostitutes, drunks, murderer's? One without sin cast the 1st stone (it won't be me, done my fair share).

Answer 5

I'm already friends with several women who have had abortions before they became Christians. They went through a period of guilt and sorrow but they turned to Jesus and now they have healing and the hope that their aborted babies, while missing out on having a full life are not dead forever but with the Lord in Heaven.

"But when David saw that his servants were whispering together, David understood that the child was dead. And David said to his servants, "Is the child dead?" They said, "He is dead." Then David arose from the earth and washed and anointed himself and changed his clothes. And he went into the house of the LORD and worshiped. He then went to his own house. And when he asked, they set food before him, and he ate. Then his servants said to him, "What is this thing that you have done? You fasted and wept for the child while he was alive; but when the child died, you arose and ate food." He said, "While the child was still alive, I fasted and wept, for I said, 'Who knows whether the LORD will be gracious to me, that the child may live?' But now he is dead. Why should I fast? Can I bring him back again? I shall go to him, but he will not return to me." 2 Samuel 12:19-23

Answer 6

I have had one myself - it's not an easy thing to go through. The friends who I told had nothing but the greatest support for me. I know how lucky I am in the people who care about me.

Any woman has the right to make her own choices for her body and her life. Bad mistakes can happen - you shouldn't condemn a friend for taking control and if you care about her, you should want her to be happy, regardless of what some people may consider to be 'right'.

Take Care

Lx

Answer 7

I think that unless you have walked in someone's shoes, it's not a good idea to sit in judgement of that person. While your position on abortion may be different from what she chose to do, it doesn't make you superior. Would Christ have felt differently about her? Remember, he befriended Mary Magdalene- a prostitute. Take your cues from Jesus!

Answer 8

A woman that has an abortion generally has no problem getting Christian friends.
However, some who call themselves Christians and are not, fail to be friends when Jesus would have demanded them to befriend another human.
Some women pray to God about abortion and are told to abort. To fail to support such women is unchristian.

Answer 9

Get real, an abortion is a personal matter. The person who had it is the one who needs pity, not you. Be a friend and say a prayer for her and hope that she is truly sorry and will be forgiven for her transgressions....

Answer 10

Honestly, it would depend on the reason. If she had to do it to save her life, I would feel terrible for her and support her, but if it was for other reasons...I honestly think it would change how I felt about her. I would still be her friend, but there would be a negative aspect that hadn't been there before.