i hate how my mom is so controlling about everything, what 2 do??

Question

like when who and how i date
when i can go on the computer
when i have 2 do hw
and more

Answer 1

would your mom be a mom unless this was the case?

would you really want her to say, "go out with who you want, what do i care"

"or stay up all night on the computer and ignore your education, homework sucks, do it later"

Moms nag about things we already know we should do. They just love us so much, they volunteer to take the blame of reminding us, so we dont feel angry at ourselves

Answer 2

Sounds like your Mom LOVES you very much. Most Moms love their children with all their hearts and nothing can change that. She knows what this world is like and she is trying to protect you from all kinds of things. There is nothing she would not do for you to protect from harm. Obviously you must be a teenager. When you get older and have children of your own you will truly understand. You probably think she is just being mean and does not want you to do anything or go anywhere. All she really wants is for you to be happy and take the right road. Just try to deal with it and in the long run you will understand WHY. They say you don't know what you have until you lose it. Think about this. There are many kids in this world who would love what you have. Some don't have Moms or Dads to help them, be there for them and Love them. You are a very lucky. Please think about this and don't do anything stupid. Maybe you can sit down with your mom and listen to her, maybe she is a little to strict but believe me it is because she love you so much. Hate is a very strong word. How would you feel if you did not have your mom around anymore? Believe me you would miss her more than you know. Try to work it out. You only have a little longer to deal with this and then you can do what you want and hopefully by then you will realize WHY your mom is doing what she is doing. Best of Luck . Take care.

Answer 3

Your mom is so controlling because that's a mom's job, controller. Look the word up. Until you're on your own, that's just the way it be's. You think that's something--you just wait until you get a job in the real world--then you'll see what controlling is. Your employer will say, dress like this, report for work at this time, come back from lunch at this time, have this work/report done by this time, no you cannot have the day off, no you can't leave work early today, no I am not tolerating lip from an subordinate, no you cannot use the computer Internet, no you cannot have personal phone calls and so on and so on and so on. Whether you know it or not, you are in training for adulthood. And looks like your mom's a caring trainer who's on her J O B.

Answer 4

If you are a young woman or child, and still in school then you may hate her being so controlling, however, she is doing you a huge favor. Believe me, it is better to have someone who loves you and cares what you are doing. then to grow up without guidance. If you are old enough to be on your own, then move out and you will not have to abide by her rules. However, if you are not yet old enough, just have some patience, all children and young adults go through this at some point if they have a caring and loving parent. She is doing this to ensure that you are making good choices and left to your own devices you will make far more mistakes. She is doing her job as a good parent. Be a little more patient and understanding. And truly be grateful that she loves you and cares enough to be so concerned. Many children and young adults are growing up with parents who are absent from their lives. That is far worse. Trust me. Good luck and God bless

Answer 5

Your didn't give me your age so it's tough to answer your question. I would assume you are somewhere in your middle teens. Please, please, listen to your mom about the dating. I know this must sound weird to you but she is older and has gone through dating and knows the signs. Most moms can look at a guy and know just by a feeling that their daughter shouldn't be with them. I was in a local college and lived at home and the guys still came to the door. I dated all different kinds of guys, it didn't matter if they were preppie or motor cycle guys as long as I liked them..of course mom's preferred preppies. Well this preppie came to pick me up and met mom, she asked me to come into the kitchen, first clue, she gave me some extra change, in those days we didn't have cell phones, and said take this and if you need to call me. That's all she said. I didn't have to call her but I made him take me home after one hour..I won't go into that. The same with the computer, listen to her. If you want to know what happened to my daughter because of the computer and you can get my addy please feel free to email me. LISTEN TO YOUR MOM. I know you don't want to but she's doing all this because she loves you and wants to protect you.

Answer 6

I am a father of a 14 year old. I also grew up in a "strict" household where I was monitored pretty closely and had very little opportunity to socialize.

I took on 2 summer jobs at 16 to get out of the house and meet people. But I also made sure I didn't do anything stupid like get a girl pregnant. Thank God my parents were strict on me. They helped to make me understand that self-discipline is key to not getting into trouble. I love how kids today get into trouble and blame their parent(s) because they weren't there for them. Yet, your statement is so much like other teens today. Which one do you want?? "Controlling" or "leave me alone"??

I do know this, if you are a mature individual, I would let you have some freedom to demonstrate your adulthood skills in dealing with life. That is only acceptable. But I would also provide limits to which you could go before I step in to prevent you from harming yourself or others. There are too darn many shootings in schools today. So, you would not carry a gun, knife or other weapon to school. But if you wanted to target shoot, I would accompany you to a shooting range for lessons on how to handle a weapon correctly.

I would offer to let you have your own computer but have the right to monitor or block any website that is inappropriate in my home. (Newsflash: I am not a Christian Conservative so you may be surprised on what I find "offensive").

You don't have any choice on HW since that is how you will improve your opportunities in life. What do you want to do with your life.....work at frickin McDonald's for a career? That's great but no one gets rich there except the owner. (that's a fact jack)

Who you date should be somewhat flexible but you need some controls in place like not dating a twenty something male who has one thing on his mind (and it ain't studying together). What happens when he knocks you up and gets the good news??? (He walks and you are stuck with being a single parent on welfare). I don't mind helping out the children of welfare situations with healthcare or schooling, but I for one am sick to death with paying for other people's mistakes.

Talk to your mom. But more importantly, show her through your actions, that you can be treated like an adult. If she doesn't listen, then seek some counseling from your school, minister or other TRUSTED adult. No not the forty year old father of your best friend, either. They can help you deal with your feelings.

If your mother is raising you on her own, that is not a bad thing. Take that and learn something from it. It is not easy at all!! For all of those girls who want a baby in HS, they often forget how much they give up to raise a child. Better yet, they find themselves in this position except they are the subject of the discussion started by the child they busted their hump for just like you.

This is intended to make you "think", not just to lecture you. I hope you find some peace in your life so you don't end up on Springer fighting your boyfriend's other lover! :)

Answer 7

Your Mom loves you that is why she does these things, because if she does not, why should she care about who you go out with or what you do. She wants the best for you. I too, felt that way when i was younger, but now that i am a mother , i understand her now. I am exactly doing to my daughter what my mother did to me, then. Take heed of my advice, put in mind that she does these things because she cares a lot for you.

Answer 8

You don't say how old you are. This is your mom's job, her responsibility. Yours is to do all these things so she doesn't have to tell you. Show some maturity and that she can have more trust in you because you have shown her that you are worthy of her trust. Grow up and take some initiative. Don't always make it a battle, it doesn't have to be. I'm sure she has other things to do in her life than to babysit you and to make your life miserable.

Answer 9

Your poor mom!!!

She's pouring out her love on you, and you are too much of a brat to realize it.

Would you rather she didn't care about you and just turned you loose on heartbreak road to see how fast you could destroy yourself?

Grow up and quit being a brat!!!

Be thankful you have a mom who really cares. Many a young lady would love to trade places with you.

Answer 10

She is responsible for you and your actions. It's also her house. Unless you want to live in a cardboard box, just comply, when your 18...go. When you have children, you will do exactly the same thing, or chance losing your children to preditors.