ok so last night me and one of my roommates friends were at my house. She went to take a nap and left her kids with my roommate roommates son who is about the same age( two of the kids are 2yrs old and one is 4). I was in and out their room checking on them when i didnt go check on them for about 20 min the 4 yr old came and got me saying that the 2 2 yr olds were in the bed naked and touching each other. I hurried to the room and when i got ther the boy had the girl in the "doggy style" position. Now i dont know what his mom has exposed him to but i found this to be very inappropiate and seperated them and made them put on clothes to cover theirselves. Is this normal for 2 yr olds to do? How do you handle the situation? How do you explain this to the parents? I need answers fast please help.
2006-10-22 00:44:33 · 15 answers · asked by crystalyn129 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Just tell the parents what happened .children will mimic what they see.This was not a sexual thing for them.This is something that they have seen done.My husband is fond of patting me on the rear end. He will walk past me when I am bent over picking stuff up or what ever,and do this or when he is hugging me.Now we did not think any thing of this as it is not overly sexually just affection.That is until my son who had seen his dad do this many times started to do it. We are now a little more careful with what we let them see us do.
2006-10-22 05:23:15 · answer #1 · answered by blue_eyed_brat78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least one of the 3 children has been exposed to sexual behavior of and all the parents need to be made aware of the situation so they can all take appropriate action...
Don't assume it was one child over another it could have been any of the three children who had the idea... Yes even the 4 yr old direction the younger two...
Don't assume the child learned the behavior from a parent it could have been learned from another care giver, family member etc.
When you tell them be very clinical tell exactly what you saw and explain that you had the kids immediate get dressed.. Don't dress it up with feelings and such just tell the story straight out facts.. Don't accuse anyone of anything just facts...
All the parents need to know so they can take appropriate actions...
If you learn later exactly which child was the one with the idea you can contact social services if appropriate action is not being taken... Just dont jump the gun now take it slow by first telling the parents... Then if action isnt taken contact social services for the welfare of the children.. Parents don't always know thier child has been exposed to something and telling them first could lead to appropriate action...
2006-10-22 01:01:04 · answer #2 · answered by Diane (PFLAG) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Handle it delicately, immediately. Don't jump on the parent (I don't know what you've been teaching him). Try I'm not sure where this behavior came from, but we need to act fast to correct it. This is not normal behavior for a two year old or any child for that matter. Handle it now before someone ends up pregnant at 12.
2006-10-22 13:39:53 · answer #3 · answered by laedeb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing but I would not rush to the idea that children never do anything that they have not seen done. Kids can get quite inventive on their own. My daughters were found licking each other at a very early age. They had never seen anything like that. They never did it again. And to the best of my observation it did them no lasting harm.
2006-10-22 00:56:13 · answer #4 · answered by oldhippypaul 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course the child would have seen this ,the problem is a child shouldnt be witnessing this type of behaviour let alone copying it.I suggest you tell the parents what you saw and then decide whether the matter needs to be taken further. Kids should be allowed toreamin innocent this is a form of abuse.
2006-10-22 00:54:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a 2 yr old & she has never done that with any of her friends! I would tell the parents, if they laugh it may indicate they know the child has seen this, I would be horrified if a friend of mine told me that so if they are shocked it might be they knew nothing about that behaviour!
2006-10-22 06:40:32 · answer #6 · answered by C Greene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the parents what happened. Also tell them of your concerns about the 2 yr old being exposed too this. He had too see someone doing this, his parents..or someone else. The parents need too know.
2006-10-22 06:44:54 · answer #7 · answered by Rose T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No this is NOT normal you need to tell there parents what happened either they seen mommy and daddy doing this or another family memeber or they have been taught to do this it's not a good thing talk to the parents right away.
2006-10-22 02:06:20 · answer #8 · answered by blood_shadow_walks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG... I would have to say that they have some very irresponsible adults around them (not you LOL) I would've made them put their clothes on too, and asked where they got it from and tell them that those actions were not appropriate (word it differently of course.) Then of course, tell the parents. They need to know that the porn needs to stay up or the bedroom door locked.
2006-10-22 00:51:08 · answer #9 · answered by mizzgov_08 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-15 07:22:30 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋