That girl has been at the same place with my boyfriend for sometime and then she recognized that she loves him. She knew my existence then, and now, she knows me personallay also. My boyfriend always shows her that he loves me, but she will never stop calling, mailing, meeting him. My boyfriend also doesnt stop her doing that, he finds her fragile and sympathetic, because she is much younger. How can i keep her away from our relationship??
2006-10-21 23:57:09 · 19 answers · asked by loulou 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Get busy and find her a boyfriend. Get your boyfriend to help. He is enjoying the attention and encouraging her just enough to keep her hanging on, and having to help find someone for her will put an end to this.
Good luck!
2006-10-22 00:00:48 · answer #1 · answered by nora22000 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but you can't keep her away from your relationship. Only your boyfriend can do that and it seems that he is enjoying the attention he's receiving from this other girl. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you, but maybe he likes the idea of you both being in competition for his attention. If you could do it, try to include her in your circle of friends and show him and her that her attention doesn't bother you. That's the only reason she persists, hoping she can drive a wedge between you both. However, your boyfriend must discourage her and stop playing her game. Prehaps you need to take a good look at him. GoodLuck.
2006-10-22 00:04:09 · answer #2 · answered by hayden 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm... I had a problem like that once. I left because I did'nt like feeling second. If your boyfriend is too concerned about her feelings and not yours (by not telling her to back off) than maybe you shouldn't even be asking this question. Maybe the question you should be asking yourself is> How high are my expectations, and standards are for myself? Do I really deserve for MY BOYFRIEND to set my feelings aside, and put someone else's first? Young or not, if the female had any RESPECT for you, she would have backed off on her own! Why wait for the situation to escalate, NIP IT IN THE BUD! Get a quick resolve, or move on the the NEXT BOYFRIEND!
2006-10-22 00:10:11 · answer #3 · answered by wherenai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
any insecurity that you might show can serve as a form of flattery to your boyfriend. By showing him unconditional trust you'll necessarily deny him the gratification of seeing you jealous, thus making this girl less appealing - most importantly making you more appealing.
I know, I've been the 'boyfriend' enjoying the insecurity that 'girlfriend' flatters me with in that situation.
I might just find the distracting girl more attractive knowing that you despise her. Yes, I suppose that it sick, but you should find out from me rather than trial and error.
Security is sexy. Show me insecurity and you might just empower me to run away with your heart. But, what do I know? I'm sure he's loyal.
2006-10-22 00:07:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay cool or at least pretend, because if you act jealous or worried, your bf's impression of you may alter. You are the lady, you have all his love, so be confident! Boys always love confident ladies no matter younger or older. Charm him. Seduce him. Be a Cleopatra. She can't beat you by just acting like that. Sounds like she's just an annoying little squirrel ;D
Lots of Luck xx
2006-10-22 00:02:26 · answer #5 · answered by Serenata 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's up to your boyfriend to keep her away from him. Sounds like he is enjoying her attention. Let him know exactly how you feel. It comes down to trust in him. If another girl could take him away from you then he was never truly yours. I have been in your shoes before and it didn't feel comfortable to be in that situation. We broke up because I had enough of it.
2006-10-22 00:08:44 · answer #6 · answered by Bazinga 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriendloves you, then no need to worry. These types of problems are temporoaray. If there are risks, ( eg, you are unsure that your bf loves you) then handle this situation diplomatically like, avoid meeting with her. Become a bit angry on your bf, when he mentions her, and love him a lot. It is only love, which will save your your relationship.
Wish you good luck......
2006-10-22 00:03:52 · answer #7 · answered by Sabyasachi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her to buzz off if she's not one of your friend of course. you can't let this girl come in outa nowhere and steal ur man away from you, your better than that arn't u? find ur boyfriends side of the story aswell and his relations with her. after a while she should go away, but if not than she's more pathetic than she sounds and your boyfriend won't want her, neither would any1 else. just hang in there and she'll just burry her hole in the ground even deeper.
2006-10-22 00:01:35 · answer #8 · answered by flaming_ichigo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot keep her away hon, it would smack of jealousy on your part. Only your boyfriend can do that! And he sounds to me as he is not 'fair dinkum' with your relationship. If he were, he would politely tell her that it's hurting his relationship with you, and could she cool it or back off a bit! Or!!! You cool it with the boyfriend! until he realises how hurt full it is to you, and stops seeing her. I hope it works out for you hon.
2006-10-22 00:17:39 · answer #9 · answered by wheeliebin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't. I would trust your boyfriend enough to let him handle it. Moreso, jealousy has more often bred infidelity than anything else in a relationship. The more you mandate that she leaves, the worse you'll look.
2006-10-21 23:59:26 · answer #10 · answered by Seraphim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋