The guy that I'm dating and I had a little mis understanding and I ended up telling him that I'm starting to lose my patients! I think he may have taken it the wrong way and so he called me back and says, "well I need you to leave me alone for a little while and I tried to explain the situation and he didn't even try to listen and understand. He's never like this, I know he's going through some problems right now in his life. He's always been an easy-going guy and doesn't get upset that easy. When I asked him why and what did I do he said nothing I just need you to leave me alone for awhile, it's not you, I just need you to do that, okay!? I'm afraid he's going tp tell me later that he doesn't want to see me anymore. Should I just go ahead and break things off or just give him his space and wait?
2006-10-21 23:12:29 · 9 answers · asked by Mrs. EV 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oaky I didn't explain well enough in the 4 yrs I've been dating him I've accused him and said some pretty awful things, He has never gotten that angry usually he'll argue with me for a minute and show me how ridiculous I being and then we make up and get back to being us. It's the same way with him he's accused me of things and we argue get back together and act like nothing has happened. So by him saying this 2nite I'm a little confused, because it sounds as though he's tired of me and wants to see other people but should I take "a little while" as a temporary thing or start the getting over him process?
2006-10-21 23:23:04 · update #1
It means he wants his space and u should give it to him. If u don't, u might end up pushing him away more. Leave him alone for a while and let him deal with his issues. When he's ready, he will contact u himself.
Meanwhile, don't hold your breath and go on about your usual routine. Just don't expect anything.
2006-10-21 23:20:47 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot depends on how long you have been dating this guy. If its only been for a couple of weeks to 3-4 months mark move on and have fun somewhere else. But, if you guys have been a couple and dating for sometime like 8+ months I would give him about 2 weeks to cool off. Then call him up tell him 'I know you wanted your space but I need to know where this is going'. Offer to met him at a nice place to eat set down and talk. Figure out if he wants to be causal dating where you can see other people or he wants only you but needs to get his own life together. If its the 2ND give him another 2weeks and have the same conversation with him. But I wouldn't give it longer than a month after that point no matter want move on he will just string you along as long as you let him.
2006-10-22 06:23:58 · answer #2 · answered by kittykat78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a relationship, if you treat one another like children... there comes a breaking point, where a person can get fed up.
I think you have gone past the point and he is re-evaluating the relationship...If two people are always fighting and accusing and whatever... it is very emotionally tiring ... also it leaves a bad taste in the mouth(unsettling)....It sounds like you both are trying to best one another .. This is very negative behaviour to share in a relationship. If you two can't stop pointing the finger at one another , then it will never work....
You need to give him some space and take some time to evaluate this relationship... Is it too stressful.... are we hurting each other too much... is this a popularity game.....do I need to feel dominant in the relationship... be truthful with yourself... If this relationship is hanging on by only a thread, perhaps it is time to cut the tie and move on...
2006-10-22 08:49:09 · answer #3 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be helpful if you provided details as to what is going on in his life that's making him unusual. If it's something that is really painful to him, try to understand. If he's upset over nothing, then you might want to leave him alone for a while, because either way, he's not going to be happy if you try to comfort him, even in a nice way.
Good luck!
2006-10-22 06:27:09 · answer #4 · answered by cheese sticks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't wait. end it now. he's just trying to think of a reason and a way to do it without hurting you. i know, 'cuz that's how it was with my ex. she accused me of stuff all the time, and then she really pissed me off, so while she was at her dad's for seven weeks, i tried to think of an excuse to end it.
2006-10-22 06:41:37 · answer #5 · answered by Pyromaniac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him some space, give him wht he wants leave him alone (if u want the relation to work)
and if possible try to find out wht problem he is going through
2006-10-22 06:36:46 · answer #6 · answered by !i!i!i!FaRnAzA!i!i!i!i 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him his space and wait,men sometimes need space.
2006-10-22 06:22:20 · answer #7 · answered by shepardman1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just let him chill for awhile
2006-10-22 06:28:05 · answer #8 · answered by Rehead Jackson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must of really pissed him off....lol
2006-10-22 06:15:10 · answer #9 · answered by stone2003@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋