I've only met up with her twice in the last 3 months. We mostly talk on the phone or online. When we do see each other, I feel that there is a kind of attaction between us. I may be wrong, she could be just very friendly towards me because she knows I just went through a difficult break up, but the things she do and say made me feel so comfortable around her.
When I'm on the phone with her, she sounds so sweet and understanding, but online, it's totally different.
Just last week, she told me about a travel expo and asked me to go along. She then continued that she doens't want to go overseas alone. Does that sound like she's inviting me to go with her?
I just can't pick her out, we agreed to go to the movies because I have free tickets, but she has already cancelled on me twice, (she says it's family affair) after taking so long to set the dates. Is she interested in me? Is what she is doing a test to see how I act?
I really need more to explain but 1000 characterss is all I get.
2006-10-21 23:00:57 · 17 answers · asked by In Love and Confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
relationships are hard enough when there is no history let alone best mates and ex's.. you're just asking for trouble.. be a mate to her and if things are going to evolve let it happen naturally.. in the mean time don't close your mind to other possibilities..
2006-10-21 23:10:35 · answer #1 · answered by whatev3r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude....it is not how it is at all...She is your escape goat..at bad times of breakin up she has been there for you to listen and talk to. You start SEEing good qualities that you miss having in a GF (like sweetness and undrestanding etc)..it does not translate into love or anything more the way you are imagining it, especially that she proved it to you in her actions of not showing the same interest back or going out with ya.Dont play mind games trying to figure her out...move on and good luck.
2006-10-21 23:14:49 · answer #2 · answered by Mark n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think its fine. i see no problems in that. From what you say it seems to me that she really likes you, and all her canceling out might be just an outcome of her being shy or something. And hey! Its not like anyone would invite someone thay dont really like to the trip you were talking about (i suppose thats a long trip, coz you mentioned overseas)
if you wanna talk more about it, just msg me in yahoo! or email me
2006-10-21 23:07:53 · answer #3 · answered by remove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, never tell her you got free tickets, makes you sound cheap. dude, she's dragging her feet and her willingness to keep your relationship restricted the the phone and internet should send up a red flag. i wouldn't spend my time persuing an electronic relationship. lay all the cards on the table and tell her to crap or get off the pot. the family affair excuse has been used as much as the, it's me, not you line.
hope that helps. rycher.
2006-10-21 23:09:24 · answer #4 · answered by powerdriverfromhell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me like you are just trying to find someone to mend the pain your ex caused and this girl might be seeing that as well and doesn't wanna become a rebound.. And maybe she just wants to be friends.. Take it one day at a time and try hinting to her you are looking for more than a rebound relationship. (which right now I really don't think you are)
2006-10-21 23:09:02 · answer #5 · answered by sweetchic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's nothing really wrong about seeing her or going out with her. hey, you're single! You've been single since July, in case you forgot.
just be cautious though, if you really want to settle with this new girl that you're seeing. if you're gonna ask her to be yours, make sure it's because you love her, not because you miss the feeling of having a girlfriend. you get the point, just be fair and make sure you're not gonna hurt anybody just because you aren't sure of yourself.
enjoy.
2006-10-21 23:04:27 · answer #6 · answered by fallen angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ask your best friend if it's okay with him..
If you really like this girl then you shouldn't let anything stand between you, I think she likes you but she's not sure either how to react in this situation..
Talk to here about where this thing is heading.
Good luck ;)
2006-10-21 23:11:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to grow a pair and confront the situation head-on. Ask her how she feels, but first, ask yourself how you feel and where you want the relationship to go. That way, when you go to her, you won't say, "Uh... like... I don't know..." and sound like a total douche bag.
As far as this girl being your friend's ex - ask him how he feels about it. They broke up for a reason, right?
2006-10-21 23:04:08 · answer #8 · answered by Dean 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, are you interested with her or is it because of the break up?
Well, about the girl, what I can say is its either she likes you and she's just testing you or she is always thinking about you that was just through a break up, or, u'r just a friend and she is keeping distance from you because of that break up.
2006-10-21 23:27:05 · answer #9 · answered by Rhine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is nothing wrong to love a best friend's ex. It is fine. But, somehow, I feel that she is giving you mixed signals. She may be toying with your feelings. I suggest that you forget about her and move on.
2006-10-21 23:13:45 · answer #10 · answered by gchezmoi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋