Have you ever been so sad, that you were afraid you would never come out from under it? That you see no happiness anywhere on the horizon?
2006-10-21 21:44:16 · 7 answers · asked by BONNI 5 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Yes my dear lady I have and there is hope.
For many years I fought feelings of sadness, deep sadness.
I had married a few years before and when Saigon was overrun by communist north vietnam I sank into a deep dark funk. I had a wife and two children to think about so I fought it and pretended to be happy. Inside I was miserable. If there hadn't been a lot of anger to give me the power to fight through it I most likely would have been a basket case moping around like a worthless bum.
After a few years of that I slowly emerged into somewhat of a state of normalcy. I was good for several years until my father died on Christmas. Big shock. I was so stunned I was just kind of numb. Never cried, just felt like it had to be a bad dream. It was downhill from there. Two years later my wife came down with some dreadful nerve disease and was crippled, then my mother develped liver cancer and died two weeks before my sister got married.
I slowly descended back into that cave where I had been years ago and finally had the sense to visit a doctor who specialized in such things. It took medicine and some self examination for me to work my way out of it but I am improving slowly and learning to enjoy life again.
Life is too short to waste it being miserable.
Get help
Get better.
2006-10-21 22:39:22 · answer #1 · answered by mindbender - seeker of truth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, sorry to hear you are in that place right now.
I don't know what your situation is, nor does it matter. Not that I don't care, but you can feel this way not knowing what causes it. It is a good sign that you are seeking relief! Where I live, there is a mental health department and I was able to call a counselor that a friend had been to. I was good at hiding how I felt so when something slipped and my friend realized I could use some help she told me about this counselor. She said, "He's an ***-hole with a heart". Meaning, he would ask the hard questions but you would end up feeling so,so much better. One of his lines was, "When you feel the way you feel, when you feel it, you'll feel good." As I said, I was wearing a smile when I wanted to stab myself. If I would have allowed myself to be alone and cry, think, whatever, it would help.
I went to my family Dr. and he gave me a RX for depression. After not filling it for two weeks he called to see how I was doing. I told him. He said if he had told me I had high blood pressure, would I take my meds? My family has a history of depression. Our bodies just don't provide the chemicals needed to keep a balance of feelings. Now I take the meds. I'm not happy all of the time. That wouldn't be normal considering all of the variables thrown into the mix of each day. I don't want to be a zombie. But I don't want to go back down into that black hole again. Nor do I want to end my life. Sometimes it takes more courage to live than it does to die. Please get GREAT help. You'll be glad and so will those that love and need you.
2006-10-21 22:11:43 · answer #2 · answered by BigRed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I have been so sad before (and now preventing it to recur as much as possible) that I was so afraid I would never come out from under it. The feeling of never coming out from under it was replaced by worse feelings of further unavoidable emotional complications.
2006-10-21 22:56:39 · answer #3 · answered by JUANA 1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have that feeling --- which I have had for over 40 years (I'm 59) --- then it's best to see a psychiatrist. From there you go on to therapy and medication, and although you may never be "cured", at least you won't feel so completely hopeless and helpless anymore!
2006-10-21 21:50:47 · answer #4 · answered by backinbowl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not yet, but I guess that day will come. I can't say anyone of us will be able to deal with it positively, but if there's a single reason for me to move on, I will force myself to cope with the trauma and live on.
And, I hope you could do the same too.
All the Best!
2006-10-21 21:53:08 · answer #5 · answered by Geo C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not personally that bad, but sounds like if you're feeling this way you could have Depression. Get counselling an/or see your Dr if things are this bad, there is help available that works.
2006-10-21 21:49:35 · answer #6 · answered by Simone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes but time heals all to the extent that you can go on living, if you wait long enough.
2006-10-21 21:46:11 · answer #7 · answered by LadieVamp 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋