Phobias are associated with this individual. Paranoid, control over people, easily upset by those who know him best. He frightens his family so thy don't say too much which is not good. A grown man living off his parents and places no responsibility onto himself to pay house hold bills not to mention providing for his two children. His parents pay for EVERYTHING and he is not able to stand on his own for just basics! He is mean, mean and meaner like I've never known anyone in my life. On the flip side, he has fleeting moments of the best guy in the world. Our relationship has suffered terrible due to his mood changes and I would realy like to find help for him. He is worht helping. How to get him that help?
2006-10-21 21:10:30 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
call the zoo and have him tranquilized !!
2006-10-21 21:28:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This man truly does need professional help, but in order to place him in an intervention setting, his family, friends, and you need to be involved. I am not trying to be judgemental in any way, because I have personally been involved with someone who needed an intervention, and a hospital to help get better, so I know how tough it can be, but his family and friends, and you need to decide that you are no longer going to be responsible FOR him. He has no need to change if people do what he needs to do for him. From his perspective, he sees no reason to be responsible for anything because there is someone to be responsible for him.
There are people who will work with you, the family and friends, as an intervention therapist, and if you can find a way for you to all learn what you need to do, then have the therapist help you set up an intervention meeting, and go from there. Tell him the things that you see that are good in him, and that is why you want him to get help for his problems. Chances are, he's going to be angry, and feel ganged up on, but at this point, it needs to be done, and work out some kind of schedule where you can tell him how you all will stand behind him as he gets help.
To show support and love to someone getting help is healthy. Letting him live his life without ever showing responsibility only harms the ones who love him, as well as the individual.
I believe with your description, he definately needs to spend some time in a hospital as an inpatiient. Chances are, it will get worse before it gets better, but if you know there is a good person in there, with a support network, of love and friendship, and an end to making up for his being irresponsible, there could be changes made and with time, he will be able to work through his problems. I wish you all the best and I hope this helps some. By the way, if this does help you, does he drink, or use drugs of any kind?? If he does that, you can use an intervention into rehab, which will get him into the hospital, and from there they will work with him on the anger issues. I think from your description, if his anger issues aren't dealt with, it might possibly be dangerous for those around him. I do wish you the best, and hope you can get him some help. Remember that he's going to use whatever tactics he can to keep others afraid, and quiet, so he doesn't' have to face his irresponsible behavior, and manipulative behavior.
2006-10-21 22:14:28 · answer #2 · answered by brenda_sue_1104 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Several people I've worked with have been like this. You have to be very patient and involve your life to this person and, may not like the end. Usually they live in a bubble, they'll let you in from time to time if you go along with their values and judgments. If not, your out. It's not easy. If you've just met this person I'd say "find another friend" it's not worth it. Your the one to suffer, through a lot of heartache. I'd bet this person has had one relationship after another without regret always blaming the significant other, right?
If your going to try and "heal" him, it just isn't going to work. This person needs a lot of professional help, probably a lot of it, do you have that much time to give? give yourself a break and just leave him be. Try and coax him to help but??
2006-10-21 22:40:39 · answer #3 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are professionals called interventionists. Look in the yellow pages. They will help facilitate the intervention, educate everyone in the family (who wants to participate), and coordinate the meeting.
It is generally more helpful for substance abuse issues, but there have been effective interventions for general mental health issues as well.
Also, the NAMI (National Alliance for Mental Illness) has a website with information for families. Good luck.
2006-10-22 12:30:14 · answer #4 · answered by spiritualjourneyseeker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like hell on earth for all concerned. This man needs to be removed from everyone whose life he is destroying. Perhaps he should be an in-patient at a treatment center for a while; at the very least he badly needs psychiatric help!
2006-10-21 21:42:38 · answer #5 · answered by backinbowl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs professional help. Find a good psychiatrist. The tough part will be to persuade the guy to visit him, perhaps you should introduce him without saying he is a doctor. I think your friend may need medication, not just advice, so don't find a psychologist, but a psychiatric doctor.
2006-10-21 21:21:09 · answer #6 · answered by cpinatsi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋