im going to try to work things out with my ex boyfreind and see if we should get back together. to see if he wants to. i don't noe if i should or not tho. only god noes how much i care about him and how much i need to be with him. but im scared of wats going to happen to me when we break up again. i found it really hard to cope wen we broke up the first time. im still trying to survive. his my frist boyfriend and im 19. i need to be with him. i need to be with him for sooo many reasons. im scared of how im going to deal with things if we break up again. i noe there are plenty of fish in the sea. but its a rough sea out there. i don't want anyone else. i want him. and if i think about it im willing to go thru that break up again if it means i can be with him for that little while longer. is that crazy?
2006-10-21 20:53:03 · 14 answers · asked by pOppY 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
u just said about urself but didn't say anything regarding to him.see every relationship has ups and downs i mean to say that we often quarrel with our friends and parents due to some or other reason and the reason might be anything but we never think of break up with them.two people being together often brings
some problems it is due to characters.so forget everything and try again .if it fails again then u can take a new decision.anyway ALL THE BEST.
2006-10-21 21:07:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is crazy. you have a life in front of you. don't waste it on some guy. i don't mean anything bad, but if you broke up you broke up. It means you had some problems that you both didn't want. I think the best thing for you will be is to get over it. I know sound easy. I'm getting over a serious crush, and it is hard. I still think about the guy, and I can't stop. It is a rough sea out there, you are right. But you can make it. Just get to the shore and get your education first. And then where you are done with it, then jump back into the sea. Maybe it will calm down by that time.
good luck
2006-10-22 04:01:54 · answer #2 · answered by Desert Rat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's crazy to feel that way...most of us do when a relationship has gone bad. But the majority of us have been through this, and it DOES get better. You two broke up for a reason, whether it be mutual or based on your decision or his....either way, it's not healthy to think of yourself as trying to "survive". You said he is your first boyfriend...but he won't be your last. All of the "good" apples are at the top of the tree...the ones on the bottom are rotten, just there temporarily and will drop off soon to make room for "easy picking" of the beautiful ones on top. Have confidence in yourself and love yourself first...if YOU don't...how can you offer it to anyone else?
2006-10-22 04:07:31 · answer #3 · answered by CK 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by all means, try and work it out. but if and when you guys do break up again, it's not the end of everything. you have a full life ahead of you and a breakup is not worth giving up on love. also, you should not project yourself as being needy as some men want their women to be able to stand on their own.
and if the breakup happens over and over again, it's not gonna be a happy relationship. if it's making you more miserable than it's making you happy, then i think it's time to let go. you deserve better =)
2006-10-22 05:42:39 · answer #4 · answered by Nikai 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think that you need him to be happy, then I think that you should stay single for awhile. You need to learn to cope without a guy to be there for you all the time, because that's just setting yourself up to be hurt. I understand completely the feeling of wanting to get back together with him, and I understand that you love him, but you broke up for a reason, and it sounds to me like the only reason why you really want to get back together with him is so that you feel safe and secure and wanted again. You don't need him. You need to learn not to rely on anyone else, not to need a boyfriend, but rather to want to have one. To choose to have one rather than just having one because you rely on them. If after you have come to the point where you don't need anyone, you still want him, then go back and try to make it work, but right now, I wouldn't suggest it.
2006-10-22 03:59:01 · answer #5 · answered by laislinns 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be alone for a while and find the things in life that make you happy. Then you will find a guy who compliments you in that lifestyle. If you "need" a guy to be happy, you'll do whatever HE wants to try to keep him and you'll be forever unhappy because, being a guy, he's gonna take advantage of that and never think of your needs. Why should he? You don't.
2006-10-22 04:02:20 · answer #6 · answered by twodux 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love can be crazy!!! I also think you answered your own question. Also don't be so negative.....IF ..not when we break up again....or better yet...we're not going to breakup again. Think positive!!!
If there are details of the breakup such as drugs,abuse etc....that's not going to go away. If anything that caused the breakup is still in play...don't go back!!!
2006-10-22 04:00:42 · answer #7 · answered by bob a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you break up the first time? is he really good for you? don't be with a guy because you are afraid of being by yourself. You're only 19 and have years ahead of you. Don't tie yourself down to this guy just because you're afraid.
2006-10-22 03:56:46 · answer #8 · answered by Jason D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's a saying that "Love is sweeter the second time around" y not try again,...i know that past will soon recover with the two of you...i know that you can understand each other... just put god between you.. just trust each other...
2006-10-22 04:04:47 · answer #9 · answered by Titz B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, its not crazy. if you want him so bad you have to try and get him back or you will spend all your life wondering what could have been??? is worth a shot. i know how you feel as i got my heart broken too
2006-10-22 03:58:36 · answer #10 · answered by sarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋