I'm not in any trouble with the law.. just with school and stuff. I need to get my act together but everywhere I go something bad happens. My friends get into fights and I try to either break it up or I'm right in the middle of it. I have a hard time bein quiet in class. Nothin my teacher says really seems to be intresting. So my friends and I just ignore her and talk. I got so used to being bad that now I'm afraid taht I can't change. My parents treat me just like an x con. i feel sorry for my bro cuz he is, and they treat him worse. We should work together to get though our lives but we dont live in the same state anymore,I dont have his phone number(i doubt my dad will give it to me), I used to wright him when he was in prison but now we are completely outta touch. I feel so alone.Any suggestions?
2006-10-21 20:52:29 · 8 answers · asked by no duh! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You can always change, it's a choice. Changing isn't easy, and isn't fun, but it's doable. You can start changing now by making better choices and distancing yourself from bad influences. You can change now while your young and haven't done anything serious, or you can go down that bad path, and get into serious trouble, waste YEARS of your life, put the pieces back together and change then. You'll want to kick your own butt for not changing earlier. Everytime you get into trouble, it's a choice, you choose to do the right thing, or choose to do the wrong thing, but it's always a choice. Think about the mistakes you've made already. Figure out where you went wrong. This isn't to blame you and say "it's your fault." It's because I've been there, and as a 32 year old woman I can look back at every issue in my life and see where I went wrong, and what I've done right. You don't have to lose years of your life and change after you've made a big mistake, you can do it now. We all love our friends, but DON'T GET CAUGHT UP IN THEIR BS. If something happens, let them handle it, you can always be there to talk. Take school seriously even though it sucks. You're better off to take care of it now, rather than go to adult education later. Make sure that you are taking care of yourself, and making choices that will take you higher in life. You deserve better. Don't be afraid that you can't change, you can. Focus on your work. If you have a teacher that bores you, have a conversation with her after class. Be considerate. Your teacher is there because she cares, and if you are respectful, maybe you can help her liven your class up. Study hard. I know so many people that screwed up when they were young and regret it now, please don't join the club. Good luck.
2006-10-21 23:20:24 · answer #1 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to a adult about all that is going on at home. Your 13 to15 growing up and wish you had a better
Talk to a teacher and just ask for help getting to the next grade and let it go form there. or a friends parents
Y our just growing and don't want to be like bro and remember your not your bro and never will be and the next time your MOM walks in the room give her smile she needs it as much as you do
2006-10-22 03:59:10 · answer #2 · answered by aaricka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friends are always getting into fights, you need some new friends. Trouble doesn't following us around. We find it ourselves by the places we go, the friends we have, and the things we do.
Yes, you can certainly change, if you really want to. One thing at a time. One step at a time. One day at a time.
Stop being rude in class and listen to the speaker, teacher or whoever. That's what you're there for.
Start being responsible. You can blame no one but yourself for your choices and your behaviors.
2006-10-22 16:35:57 · answer #3 · answered by delmaanna67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in the throes of depression. You need to find yourself someone you can relate to who lives outside your family circle. You are astute enough to realise that you life is in a downward spiral and want to change it. That is a good thing.
I know it is easy for us to tell you to dump your friends and hard to do. Start by making yourself less available to them. They don't have your astute brain and they are losers.
I understand that it sounds corney but taking up some form of community service will help. You will meet other people who have walked in your path and have been able to turn things round a little and that will empower you. They can show you that there is light to be found.
Your love for your brother is something outside of his relationship with your parents. Ot is OK for them to feel angry and ashamed. It does not mean that they do not love him. They may well feel ashamed for loving someone who did wrong and not be able to voice their real feelings. Write letters to him and keep them for now. The time will come soon enough when you can pass them on to him.
As you begin to feel better about yourself , your parents attitude towards you will change. If it doesn't change fast enough, you will be empowered and other means to acheive your aim of reuniting with your brother will come to mind.
As to your teachers... Well a lot of it could be your depression or maybe they just feel that they are wasting their breath on a class that won't listen. Position yourself in the front of the class. Ask to see them after class. Explain to them that you are feeling depressed amd not performing at your best and that you want to get better. They are people first, teachers second. They will have had problems.They will understand and maybe even make a bit of extra effort for you. Give them and yourself a chance.
If the depression won't lift, go and seek help. It is an illness like any other. There is no shame to going to a doctor for help. Try laughing out loud for 15 minutes a day. You don't even need to have anything to laugh at. If you just stand on a street corner for a while I am sure you will see something!!!
OK so that one is not really advisable unless you want everyone to think you are losing it big time. But you get my drift I am sure.
Look in your mirror at least 6 times a day and say" Hey I like me. I am worth something. I am going to be a success!"
You can do it. Good luck.
2006-10-22 04:12:47 · answer #4 · answered by Christine H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you know what you need to do. First start making things right in school. Your parents are probably just very disappointed in their children right now. Every parent has high expectations and wishes for their children. And it's hard when they go the other way. Really hard. Try to cut them some slack and work really hard on yourself. After you've gotten yourself on the right track, then it may be OK to try to contact your bro. Right now, just work on yourself. It won't be easy, but try to make it right w/your parents.
2006-10-22 17:24:49 · answer #5 · answered by Hallon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find new friends... Maybe your friends are getting you in trouble. It can be hard but they will understand if you are going in two different dirrections. Try some after school activities, or volunteering in the community. About your brother, maybe if you get ahold of him, ask him what he did and what he could tell you to help you stay out of trouble. Big brothers always want to protect their younger sisters. Good Luck!
2006-10-22 03:55:34 · answer #6 · answered by Amanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop blaming everyone under the sun for your mistakes. It's my brother's bad example, it's my friends, blah blah blah. If you really want to change into a useful human being instead of the worthless waste of space you are now, do it already and quit your whining. Hang around with a different group of friends, surround yourself by positive people, set some academic goals for yourself.
2006-10-22 03:56:36 · answer #7 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
daaammn. you guys are really screwed up...
2006-10-22 03:54:21 · answer #8 · answered by jqdsilva 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋