this is a serious question.....please help......?

Question

i know every guy is different but if a girl was interested in you and you told her "i want to get to know you better and in time we can work something out" is that a good sign? and drives 30-40 minutes to come see you when your sick. but doesn't call often. maybe he is only pretending to like me so that he can get me to have sex with him.... he also just got out of a 4 year relationship couple of months ago. everything feels right when we are hanging out but i start doubting when i get home because he doesn't call. what's your opinion guys? and what should i do? thanks. honest opinions please

Answer 1

I thought we already went through this

Answer 2

Jen, I know you have been flipping this question in your head. over and over just trying to make it work in your set of standards. There is no need to worry. The truth is before you. I think you are rushing things for him. Sex and marriage are different types of commitments. Sex is no commitment. Marriage is a commitment. He does like you for sex. There is no pretending in that. The drive is worth it for him and you forgot to mention the meal you cook for him. A divorce is emotionally and financially drain on a person. Is that long distance he has to call? Okay, now if you have his home number and you can call him at all times, it means he is not living with any woman. If you only have his cell number, then, he has another woman. He doesn't call because there is something you do that he does not like. (you might be too posesive and you might act conceited after having sex and it is a turn off for some men.) Because you are not too attractive physically he is not drawn to you. You both share the same needs, such as you both want love and sex. You now have one thing in your favor it is your personality. Use your strongest trait and sew some love in this. See who loves you and give yourself to the person that loves you. You are also intelligent enough to ask for help in this problem. So use that... now go find yourself a man that does love you. This man does not love you. Even a poor man who has no wealth would do his best to call you. Try not to be alone too much. Go out more to places so a man will notice your good trait, your personality and love. .......

Answer 3

just getting out of an 4 year relationship can take time to feel like wanting to start into another one, let him set the speed on this one for now, you can all ways shift into another gear down the road when your both ready, and if he didn't care he would be their when you sick and needing him most. just let things happen at life's speed and don't try speeding it up at the start for you only miss-out on what is really important, getting to know each other and learning on trusting each other too. and for not calling, try looking at it from the other side, what would you think of him if he was the type that called you every few hours? he's just not into having to check in with you every day, trust in him until he show you differently.

Answer 4

Maybe he just doesn't want to call you at home. I assume that you guys see each other all the time, which is why I think the reason why is because there's no need for calls.

You are right in saying that guys are different. Try to talk to him about it. There's nothing wrong about having an open relationship.
Good luck with that!

Answer 5

Only one way to find out. Don't have sex with him and see if he sticks around. I don't think not calling is a bad sign, unless he says he'll call but he won't. Some people are not as comfortable talking on the phone. If he come to see you when you're sick, that's already better than just BSing on the phone.

Answer 6

Some people just aren't real big about talking on the telephone. It's even possible that he avoids calling you, because he doesn't want to appear pushy. You'll never know, unless you ask. Tell him how you feel about it, and see how he reacts. You might very well need to end this relationship, but it would be a shame if you were to end it over a misunderstanding.

Answer 7

If he just got out of a long term relationship recently, take things slow. Maybe he's not sure what he's feeling for you that's why he doesn't call often. Enjoy the time you do hang out with him and see where things go. Trust me, if he's into you, you're gonna know.

Answer 8

I forgot to tell you that you are a queen ,let your king come to you,
if this one takes too long, there is always another king. waiting for you. but jen remember this,some things are not meant to be
(no matter how much we want it to be) Some friends must remain just that "friends" Now dont get me wrong , sometimes it takes a little while for friends to figure out that (damn maybe we should be together.) My female friend says that we are "friends with benefits" because sometimes when we need more from each other we give more to each other (know what i mean.) but this type of friendship is not for everyone because hearts do get involved..so jen take it slow ,BUT remember "Good things come to those who wait BUT NOT TO THOSE WHO WAIT TOO LATE" so if he doesnt come around sweetheart move on
good luck.
Signed ;THE CAT

Answer 9

I am no guy, but if you know what you want out of a relationship, and he already doesn't give you what you need, you might just be a friend.
Or he maybe taking it slow since he just ended a relationship.

If you like him, call him.

Answer 10

if he just got out of a 4 year relationship, back off and let him take his time. it will probably be worth it in the end.

Answer 11

Kick him to the curb...there way too many dudes out there that would treat you like a princess....you sound like a nice sensitive girl who needs a strong and caring guy...they are out there...