Today was my birthday and I got kicked out of my house by my dad to live with my mom for a while.. I was heartbroken I just turned 14. he kicked me out because of my grades and because I don't do his laundry he's always wishing that my firends and other people were his kids. which i gotta tell ya it's sad. Well i'm at my mom's first day and I don't want to stay it's like every five minutes I WANT to cry, How do i swallow my pride and try to move back in. I never thought I'd have to say that at this age, I want to cry now.. as a matter of fact I am :'( I was soo depressed today that i starved myself
2006-10-21 20:35:27 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Talk to your father. Let him know how much it means to you to be living with him rather than your mother. Both of you need to sit down together and work out some ground rules for a peaceful co-existence (i.e. what chores you're expected to do, what sort of treatment you expect from him, etc.).
2006-10-21 20:38:01 · answer #1 · answered by Liz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being a teenager is difficult. Add a broken home to that and it is even worse, and that together with your dad having you to move out is unbearable. You are going through a lot right now. However, keep in mind that your parents are too. I don't know your complete circumstances but I bet your parents love you very deeply. Parents are human, they make mistakes and don't all ways make the right decisions. Is it possible that your dad is trying to use a little tough love on you? I don't think it is a matter of swollowing your pride, but rather being mature in letting be known what you want, how you feel, and trying to compormise and work things out. However, there seems to be many underlying issues here. Therefore, my suggestion would be to try and talk to both your parents and let them know how you are feeling trying not to sound like you are pointing fingers and blaming. Let them know that you are struggling with areas of your life and that you need their help. Ask them if the three of you could begin some family therepy. They don't have to know that you think they two need the therepy only that you need them to support you as a family even though they are not still together. Point out that regardless they are still your parents and you love them both. This will benefit them as well as you. If for some reason one of them is not willing to go, still go with the one that is. If both of them are not willing and can't seem to see the benefit in going then ask if you can go alone. Then if they were to tell you no, go see your consulor at school. Everything that is discussed between the two of you is confidential. Please keep in mind too that the only way for a consulor to truly help you is if you are completely honest with them. Lastly, don't get down on yourself and try to believe that your parents do love you. Most importantly seek help! Good luck to you and your parents.
2006-10-22 04:06:22 · answer #2 · answered by looking for answers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I kind of went through the same thing at your age . But , at the times when i had to live with my mother ---> i actually had a lot of fun ! I met the only man i have ever loved , my mom had my little sister when i lived with her , i went out all of the time with my sister & had lots of fun . Your dad does love you sweet girl , he will try to make sure you know how much when you are older . Parents do make rash decisions some times , which they do regret later ! Just because they are grown up , does'nt always mean they know what they are doing..... Just like you guys , we learn from the things that we do , and the things that happen because of the things that we do . But , always , always our little people are our most important things ! Please don't hate us when we are wrong , we are only human too.
Girl , no need to ever starve yourself .... You can be your own best friend , or your own worst enemy ! Take good care of yourself , don't drink , or smoke ! Because someday , you will need to be the one that is there for your children.
You will need to be strong for them , it's really not easy as it looks you know .
2006-10-22 04:23:57 · answer #3 · answered by listenup_yall 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How heartless of him to do something like that... and then on your birthday.
Stop feeling sorry for yourself. Grab a piece of paper and write a mission statement on it. It should say: I will not let others dictate how to feel about myself. I am worthy... I deserve to be treated well. I will be the best I can be, ... I will be a better person than my Dad or my Mom.
And please eat.
2006-10-22 03:50:52 · answer #4 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep your head up...i 'm sure things could be worse right? just remember that your family will always be your family and in any kind of relationship, especially family ones, there will be ups and downs and it is important to keep all lines of communication open wether you are heartbroken, mad, lonely, etc etc. one thing i want to point out that you have already done to remedy the situation is by speaking out about it, getting it out in the open and trying to talk about it. after you get more feedback from others out there in cyberspace, you'll be better equipped to fix the situation where you are. good luck and keep your head up!
2006-10-22 03:40:37 · answer #5 · answered by mikey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm so sorry this happened to you. your dad is a f***** jerk. but you didn't describe how the living situation with your mom is. maybe you could learn to adjust yourself to new living conditions. and this time try to better yourself so your mom will accept you more. maybe you have some very close relatives who are more than willing to take you in. if there is and IF they do, try to respect their rules as best you can.
2006-10-22 03:41:39 · answer #6 · answered by jqdsilva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well dont b upset dear...
problems r faced by many ones...
dont think too much....just think positive...
I think u shud try to talk to ur dad or mom personally abt dis....
Well i think u r feeling very lonely .......just visit ur frendz house once a week.....talk to her....just 4get whts happening in ur life
...B urself......Discuss dis issue wid ur frend whos much closer to u...she mite encourage u .. n u'll stop feeling lonely!!!
2006-10-22 04:40:19 · answer #7 · answered by Neha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sorry to know that
Happy Birth Day any way
call your dad and tell him that what he did to you was so painful
have no fer
2006-10-22 03:40:08 · answer #8 · answered by Donets'k 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋