I'm losing my boyfriend to a guy. I don't know what to do..we've been together forever, and I'm going to have his baby, but he's more interested in, and sleeping with the guy who lives across the street..I tried talking to him, but he assures me nothing is going on, and I myself have seen him with the other guy..I don't know what else to do..
2006-10-21 20:00:52 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
move on fast
2006-10-21 20:02:28 · answer #1 · answered by charles d 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
guys need other guy friends...to bond with.
since you mentioned baby I am guessing you are prego. that alone will drive a man out of the houe to get away from the hormone changes. most men do buddy up with a fellow man during these times to discuss the hormone changes and to have a safe quiet haven to go to, to sleep.
be happy he has a friend....he's not suppose to live glued to you ya know. and the friend is across the street....even better....you can keep an eye on him.
2006-10-22 03:03:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make sure that he really is cheating with this guy, if he is the odds are that he really is Bi or gay and there is nothing for you to do. The best thing is to move on, as hard as it may be. God doesn't give you anything that you cannot handle and I'm sure that the baby you have inside of you will be a testament of what you have overcome and how strong you really are.
2006-10-22 03:23:14 · answer #3 · answered by Monica V 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he'd rather be with a guy, why do you want him? It may be heartbreaking right now, but "this too shall pass". Move on, sweetie. There is someone else out there for you, and if you look carefully, you'll find someone who wants to be a father to that baby.
2006-10-22 03:04:28 · answer #4 · answered by MyPreshus 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love him then go ahead do what your heart tells you, just don't do it if it will scar your life forever and make you cry, because crying when your pregnant is not good for your baby. If you want your baby to have a dad, then tell your boyfriend, if you having an affair, think what can happen to me?
2006-10-22 03:10:17 · answer #5 · answered by - Eiren - 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ask your boyfriend if he really likes the guy acrossed the street ? or maybe go with your boyfriend when he visits with the oter guy and see whats going on
2006-10-22 03:10:19 · answer #6 · answered by Jo r 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow... I'm feeling so bad for you right now....
i used to try to date girls because it would have been a lot easier than being gay in my small town.... but I ended up hurting their feelings and I wasn't fooling myself....
It's tough. There is no easy way through this.
He is not wrong for being gay.... but he is wrong for lying to you.
He wants to have gay sex with the luxury of being considered "straight".
In other words, he wants to have his cake and eat it too.....
And we all know how well that works out for people...
I can't give you any advice but I can tell you that he loves you.... he just isn't straight and a relationship with you might not be in the cards....
He has too much going on in his head to see that he is really hurting you... someday he will know though.
I also want to point out that your odds of HIV infection are NOT any greater than if he was cheating on you with a woman.... The answers above mine are completely ignorant. HIV infection is actually much higher in heterosexual women now than gay men.... specifically black, straight women but even that smacks of racism....
2006-10-22 03:08:03 · answer #7 · answered by rabble rouser 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have worked with recovering sexually confused people. A man dealing with homosexual tendencies will continue this practice until he seeks help. I'm sorry you are going through this. Until he acknowledges what's going on, and commits to recovery, there is nothing you can do to save the relationship. Break it off, raise the baby yourself, and go on with your life. I recommend getting involved with a good Bible believing church. They will be able to offer you assistance with the baby, with counseling if you should need it, and many other things. I wish you and your baby well.
http://judgeright.blogspot.com
2006-10-22 03:24:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
find a MAN and move on way would you want him knowing hes bisexual...that's nasty and leads to unhealthy things.....just because you have a baby by him doesn't mean you have to be with him......if he is going as far as sleeping with another man and continuing to do so then that's nothing he is curious about that's something he wants to do...and there's really nothing you can do about it if he stops its gonna be his decision and not yours,...if he is really into it then he may not stop and just tell you to deal with it...your best bet is to leave that situation before you do more emotional damage to your heart.....
good luck to you and your baby...congratulations on your soon to be new arrival
2006-10-22 03:08:39 · answer #9 · answered by toya1jolly 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he's gay, there's nothing to do. You guys are both lying to yourselves. You need to leave, and tell your obgyn, he may have put you, possibly the baby at risk. I'd leave him for that alone.
2006-10-22 03:11:25 · answer #10 · answered by D N 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go get tested for HIV and dump him. You can't compete with a man...you don't have the equipment.
2006-10-22 03:03:13 · answer #11 · answered by DeborahDel 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋