well, i have an officemate who is married..we are both young but it started as friendship but i fall deeply in love with her.. i tried to fight the feelings but i cant... i feel i need her.. but im not doing anything or any move.. i just wanna love her in silence.. any comments?
2006-10-21 20:00:49 · 16 answers · asked by pau 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yeah you are all right, its wrong for me to love her in the first place..and im not lusting over her..i didnt want this to happen..im trying to ignore her..its her attitude and sweetness that i love.. as for her marriage, her husband cheated on her many times but she still accept her.. maybe i love how she love him so much.. tell me if thats not going to attract you? but im not doing anything or saying anything, its just that i have the feelings but im not going to do anything, im not the type who ruin a relationship.. i just love her in silence,im okay as for now,im not expecting anything..yeah it is easier said than done.. thanks for all the reply..
2006-10-24 15:00:58 · update #1
it's the best way to ruin your life...congrats
ps. if she cheats with you, you'll know for sure she's trash.....
2006-10-21 20:09:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is you can not fight your feelings. Man, if you really love her.. go find out if she feels the same. And if she doesnt, i think you should better be jus frenz ( if you love her , you would want her to be happy.. you know what i mean ;) ). The second thing.. your need.. come on there are a lot of unmarried cuties on this earth.. go out ,..make a choice..
take care
2006-10-22 03:07:55 · answer #2 · answered by manshul2001 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i know it sound easier that it is done, but get over it. Take a vacation and not see her for awile, or change your schedule so you don't see each other so often or don't see each other at all.
When i said getting over is easier said than done. I'm getting over someone myself. Recently I had a crush on my instructor, and it's been couple month now since I didn't see him, and I still think about him. It can be hard to get over but try.
2006-10-22 03:18:10 · answer #3 · answered by Desert Rat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is she happly married? If not , have they tried to work out thier marriage? If they have and are still not happy them i would tell her how i felt, but put no pressure on her. Tell her you know she is married but you thought she should know. If she is happly married i would leave it alone, and find someone else. I would also leave it alone if she has not been married too long, it takes time to get in the swing of things once married. I have been married 3 years and still am not completely used to things.
2006-10-22 03:08:38 · answer #4 · answered by Danielle B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's definitely not good!!!! Think about this....do you think you would find her just as attractive if she wasn't married? Sometimes we're attracted to a person we know we can't have. "Forbidden fruit" Just try to enjoy your friendship and let the rest go. Try to find someone you can really get to know who's single. Good luck.
2006-10-22 03:07:02 · answer #5 · answered by fungirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't fall in love. Nothing can ever happen. Get a single girlfriend.
2006-10-22 03:05:43 · answer #6 · answered by Blue Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the crappy part about love is its also when you let them be married, assuming that they are happy with their husband. Its a stupid question, but do you think you love her enough to let her live with her husband?
I saught a way around that, and i came up with, love is also see that >she is happy, even if shes not with you. ( mean you do what you can to make her happy)
But if you want to make yourself happy to... its not going to work...
2006-10-22 03:04:44 · answer #7 · answered by Mr. D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey buddy,
Just find any unmarried girl with whom you could spend with your life and do not live silence but with enjoyment. This is one site where you could find some girls in your area http://www.dreamsall.com
2006-10-22 03:13:52 · answer #8 · answered by gagan1509 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your lusty mind off of this married woman and find someone else to be with.
2006-10-22 03:03:50 · answer #9 · answered by Bethany 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's married and u shouldn't let youself fall for her in the first place. how does she feel? is she happy with her marriage?
2006-10-22 03:03:19 · answer #10 · answered by ILuvMe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not bad 2 fall in love with someone whos married but i suggest u just take her as good friend....come-on man shes married, shes with some1 else.
Flirt around with other girls..........
2006-10-22 03:04:29 · answer #11 · answered by M u Z z I 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋