I was in a relationship with this girl for 7 years. Three years ago she met her ex boyfriend somewhere and they ended up kissing. Nothing more, she says. Confessed that a month later. I decided to ignore that and stay with her, and she promised she wouldn't do it again. Since then, they kept sending SMS to each other, sayin thing like "i love you" and stuff. For his friends, she is his girlfriend and she even was pregnant with his kid (not true). She never told him she had a bf (me). Las january, she lied to everyone (including me) about a school trip just to go see him, cause he doesn't live in the same city. We broke up last march because of that, but got back together in april 'cause she said she was sorry and she wasn't really in love with him. I believed her, but they kept sending messages again until I read this: "In spite of being totally in love with you (the guy) I'm gonna stay with him (me) because he loves me and really needs me"... (continue next part please)
2006-10-21 19:54:44 · 15 answers · asked by Horumaket 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She wrote that to him, but never gave him that letter. I was devastated. I think i deserve no charity of love, you know. So i decided to break up. Two months have passed, and she still behaves as if we were together. I mean, she picks me up at work. She sends me messages all the time. We have lunch together sometimes. She is extremely jealous about me. She even sent messages to MY friends (girls) sayin i was her bf and asking them to never call me or SMS me again. Why does she do that? If she is so in love with him and wants a family with him and wants to have his kid, why won't she let me live my own life?
2006-10-21 19:58:01 · update #1
ok, seriously, this girl sounds like she has issues. I am guessing that sex with her is phenominal, because you keep getting back together with her (and hence causing yourself all this drama). You want to know why she would do this? Simple, the girl is a hoe. Sorry, but it is what it is. If she is LYING to you, CHEATING on you (kissing, rendezvous with other guy, SMS'ing "I love you" to the other guy), and generally treating you like dirt..... she will never change. She will always look for certain traits to get from you, and find what she cannot get from you in other guys, whether it is this guy or someone else down the road. My best advice to you is to kick this biatch to the curb now, before you knock her up (accident or not), and end up with a kid she didn't really want to have with you, and 18 years of payments (financially and emotionally). You will be MUCH better off in the long run!
2006-10-21 20:05:07 · answer #1 · answered by jnmfendrick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advise to you is to cut all ties with her so that you would get over her and try to be sstrong enough to move on. You sound as though you had it bad for this girl after those insidents I would totally leave her. You put your teeth in and you stock with her. You deserve much better than that ****! She doesn't know what she wants in life yet that's why she is back and forth. I know what you are thinking why you keep her around maybe she wopuld change her mind or magically change,like that is so no going to happen. Let noone take advantage of you. Stand up for who you are and i am actually glad that you have left her.
2006-10-22 03:10:19 · answer #2 · answered by *Pretty In Pink* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
break up with her. She will never be truly faithful to you and you will always be the guy she settled with. Sure its ok for now, but later on she will leave cause you will not be 100 percent invested in the relationship, it will always be in your mind. Also, stop reading her phone messages it shows a lack of confidence which borders on desperation. If you do not trust someone then stop seeing them, do not follow them around like little columbo trying to find out what they are doing. Break it off, and find someone more trustworthy. She has done something like that because she is not ready to give up on that relationship. She is immature and needs to grow up a little.
2006-10-22 03:00:27 · answer #3 · answered by Satsune 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop allowing her to operate in your life this way. You say it's her, but you're sending mixed messages too. If you don't want her doing those things, stop letting her think she can. Don't let her pick you up from work. If she comes, don't go with her. Stop going out to lunch with her. If you're not clear about what you want, don't expect her to be either. Don't let her know which girls you've been talking to. It's none of her business now. You're allowing her too much access to your life. Many times we still try to be friends with our exes, but some of them just can't work out that way.
2006-10-22 03:02:33 · answer #4 · answered by ammellisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good God she IS a ho!
Sounds like she's just keeping you around just in case the other guy dumps her ***.
In all honesty, you deserve way better than that. >:O
2006-10-22 03:04:02 · answer #5 · answered by Gwyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump her!She is a slut & a liar!Knowing why she did it is not gonna solve the delemma!
If we could know why things happen,then we could stop them from happening!But we don't ,so don't stress or stew over it!
2006-10-22 03:00:38 · answer #6 · answered by Frogmama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is controlling and it is time to have her number blocked so that she gets the message.
2006-10-22 03:04:15 · answer #7 · answered by Christina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As to why she keeps acting that way, I think she's the only one who knows the answer. But I don't think she'll change anytime soon. She'll keep doing that to you... So ditch her.
2006-10-22 03:03:22 · answer #8 · answered by beetee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a mean person! you could SERIOUSLY do way better! she is not someone a nice, sweet, caring, genuine guy like you needs to be around!
2006-10-22 03:03:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a restraining order against her. she sounds physco and u deserve better. Goodluck
2006-10-22 03:03:45 · answer #10 · answered by Fairy*Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋