lady's advice please?

Question

on oct. 15th i suprised the lady i love with a diamond engagement ring , she knows i love her and her 8mo son and she says she loves me . how long should i wait before i start asking her if she's made up her mind or what she's thinking. the suspense is killing me but i don't want to pressure her too much and push her away so please ladies help me out here

Answer 1

If she has an 8month old son.......then she has not been out of her last relationship that long. She may not want to rush in again. Her memories are a little to fresh still give her time to get through her pain.
Somtimes men think because they care so much for a person that women should want a man that is as caring as you, especially if they have been treated badly in a past relationship. And its not that we don't, or don't care........but solace time is needed. If you wait and don't do that or elese thing she will marry you! We really do want a man that Loves all of us.
This happened to me during my seperation from my ex- I dated this wonderful gentleman the day my divorce became final he asked me to marry him and presented me with a beautiful engagment ring........I had never seen a diamond so big.......and have never again.........I just wasen't ready yet......about six months later he said marry me or elese...........I took the elese!
Its been 13 years now and I never did get married............but I have a wonderful guy we have been together for 12 years........He stopped asking after a few years........and has never once said "or elese"
We are happy..and being legally obligated to be here, is just something he didn't expect from me and...........I say why mess up a great thing? No I am kidding........I don't think marrige messes up a relationship......I think we just don't know we are not married? We just haven't discussed it lately.

Answer 2

Maybe she just needs time to think about it. How long have you been seeing each other? Is she early out of a serious relationship?
Have you discussed what you both are looking for in your relationship, and where you want it to go? You may have asked too soon. I assume, she has had a serious relationship before, since she has a child. If it was a bad scene or she has not had enough time to re adjust her feelings; she may not be ready to make a commitment as serious as marriage. Give her time and try to open up to her and let her open up to you. It is important to make her feel comfortable enough with you, for her to be able to open up to you. Communication, is important. It doesn't sound like you two are doing very much communicating. That is a vital necessity of a successful, happy relationship. Good luck

Answer 3

That can be a tough question to answer...it is different for each lady. I would say that she is probably both nervous and scared because she has not only herself to worry about, but she also has her child. My suggestion would be to wait a few days, and when the time is right, talk to her in a way that is both non-threating and does not put any pressure on her.

Good Luck Man!

Answer 4

This is something you need to discuss with her right away. If you are going to have a life with this lady you need to know what she is feeling. If she is not ready you need to know this, you can't be a good partner by trying to ignore what is going on. Trust me whether it is yes or no not right now you both need to get your feelings out in the open. Honesty is the only way to have or start a relationship. I hope she says yes. Good luck!

Answer 5

The right time will come, just wait patiently. That's the only thing you can do. Or another way to get it out of her, set up a romantic dinner after the baby is sleeping and it will remind her that she should answer.

good luck

Answer 6

I'M NOT A LADY BUT, I AM A MINISTER AND I THINK I CAN HELP YOU OUT. IT'S NOTHING LIKE GETTING ADVICE FROM ANOTHER MAN. IF I WAS YOU I WOULD WAIT A WHILE BECAUSE YOU'VE JUST ASKED A LADY THAT YOU LOVE TO DEVOTE THERE TIME TO YOU, OR IN BETTER WORD GIVE THE REST OF THERE LIFE TO YOU, AND YOU HAVE TO RESPECT A WOMANS DECISIONS, AND GIVE HER TIMR SHE MIGHT BE NERVOUS, YOU NEVER KNOW. SO GIVE IT TIME, HAVE FAITH AND LET GOD DO THE REST. LET ME KNOW HOW EVERYTHING WENT

Answer 7

What does she need to think about? Maybe you prematurely popped the question. Take the pressure off completely, tell her you can wait, and whatever she decides is TRULY fine. Good Luck

Answer 8

What.... Did you ask her to marry her when you gave her the ring? If so, did she just say I need to think about it?

I always thought that you asked, she said yes, and then you put the ring on her finger.

Is she wearing the ring? If so, I guess you can take that as a yes.

Maybe you just need to ask her again, soon.....

Answer 9

1st i would start the hints do alot of family type stuff and if you really love her son make sure she knows your good with kids and that your completely harmless cause some mothers well we take it slow simply for our children we kinda sit back and watch in other words we use our naked eye .not to sound funny but she may love you and want to be with you but she has a child thats not yours so she may be just making sure all is good with you and her baby so id 1st give her the oppertunity first to see that your a harmless loving person because like i said she may love you and want to be with you but she may be reasuring herself that all is great with you and the baby and how your always gonna be with and towards the baby

Answer 10

what you are asking from her is a life long commitment, so i think she has the right to think about it thorougly before deciding specially if she wants this to last. so give her time and i am sure that when she has made up her mind, she will tell you. be patient, i thinks the odds are for you!