Iam 18 years old and a freshman in Collge, do you think that 10 pm is a good curfew for an 18 year old ?My parents never let me go out past that time, im so fed up because no party ever gets good before 10 pm, they get all pist off at me if i ask to stay even 30 min more,Do you think im just being stubborn, or should they start letting me go out and trusting me more.I do all the chores they want me to,but when it comes to me going out i get Bull S**t from my dad and a nd mom, i cant even ask without them getting mad at me!I never go out for that same reason cause if i do end up going out A.they never want to take me and they want one of my friends to drive me to the party( i dont have my drivers license yet) B.If i do go out they want me back before 10 pm and C.they will give me bull s**t if i come back 5 min late or asking them if i can stay a little longer. Iam so embarrassed with my friends cause im the one that always kills the mood ansd has to leave early! Im so fed up help!!!!!
2006-10-21 19:32:14 · 15 answers · asked by onelove 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think your parents are over the top on the 10:00 curfew. Even though it is their house and you should follow their rules if you live there, I think they are too strict. You should be able to stay out until midnight at your age. I'm imagining the reason you don't have a drivers license is that they have not let you get one. Well, you can get one without their permission at 18 so get to it. How do you get to school without driving? I really don't see any way out of this for you except to graduate and move out ASAP. They should really watch their step though...being really strict can push a child right out the door.
2006-10-21 19:53:37 · answer #1 · answered by DeborahDel 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you want your curfew lifted, there is only one way, well two but only one and remain in your parents' home. You must start being responsible for yourself. This means, getting a job. Yes its hard to go to school and hold down a job. It would be much harder to do it while trying to pay rent, health care, tuition, food, clothing, toiletries, makeup, transportation, etc., etc., You are an adult now. The first steps to self reliance is self responsibility. Paying your own way, meeting your own needs. One of these days your going to have a whole family depending on you the way you're depending on your parents now. One of these days your' going to have business partners, customers, employees or subordinates depending on you to be the responsible one for their sakes. You should have learned these lessons already and that's why they still have a curfew for you even though you are an adult. When they won't have to worry that you know how to be responsible for yourself, how to stay sober enough to protect yourself in a strange environment, how to limit your party so that you can make it to your job the next morning or class the next morning. In short, GROW UP. Then you won't have a curfew at all.
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2006-10-22 03:01:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't really need to be out past 10. There's nothing you need to do at night that you can't do during the day. You should be focusing on your studies. From time to time, there will be an event that warrants staying out late.
If you don't like it, then don't live with your parents, pay for your own college and rent and car and so forth, and be an adult. Which is more important-- succeeding in school and becoming a professional, or partying?
2006-10-22 02:37:57 · answer #3 · answered by shrinkydinkheart 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You live with your parents in their house so you have to obey their rules. I know that its hard being 18 and having a curfew have you tried renting an apartment with some friends because it seem that they are not letting you grow up try talking to them if that doesn't work then just stay until you can afford it or move in with some relatives
2006-10-22 02:39:31 · answer #4 · answered by This is just my opinion! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In an earlier version of me when i was your age i would of been angry also with my parents..truth is because they are your parents they tend to be protective and at your age you think this is unfair and in some circustances it is..but if you want freedom hun youre going to have to move out and get your own place otherwise youre just gong to abide by their rules..think of it like this..if you were working and youre boss asked you to type a letter even though that is not your job wouldnt you type it so tht you can keep your job?...ok that may be a bad example but i hope you get my drift..your parents mean the best for you..but my advice is if you wanht to do what you wanna you must leave the house and be independent..otherwise youre stuck
2006-10-22 02:40:00 · answer #5 · answered by sinful vampyra 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Okay, well obviously you live at home. You basically have no rights living at home. Your parents should trust you to stay out as late as you want if you are mature. But you are living the life of a 13 year old, so it seems like you aren't that mature yet. Obviously there are some facts being omitted. If you hate it that much, join the military.
2006-10-22 02:38:41 · answer #6 · answered by Patty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, A) You're freakin 18! Get a driver's license you sponge!
B) Maybe you should think of getting a job if you don't already have one and start saving money.
C) Their house, their rules. If you don't like, move out.
Geez! You sound like my best friend! She's 25 and still depends on her mother for everything. She's a suck-tit. I hope you aren't or at least, don't become one. Cut the umbilical cord and move on.
2006-10-22 02:38:13 · answer #7 · answered by garfield 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your 18 and in college ? move out ! If not deal with it because they have a roof over your head and food for you. you want to play then you pay too! And yes it is that easy. You are of legal age to take care of your self.
2006-10-22 02:52:53 · answer #8 · answered by Liz H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They just want you to focus on the important things. Yes, I think they are being a bit unfair, considering your an adult. Have you given them a reason to doubt your judgment in the past?
2006-10-22 02:36:44 · answer #9 · answered by D N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple, your 18 get a job move out. Then you can be out for however long you want.
2006-10-22 05:22:09 · answer #10 · answered by no duh! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋