My inlaws hate me becuase i am not there relegion. They wont even give me a chance. I am making every effort to learn about there relegion. but they still think i am no good. they dont even know me. and my boyfriend doesnt really stand up for me.. it seems like its 7 verses me. i dont want to have to make him choose but i am not sure there is any other way.. he says family and friends dont really matter that it is just betwerrn him and I.. But i think you marry someone you marry there family to...They think i am a horrible person because i have tattoos and i used to drink on occassion. and sometimes swear. but since i have been with my boyfriend i have not drank and my swearing is comming to an end..i have gone to there church and am reading books about it and it just isnt enough for them i an wondering if anything will be good enough. and now i am preganant and i wonder if my children will be good enough??
2006-10-21 19:21:45 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Unfortunately this is not an easily answered question. There are many marriages of people with different religious beliefs that work our and many that don't. If he is not standing up for you and they are not giving you a chance there will not be much you can do and they may take it out on your children too. This is ultimately something you will have to work out with your Fiance an his family and decide whether you can live with how they treat you, and how they make you feel. If you make him choose, you will both lose in the long run.
2006-10-21 19:29:06 · answer #1 · answered by rompecabezas_sin_resolver 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to walk together when both people don't share the same faith or goals --- makes things difficult when this relationship will soon have an innocent baby caught in the middle of all this drama.
Honestly, I'd say part from him and make a stable home life for you and the baby that's coming...
2006-10-21 19:31:42 · answer #2 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You haven't mentioned what religion they are. If theirs is anything like mine, you can go to their pastor and explain the situation to him. Let him speak to them for you. It sounds like you are making a real effort to join their church already. That's great. Now, about that boyfriend, if he won't stand up for you, and if he is engaging in pre-marital sex, it sounds to me like he isn't following that religion very well. In fact, because of all the pre-judging, it sounds like none of the family is following their religion very well. Christianity is one thing above all else. It is supposed to be welcoming unbelievers into a faith walk, into their fold, especially if you are making an effort to join. You might be better off, to call off any wedding plans until everybody is on the same page. I would recommend pre-marital counseling to resolve all the issues before making such a deep commitment. You are better off raising that baby on your own, than simply walking into a family that condemns you. Once you find acceptance within that church, the family's credibility, if they have any will defang that prejudice.
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2006-10-21 19:38:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please! Think about what you are saying. If he dose not support you now most likely he never will. If it feels like 7 against you it probably is. So far they have you questioning if you are bad? what kind of man do that to one he loves? Even if you convert you can pretty well expect you will never be good enough for his family and maybe not for him......Do you really think he loves you as much as you love him? In marriage vows they use the word honor - Is this honor?
2006-10-21 19:38:29 · answer #4 · answered by Liz H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try so hard they need time you are not the "one" they thought he would marry just try not to make your husband choose he loves you both....
Next you are going to have a baby before marriage you may have them in a really tizzy now so get ready
They can still love the child and not like you at all.
2006-10-21 20:34:55 · answer #5 · answered by aaricka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in case you adult males are not even married yet, you are able to opt to carry off for a lengthy time period. It received't paintings in case your husband remains performing like a baby round them. Why can't/received't he say something to them? If he loved you sufficient to get married, he might want to face as a lot as them and enable them comprehend that he chosen you and there is no longer something that they could be able to do about it. tell your guy that you 2 want a damage from them, if he doesn't imagine so, he's doubtless one in each and every of the incorrect guy for you. My mom in regulation acted as notwithstanding I stole her infant boy from her when we were given married. That replaced into 2 years in the past and she is a lot extra constructive now. We see my in guidelines about once a week and it truly works out in basic terms large.
2016-12-05 02:29:18 · answer #6 · answered by finnen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, u r certainly not marrying into the family. it doesnt matter if his family dont like u as long as ur bf loves u...its not that he doesnt stand up for u but maybe he's as stressed as u too. but he knows that relationships is only about u n him, not his family. about ur children, all u need is good communication with them. religions do help but sometimes it doesnt affect much. dont worry too much. wish u a happy wedding n good luck!
2006-10-21 19:31:53 · answer #7 · answered by nini moreal 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
that is your right on religion and you arent marring his family so let them know that. in my opion?
2006-10-21 19:31:47 · answer #8 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU ARE WHO YOU ARE! IF THEY CAN'T EXCEPT THAT THEN LET IT BE THEIR PROBLEM. FOCUS ON YOU, YOUR MAN AND YOUR BABY. DO NOT CHANGE WHO YOU ARE. THEY ARE NOT WORTH ALL THIS STRESS. DON'T TRY AND PLEASE THEM YOU'LL NEVER BE GOOD ENOUGH. SO I SAY F*CK THEM.
2006-10-21 20:38:42 · answer #9 · answered by i'm smart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋