I think I am going through depression? just need encouragement?

Question

I have had so much happen since aug 2005, a pregnancy, miscarriage, my husband left me, another miscarriage, a divorce a major car accident, at one point the dr thought I had breast cancer, at another drs thought I had a heart defect, I lost a job, moved, lost two pets, started a new job, and went back to school, also started a new relationship 6 months ago....now all I do is work ,school, sleep and cry when no one is around, i am so lonely and I don't know why? I am happy when my boyfriend is around but as soon as he goes to work I get very depressed and cry and sleep, my job, and school work are being put at risk, I just need some hope... everything is so different and I dont know where my life is going...I just need hope

please someone answer, I need to know, is there hope?

thank you for all the good answers, you all were right i should focus on the positives, and I really have been trying to, just lately I felt really down, you all helped me see I can make it, I just need to keep my head high

Answer 1

Please, please I can't encourage you enough to go and get screened for depression. Seek out a counselor and get treated via couseling and medication if warranted. You can do this, you will get through this, but allow yourself to get some supports in place to do so such as counseling and medication. If you don't have insurance, most areas have mental health services free of charge or on a sliding fee scale for those without insurance that need the services. And, from what you shared it does sound like you have been through a lot lately, a lot of stress, a lot of change. But, you have gotten through it and you will continue to get through it--you must believe in yourself and your ability to successfully go through these things. Also, some of the things you mentioned are positive ones, albeit stressful, they are still positive. Have you allowed yourself to think about this? Have you allowed yourself and have you given yourself permission to think about the things you are grateful for? To think about the ways in which you are proud of yourself? Food for thought...
You survived the car accident
You are employed at a new job
You have a supportive and loving boyfriend
You are in school and working toward those goals
You have a place to live
You do not have cancer
You do not have a heart defect
You are stronger than you give yourself credit for
You will be happy and healthy again
You will smile today, tomorrow and the next day
You can do this
Whatever you decide "this" is.

Answer 2

Finding religion is all well and good and if that's what you choose then good for you. But if that's not something you think will help you, at least at this point in your life, then just know that everyone faces adversity. There will always be obstacles in your life, there will always be hard times. It may seem that some people have it easier, and some people do, but that's life. It's not trying to pick on you, that's just how it goes. And I'm not going to say look at all the people that have it worse than you because that doesn't negate your problems. Just think of all the things you have overcome in the past and know that you will eventually overcome your current problems. As for having a hard time dealing with being alone, try to find something that you can become passionate about. A hobby is good, but an even better thing to do would be to find something along the lines of self-improvment, whether it be exercising, reading more, learning to do something, whatever. That way you will not only be improving something about yourself, it will boost your self-esteem and ease your depression.

Answer 3

DDDAAAAMMMMMNNNNNN that is rough. It sounds like u need a vacation. There's always hope so you shouldn't get down. Cry as much as you can, seriously. I think you should make struggling your theme for right now. Wake up in the mornings, very early, go for a walk. Start walking a little before the sun rises and it's still chilly. Stop messing with dudes if you can, I know you probably need company in your life but dont you have any friends? I think that you should take your miscarriges as the biggest life lesson you could possible learn from. You need to talk to somebody that is close to you. Just let it all out, you know? Write a journal for yourself. Write everything, and when the feeling of depression comes over you and you feel like crying and can't write anymore, that is the time you should hold yourself and write down everything you feel. Think of everything that you are involved in and look the potential positives that they could produce if carried out properly. Your school, your work. Let the negatives be reminders to you that the road only goes as far as the ditches you make it out of. But the ditches you make it out of also make patches that protect you from future ditches. So always keep your mind on climibing out of these ditches and before you know it, you'll have climbed so high that you'll be standing above every problem you've ever faced and it's smooth sailing from there. I bet you could make it through this rough time better if you were on your own because that would make it one less person to depend on. This will allow you to be independent on a whole new level. Stay clean, i'm guessing you may already be, but being sober will put you in a better position to take control of your life as well as yourself. Just look for something, anything that you could be happy about, and look to God for any problems you have, and don't ever forget to thank Him for the good thing you have, and will get as well.

God Bless You

GO TEAR IT UP!

Answer 4

Loss of trust and loss and abandonment are some of the more horrid ways to find out about our weakness. Being human sucks someone once said to me you don't know how often that line comes into my head. I suggest you have a very large glass of your favorite beverage turn off your phone and let yourself float freely within the anger, betrayal, the hurt child that we all hide so well from others cannot be held from speaking in our thoughts and playing hellish games in our hearts. Awareness is when cinderella dies a horrid cruel death an undeserving monstrosity. We cannot forget our teachings but we can learn of their contrivance and the ultimate prices we all pay for dreams within the ideal! It is of no value you have come through the burning ashes of the universe to be here now and your story is writen in every time and location throughout eternity your very breath is known and recorded in the fabrics of the mysteries, and the very energy you own is and has always been part of the universe you radiate out your soul in each energetic movement you make think , or feel. where they go out there somewhere! But they are and will always be you. Whatever you are feeling it is appropriate for you to fear. pain creates fear and fear to hiding and protecting suffer yourself a while longer as you ponder on your desires what they are, and maybe even who you are. Then you can let some of this go, let the random thoughts instruct you as to whats coming in and what you need personal time with. And please remember that when broken we often wish to strike out, do it with a maturity so that you can walk away from all circumstances clean and free of regret. where there is darkness plant a garden when the light finally hits there your work will have been done.

Answer 5

Yes Brandy you have been through a lot in a short period of time, it is no wonder you feel emotionally exhausted. Even one incident on your list would cause some people to be depressed, but you have had event after event happen-=-good for you for searching for answers and encouragement-it's a sign that you are a lot healthier than you think. Depression sometimes runs in families, I think it is more circumstantial than genetic in your case. There are things you can do to refresh your spirit--listen to peaceful music, maybe music mixed with nature sounds such as streams or maybe nature sounds mixed with classical music or wind chimes. Try to simplify your life and not run yourself ragged. I believe it is easier to be depressed if you are physically exhausted. You have been through so many heavy duty emotions and experiences. I think there is a lot of hope. You obviously have a lot of hope Brandy or you wouldn't have made it this far. Don't be afraid to take the phone off the hook when you need rest. Turn the TV off for awhile. Try to lower the noise and activity level around you until it is manageable. It is good that you are out and about with people because this will help fight the blahs and lethergy and oversleeping that some depressed people experience. But again, don;t load your social calendar up to such an extent that you will get frantic trying to be everything to everybody. Religious faith helps me a great deal--prayer and reading the Psalms.
Walks in Nature have always done my soul good. A walk by the river, going to the beach or lake-- the idea is to give your spirit time to heal and gain strength. Since I tend to experience "Winter Blues" I put beautiful screen savers on my computer. Did you know you can go to different web sites that have beautiful nature photos and down load them to "My documents"--> my photos, and then there is a built in slideshow feature that will allow you to have a slide show of all the beautiful pictures you have found. I include multi-colored fractals too! Anything that is pleasant and uplifting and calming Brandy, because there are so many other things to bring us down or make us feel frazzled. Be kind to yourself. Looking in the mirror first thing in the morning and smiling at yourself and saying something positive like, "Today I feel loved, loving, and lovable." It's up to you. I truly feel people can help themselves in many ways to make it through depression. Counselling with someone you trust and maybe the moderate use of prescription anti-depressants might help. It's nothing to be ashamed of. Sometimes our brain chemistry gets slightly off. At any rate Brandy, you sound like a caring person--I saw how many answers you have given, and you wouldn't have bothered if you were not a caring person. You'gve been through a lot, it's ok to grieve. I think you will find the hope not only to carry on but prosper.

Answer 6

It seems to me that when you see how other people are worse off than you are it can make you more humble. Count your blessings it could be so much worse. They say some things are meant to be for a reason. Find a good reason. Find something to be happy about. Favorite shows, movies and books to get into. Favorite things to do; hobbies etc. Something to be passionate about. Look over your old grade school and high school stuff. And the teachers will be taught. What would you do differently to make kids like school more etc.There's always hope.

Answer 7

This is depression, but as it is reactive to a recent loss of relationship, you should be able to pull through this and make a full recovery. You will need to go and see your GP as soon as you can. Some anti-depressants may help you initially, and something to re-establish your sleep pattern would be very helpful!! Take care, and try to keep the future in sight, you wont always feel like this!!

Answer 8

One thing that I see is that your a strong women because all that you have been through your still surviving. Maybe seeking a relationship with God will be helpful because he has that scripture throw your burden on him and that has worked for me because he is the only person that I can be totally honest with and then you have to try to pick up the pieces not just live but be alive live life do all the things you wanted to do but couldnt cause your husband didnt want to you know what I am talking about like traveling the world cutting your hair it's time to take charge of your life I know you can do it because from what you have been through I can tell your strong

Answer 9

Regardless of what has happened to you in the past, at least you are alive! At least you have someone in your life that makes you happy, some people don't have that! Don't count your loses, count your blessings! You just have to find it in yourself to keep you head up! I know it's easier said than done, but you have to find the silver lining in all lifes crazy situations! I mean at least you have the opportunity to go back to school, and you have a job! Even though you may not see it you are alot luckier than alot of people! Don't think so negative, someone out there always has it alot worse than you! But find the courage and the strength within your self to smile! For you will never fully live your life with your head down, not looking forward to where you are going! You just need to find the courage, strength and determination to wake up each morning and say to yourself, I'm going to live MY life, and not have my life live me! Confide in your boyfriend, let him know what's happening, he may be able to help you more than you think!

Answer 10

I know this probably isn't what you want to hear, but the thing that gives me hope is knowing that because of my faith in Jesus, I have eternal life with him in heaven. Without that anchor, I would most likely feel just as lost and confused as you are. I would try to find a good bible-based church and talk to one of the pastors there, I know from personal experience that it really helps. I'll be praying for you.