Why do Chritians not understand how hard it is to be a Christian homosexual?

Question

Please. I don't wish to see any bashing or hate messages ok? And please read my whole post before answering.
The Bible says that man lying with man is wrong am I not right? It's stated in the bible so no one can really argue with that.
However if you understand homosexuals, I am one by the way, you will know that they have same sex attractions due to some genetic stuff and is not of choice.
Homosexuals face condemnation from other Christians on a daily basis and I don't know anyone who would want to put up with that. You don't know how much I wish to be straight and it's really sad actually.
Homosexuals who are religious, such as myself, read many passages quoted from the Bible saying how they are not welcome to the kingdom of God. It's really hard to put up with the Bible contradicting your thinking. I can't help but have those same sex attractions as much as I would like to change but can't.


Try putting yourself into the shoes of a homosexual and imagine how you would think.

My main point is to ask for Christians to support homosexuals with your love even though you disagree with our lifestyle. Actually I don't really have that kind of lifestyle yet because I'm only 13 years old.

My defination of support is not to support the act of man on man but to show your love in a way Jesus would and just show that you care. It would really help.

To Aaron:
"Why do you want pitty for being homosexual? You're tempted by sex with another guy? If you're a Christian, then why are you so tempted to commit sin?" Aaron.
My answer:
The reason why homosexuals are tempted to "sin" is the same reason why anyone else is tempted to steal, lie, give in to lust. It is in human nature. Duh.

To Josh and David S:
I appreciate you concern but I am very sure that homosexuality is genetic. The very example is myself.

I am a gay guy and have always been really girly since like 3 or 4 years old and the attractions came when I was like 10. Can you say that I was a homosexual sex maniac at 3 years old and my bad ways have distorted the way I think. At freaking 3 years old?!

To eantaelor:
Ugh! If you don't freaking care, don't post at all. My goodness!

To smartassawhip:
I disagree with your statement saying that homosexuals have a bad childhood that has made them that way. There might be people that are that way but it's certainly not that way in my case.

I have been growing up with 2 heterosexual brothers and I must say that my childhood has been very pleasant and I have never been sexually abused or have I seen any homosexual stuff on television.

Answer 1

Please read this following article which may be of help to you....


The Bible does not call particular attention to homosexuals as a group to be ostracized or hated by Christians.

Moreover, it does not teach that God will punish homosexuals—or any of his creatures—by burning them in a fiery hell forever.—Compare Romans 6:23.

However, the Scriptures do set forth the moral standards of our Creator, which oftentimes run counter to modern-day mores. Homosexual acts, heterosexual sex between unmarried persons, and bestiality are all condemned in the Bible. (Exodus 22:19; Ephesians 5:3-5) God destroyed Sodom and Gomorrah because of such sexual practices.—Genesis 13:13; 18:20; 19:4, 5, 24, 25.

Regarding acts of homosexuality, God’s Word pointedly says: “This is a hateful thing.” (Leviticus 18:22, The New Jerusalem Bible) God’s Law to Israel stipulated: “When a man lies down with a male the same as one lies down with a woman, both of them have done a detestable thing. They should be put to death without fail.” (Leviticus 20:13) The same punishment was prescribed for those committing bestiality, incest, and adultery.—Leviticus 20:10-12, 14-17.

The apostle Paul was inspired to describe homosexual acts as expressions of “disgraceful sexual appetites” and as “contrary to nature.” He writes: “That is why God gave them up to disgraceful sexual appetites, for both their females changed the natural use of themselves into one contrary to nature; and likewise even the males left the natural use of the female and became violently inflamed in their lust toward one another, males with males, working what is obscene and receiving in themselves the full recompense, which was due for their error. And just as they did not approve of holding God in accurate knowledge, God gave them up to a disapproved mental state, to do the things not fitting.”—Romans 1:26-28.

The Scriptures offer no apologies, no concessions, no ambiguity; homosexual practices, adultery, fornication, are all repulsive in God’s sight. Accordingly, true Christians do not water down the Bible’s position on “disgraceful sexual appetites” merely to become more popular or more acceptable to modern culture. Nor do they agree with any movement dedicated to the promotion of homosexuality as a normal life-style.


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HELP FOR YOU



How Can I Make These Feelings Go Away?

“As offensive as I now find homosexuality, at times I find myself attracted to it. These feelings disturb me, sometimes day and night. I have prayed to Jehovah continually, ‘Take away these terrible feelings!’ Will they ever go away?”—Dennis.

A NUMBER of Christian youths—male and female—have made similar desperate pleas for help. They feel inclined toward homosexuality but want no part of the promiscuity, disease, and moral bankruptcy that characterize that life-style. More important, they want to please God, and in his Word he pointedly condemns homosexuality.—Romans 1:26, 27; Colossians 1:10.

It is often claimed that homosexuals cannot change. This is not true, however. Some early Christians formerly practiced homosexuality, but they changed. (1 Corinthians 6:9-11) Yes, contrary to popular myths, people can and do change. However, while a youth may successfully avoid homosexual acts, he or she may find it difficult to eliminate entirely homosexual desire. Confessed one young man: “I’ve tried to change my feelings. I’ve prayed to Jehovah for help. I read the Bible. I’ve heard talks on the subject. But I don’t know where to turn.”

There is no magical or instantaneous cure. Dennis recalls: “I pushed myself into promiscuous heterosexual activity in an effort to become a ‘man.’ All of this was in vain and only created more pain.” Nevertheless, by applying Bible principles, one can cope with such feelings.

Recognizing Wrong Thinking Patterns

First of all, realize that actions are preceded by thoughts. (Isaiah 55:6, 7; James 1:14, 15) Indeed, Dr. Wayne W. Dyer notes: “You cannot have a feeling (emotion) without first having experienced a thought.” So at the root of homosexual desires may be a pattern of distorted thinking regarding oneself, the opposite sex, love, and so forth. Before one can ‘make one’s mind over’ and change such thoughts, one must first identify them. (Romans 12:2) Doing so can give one valuable insight into just why one is drawn to members of the same sex.

How can a person do so? One way is to pray, as did the psalmist: “Search through me, O God, and know my heart. Examine me, and know my disquieting thoughts, and see whether there is in me any painful way.” (Psalm 139:23, 24) It may also help to discuss one’s feelings with a discreet and mature Christian. As Proverbs 27:17 puts it, ‘iron sharpens iron.’ One young man thus confided in a Christian elder who was known for being understanding and compassionate. It was by no means easy for him to trust someone with his secret, but a valuable relationship developed. “I can talk to him about anything,” he says. The elder not only listens but, by skillful questioning, helps draw out the young man’s feelings and thoughts.—Compare Proverbs 20:5.

If a male has had a rejecting father or an abusive one, he may find that his attraction to the same sex is little more than a futile attempt to fill a need for fatherly love. Having never had a male role model, he may also feel what Dr. Joseph Nicolosi calls “a sense of weakness and incompetence with regard to those attributes associated with masculinity, that is, power, assertion, and strength.” If a person takes inventory of the specific traits in which he feels deficient, he may discover to his surprise that these are the very traits that he finds attractive in other men.

Cruel “Lessons” From the Past

Other youths come to realize that their problem is related to past traumas. Recalls one girl: “I was exposed to pornographic material with homosexual themes. I started to develop unnatural desires.” A young man states: “I was a victim of incest by my father. As a result, sex with a man seemed normal to me.” Such painful experiences may teach victims to dislike or even fear the opposite sex or to equate love with physical intimacies. One victim thus describes her sexual desires as “an emotional, not a physical, need—a need for tenderness and understanding.”

Admittedly, though, the causes of homosexuality are complex, and many cases defy simple explanation. Regardless of what has caused faulty thinking, however, there is much one can do to correct it.

Making One’s Mind Over

The best way is to use God’s Word. Take, for example, a young man who finds himself attracted to men who display the masculine qualities he feels he lacks. Or a young woman who is fearful of the opposite sex. One way that both can develop a healthier view of masculinity is to study the example of Jesus. (1 Peter 2:21) He was a perfect model of masculine power balanced by gentleness. (Matthew 19:14; John 19:5) One young man thus finds it helpful to study the book The Greatest Man Who Ever Lived. “Getting to know Jesus redefines my image of what a man should be like,” he says.

Meditating on Bible texts that deal with such subjects as God’s view of sex, love, and same-sex friendships is likewise helpful in correcting one’s thinking.—Genesis 1:27, 28; Ruth 1:16, 17; 1 Samuel 18:1; Proverbs 5:18, 19; 1 Corinthians 13:4-8.

It is also important to avoid dwelling on wrong thoughts. Oftentimes these urges are particularly powerful when one is lonely, depressed, or disappointed. (Proverbs 24:10) “The only way to change what we are is to change bad thoughts to good ones,” says one Christian woman. When an unchaste urge comes over her, she reminds herself of God’s view of homosexuality. A teenage boy says: “Whenever I have homosexual urges, I meditate on my favorite Bible text.” (Compare 2 Corinthians 10:4; Philippians 4:8.) Others have found it helpful to fall asleep to the sound of the various Bible-based Watch Tower Society audiocassettes.

Just as how we think affects the way we act, how we act can affect how we think and feel. So one must also cease behavior and association that trigger or reinforce wrong desire. (1 Corinthians 15:33) One may also need to ‘keep on guard’ when it comes to public rest rooms, beaches, locker rooms, and other places that could expose one to temptation.—Psalm 119:9.

Masturbation is another unhealthy practice to avoid. For many homosexual men and women, it is an out-of-control compulsion. “I’ve had trouble with masturbation since I was six years old,” confesses one young man. “Sexual fantasizing reinforced my homosexual feelings.” Fight this unclean habit!—Colossians 3:5.

On the other hand, it is also important that one establish healthy patterns of behavior. Some have suggested that if a young man develops masculine traits, he may be less attracted to other men. Of course, a young man may not know how to do this if he never had a strong male role model as a child. He may even be ill at ease with his own body and feel awkward or unmanly. Engaging in physical work, moderate exercise, or relaxing sports activities often helps in this regard. (Compare 1 Timothy 4:8.) But just as the young man Timothy became like a son to the apostle Paul, one may find it particularly helpful to develop a healthy understanding with a balanced older Christian man. (Philippians 2:19-22; 2 Timothy 3:10) By establishing clear behavioral boundaries and cultivating open communication, such a relationship can be warm and trusting, yet free of any erotic overtones.

Above all, one must take a strong spiritual offense. Regular study of the Bible, prayer, and sharing one’s faith with others help keep one’s mind on a spiritual track. (Psalm 55:22; 119:11; Romans 10:10) At times feelings of unworthiness may make it hard to be around fellow Christians, but the Bible warns against isolating oneself. (Proverbs 18:1) Wholesome association with Christians of both sexes can help one to stay balanced.—Hebrews 10:24, 25.

If you are plagued by homosexual desire, these suggestions may prove helpful. Do not be overly discouraged, though, if the bad feelings persist. God understands your feelings and has compassion for those who struggle to serve him. (1 John 3:19, 20) In the new world, mankind will experience the healing of all the maladies that afflict us. (Revelation 21:3, 4) In the meantime, rely on God and fight against wrong desires. (Galatians 6:9) With time and determined effort, perhaps even the wrong desires themselves can diminish.



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Please know that God can see your heart and he loves you, we all sin many many times ,but ,we must never give up we must not take for granted the value of Christs shed blood for our sins.No matter what sin we commit it can be covered over and forgotten by God when we repent.


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Answer 2

It's sometimes hard for me to understand and I'm a Christian. You are right that the Bible is against homosexuality but there is no sin scale and it is not right to be judgmental just because you sin differently. I believe that homosexuality is a sin but I treat homosexuals with kindness and I have a friend who is gay. The verse you mentioned in Corinthians was originally a letter written to the church at Corinth. The church at Corinth was completely immoral and this is why Paul was skeptical about them being around immoral people. It is not saying that we should not associate with immoral people; it is saying the church in Corinth shouldn't. If I were an alcoholic and I was trying to quit it would be stupid for me to hang around people who will be drinking alcohol because I would be tempted to also. Since I do not have homosexual desires I do not see anything wrong with associating with homosexuals. It doesn't mean telling them that I think what they're doing is OK. It means loving them the way I love any other sinner because we are all sinners. Edit I also agree with the adrift person. My boyfriend used to be a druggie. It's also hard to see all the posts that say that Christians are bigots when I have never met any homosexual or druggie or anyone for that matter who thinks I'm a bigot. Aren't they being bigots by assuming that a whole group of people are bigots just because of their faith? Kilo Romeo: So what you are saying is that Christians shouldn't be allowed to vote?

Answer 3

The Bible throughout plainly states that homosexuality is a violation of Jehovah's standards of morality. For that reason, homosexuality and Christianity are not compatible. At Ro. 12:9, Christians are commanded to "abhor what is wicked."

Answer 4

This is a hard one. I think the reason is that Christians, while saved, are still sinners. I'm not really certain why Christians can more easily accept a Christian adulterer, or a Christian liar, since these are sins, and can also be found to have genetic influence. I'm very sorry for your pain. Please know that God loves you very much, and that there are at least a few Christians out there who are truly understanding and loving.

Answer 5

It's a really good think that you believe in the Bible.
I don't think homosexuality is something we were born homosexual. it's something we become. We certainly not choose to become that. So i think this is something we, you, can fight against. As well as some people stop stealing or stop their dependancy, you can try not to be a homosexual anymore.
This would become your fight.
Some people already change their sex attraction to heterosexuality. Why not you ? with God everything is possible. While waiting think about celibacy. It must be hard so I wish you all the courage you need.

Answer 6

It comes from the men who wrote the bible back in a time period where it wasn't understood, and they are still going by their word, when we are more enlightened now.

I know it's hard to understand why they would treat you this way when they are supposed to be tolerant and treat people as they want to be treated.

I don't believe in punishing people because of the way God made them, so just please know that there are people out there who don't judge you.

Just remember that God says he loves all of his children, and His is the only word that matters. He made you just the way he wanted you. You have nothing to apologize for. They are the ones who have to answer to Him for their actions.

Answer 7

It's definitely good to be gay. And if you believe in a god, it's definitely okay because your god made you that way.

However, after reading the comments over here, I am beginning to doubt whether it's good to be christian! How self-righteous are some people that they think they know that their god doesn't approve of homosexuality? Who are you to speak for god? You should be more humble as humility is one of the christians virtues!

Referring to the bible is no use, since god didn't write the bible. The bible was written over a long period of time (we are talking about centuries here!) by many, many different people.

Answer 8

I am straight, but have rejected my Christian upbringing because of hippocratic stuff like saying homosexuals are bad... I now believe religion to be the ultimate evil and is the main cause of division between people... Christians have never had a problem with making others inferior and telling them what to do... no one is better than anyone, and homosexuals have every right to feel exactly the way they were intended to... you can't put rules on love, and that is what the Bible should be teaching

Answer 9

I can understand your frustration. I'm not homosexual, but I can definitely sympathize. A lot of people seem to think homosexuality is a choice rather than a genetic predisposition, but there is a lot of evidence out there that supports the latter. The only answer for you is that you pray to God and ask for forgivance and live life the best you can. If you can someday change your feelings towards the opposite sex through hard work and maybe counseling, it might work that you can become heterosexual, I have heard of homosexuals that do become hetero, but it is difficult. God bless.

Answer 10

I know what all those scripture's say. and to me they are very confusing and i am straight i have never judged anyone for that because i am not god and i try to live by the scripture judge not lest you be juded my mom came out last year i was a little stunned but do not judge her i love her as much as i alway's have people should not judge we are not GOD!!!!!! true christian's DO NOT JUDGE!!!!! i hope this help's you and i hope you find peace over this god bless.

Answer 11

I am a Christian and a heterosexual. At times, I have sexual thoughts and temptations that God would not approve of. Just because these thoughts enter my mind, that doesn't mean that I have to act on them. I think it's the same for homosexuals.
You mentioned that gays are that way because of their genetics. I'm not sure that's true, but I do know that you can have deliverance from your homosexual lifestyle.
I would recommend the writings of Joe Dallas, a Christian and FORMER homosexual.