Help step children still hate each other it has been 4 yrs and they still fight all the time they hate each. I just do not know what to do they fight everytime we go out anywhere, and i really do not want to take then out any more. and my hubby dose not help it at all, he acts like the kids do and makes it so i want to just walk away and act like i do not know them. ............and help would be great.
2006-10-21 18:57:22 · 10 answers · asked by jlw78418 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
They're competing for parental attention, and when u give it your sulky husband seems to be jealous. How immature on all their part. I suggest you just spend more time to yourself, on a hobby or sport, or bookclub, etc, and let them jell. U are not god. They have to learn independence and only will if u withdraw so they buck up and fill the void. Good luck hon!!!
2006-10-21 19:08:53 · answer #1 · answered by Tall Guy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your hubby should be the one to help with this situation instead of acting like the children himself. They need to be set down and be told that if they don't stop the fights, that you will not take care of the house or them! They will be held responsible for their own rooms and of course the cleaning of the house and preparing their own meals and clean up of dishes.
2006-10-21 19:08:43 · answer #2 · answered by p c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try this. sit them down at the kitchen table, family meeting style and lay out the law. you're tired of all the fighting and drama and you are no longer going to have words with your husband over it so they are going to sit there until they handle it themselves. then, walk away. if they get up from the table without some sort of rules, march their butts back in there. make them sign a treaty that they negotiate and hang it on the wall so they are all reminded of it. make sure there are consquences for breaking the rules. and good luck. also, you could try to split them up. one of your kids in a room wiht one of his kids, or when they fight, make them share the punishment. basically make them spend time with each other.
2006-10-22 04:18:50 · answer #3 · answered by kajunprincezz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am from a blended family. I had two step-brothers that were the same age as I am, we never got along because we were together all the time.......8 years later we don't talk to each other and we are happy not to talk to each other.
2006-10-21 19:06:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Disappear for a couple of weeks without telling any of them. Leave your hubby to deal with the mess and let those brats worry about you for a change.
2006-10-21 19:30:12 · answer #5 · answered by adrianne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try some faimly activitys. nothing to fancy. everyone chilling in the den is a great start. even if they are listenign to ipods or something of the like. just keep building your own relationship with the hubby and his childeren as much as your own. i dunno if you are a relijous person or not, but if you are pray. talk to a trusted friend of the holy house. maybe the rabi will have ideas? i wish you luck, and i understand.
2006-10-21 19:09:08 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs.Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family counseling. Your husband should be helping you, not making it worse. Ignoring them will not help. I have tried to ignore my dad for years, and it is no better than it once was.
2006-10-21 19:05:31 · answer #7 · answered by Army Wife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a new man... if he can't take care of the kids , he probably can't take care of his wife's needs either,
2006-10-21 19:11:48 · answer #8 · answered by maxxspeedist 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just try to tell this all to ur kids.....! see if they can understand sommething taht !
2006-10-21 19:00:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
they need councling
2006-10-21 19:01:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋