Ok- this is kind of long. I got pregnant and had a baby when I was 19. I ended up leaving the "sperm donor" of my baby because he was cheating and he never tried to get back into her life. I met my husband and when my daughter was 2 I went to court and had my ex's rights terminated and my husband adopted my daughter. He has caused so many problems for me that I don't feel I can EVER move back to my home state. He has spred lies about me and my husband, he sends me messages (I have them saved), he finds me everytime! Its gotten so bad that I had to make my phone number not listed! Is there anything I can do to make him leave me alone? He has a bad history and I think he is still on parole- don't know if that helps anyone. Please let me know what you think. I appreciate all REAL answers. Again- thanks.
2006-10-21 18:50:07 · 8 answers · asked by Tammy 3 in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
If he is on parole....find out who his parole officer is and report everything to him. I don't know what he is on parole for...but if he doesn't want to go back to jail his parole officer might help with that.
The other thing of course is to file a restraining order. find out what the laws are in the state you live in and the state he lives in about harassment laws and restraining orders
You do have the right to live peacefully. If he signed away his rights to your daughter there would be no reason for any contact at all. I would continue to save all the messages he sends and give copies to the local law enforcement. Also contact a woman's rights group in your area. They may be able to direct you in this matter or at the very least give you the information you need in order to keep your family safe. In most cases men like that continue doing what they do because they know you are afraid of them. Get all the support you can and let everyone know who he is, what he looks like what kind of car he drives etc. The more people that know about him the better off you are simply because he wont have you feeling isolated and afraid. Also talk to a lawyer...sometimes they are able to do more simply because they can cost him money going to court all the time.
Best of luck!
2006-10-21 19:08:06 · answer #1 · answered by Steph 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know EXACTLY how you feel. This is kind of ironic, reading your story...because just in the last two months,(after 13 years), I've gotten a restraining order on my ex-husband. I'll try not to get into too many details....we do have two children together. But I finally figured out that it doesn't mean that "I" have to put up with him. And I finally decided that enough was enough. Got enough sh*t on him from harassing me to present to a judge and was granted a restraining order! ! (Way easier than I anticipated !)
It's great that you have the messages saved. One of the things that I put in my original report was a phone message I had saved of his....Anyway...In my town a organisation called Operation Care helped me draw up the paperwork. Victim/Witness is also a place you can turn to. Call your local P.D. to find out the numbers..... You do not have to put up with him....
Get a restraining order against him......! ! !
Good luck ! ! ! (for real)
2006-10-21 19:05:15 · answer #2 · answered by Sweetea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Report him to the police, and protect yourself and your family.
It sounds like he is stalking and threatining you, and that is against the law.
Keep detailed records of everything that happens, copies of emails, etc. That way it can be presented as evidence if you need to.
See about getting a restraining order, or speak to a lawyer to see what rights you have (many will offer an initial consultation free of charge, and would give you advice on what you can and can't do).
Good luck, and don't give up or let him get to you.
2006-10-21 18:58:25 · answer #3 · answered by star22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Compile your evidence, take it court and request a restraining order. Look for any statements or proof that he is making a threat to you and your family. If he is on parole, he can't sneeze wrong without going back to prison, baby!!
2006-10-21 23:23:39 · answer #4 · answered by Cub6265 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer, pull him into court, get a restraining order. If he is on parole and violates it he goes back to prison.
2006-10-21 19:02:04 · answer #5 · answered by Edward F 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
File an annulment case against your husband on the ground of psychological incapacity for you have to move on with your life.
2006-10-21 18:55:01 · answer #6 · answered by FRAGINAL, JTM 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to gather up all evidence and present this to the police, leave no stone unturned when you tell them what is going on, he seems to be a loose cannon and a threat to your family!
2006-10-21 18:52:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well its great that you keeped the calls you need to get more evedence to show up in chort and you should print this page out so they know that you feel liked youve being stocked and being on the run from him
good luck
2006-10-21 19:02:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋