I am in love with a woman with low auto-estime,
Primarly she thinks she's ugly (and no she does't says it to make me say, "no you're not" beleive me i know).
She hates herself and thinks all she does is useless.
But my biggest concern is that she tells me that i am too much of a man for her and she would not be able to "please" me that i should look for a prettier woman. Even though she loves me.
But i have a scary thought in my mind if she thinks she is not worth anything, Could she sherish a relationship?? because any dweeb with bad intentions (or just looking for a one night stand) could take advantage of her thoughts and do what he wants with her.
2006-10-21 18:44:30 · 8 answers · asked by e)v1n 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She's probably had years of people telling her she's not good enough to feel this badly about herself. You won't be able to change her quickly. Just tell her she's beautiful every day. Tell her how special and wonderful she is. Tell her that she's more than enough woman for you and if she didn't please you, you wouldn't have chosen her in the first place. Let her know that she isn't useless because she serves a purpose of making you happy every day. It's important to understand, though, that you won't be able to change this alone. This is a deep rooted problem within herself that she needs to fix herself. She has to learn how to love herself first. Look into getting her counseling. Maybe the professional can figure out the root of this problem and break it down.
2006-10-21 18:52:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
TAke her a real style salon and say to the stylist. I really like this girl and she does not belivee that the beauty that i see is really there. Can you help me show her how beatiful she is?
You see its not waht you say iut what she can see and feel. No one has ever reached out to her to say i want you to know how beautiful you are. lets start with this and then let me introduce you to what it means to be thought of , seen and treated like the beautiful woman you are. The make over is the visual. What you do after has to be about showing here that you really do believe what you say and feel about her. beauty is always more emotional than it is physical.
2006-10-21 18:53:58 · answer #2 · answered by Danthony 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, what is"low auto-estime"? Do you mean "self-esteem"? If so, if she thinks she's not good enough for you, she probably isn't, or she's just a whiny, needy attention seeker. Do you want to spend the rest of your life putting up with her annoying attitude? Believe me, it will get on your nerves after awhile and you'll wind up strongly disliking her. She needs professional help that you can't give her.
2006-10-21 18:53:52 · answer #3 · answered by Justjam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to motivate her by telling the good things she possesses or the things u think she has something to be proud of (although dont fake it dont tell lies too)...appreciate her beauty or talent or job or body or movements ... start doing that for months then if she hasnt changed, WELL, its time for you to look for another one coz she wont be good in a relationship or this relationship wont work good and chances are you will end up nothing- or no growth in a relationship...
2006-10-21 18:56:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how she feels. After a while that's what women feel that are rejected, ridiculed and not believed. If she loves you, she won't see anyone else. Why would she is she doesn't even think she's good enough for you??? Unless she finds someone to help her to feel better. Just might be someone that is able to do that, you know.......I don't know about her cherishing a relationship, but some women do regardless of how they feel about themselves. That's if they even have one...........
2006-10-21 18:52:38 · answer #5 · answered by silhouette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man she sounds really negative, I would let her know just what you just said, sometimes a girl needs to hear it from someone that has a heart,she may have been takin advantage of in her past and hides behide it.Let her know that you are concern, and you really care about her and she don't need to think negative of herself
2006-10-21 18:49:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL am i the only one that think " auto-estime" is hilarious??
2006-10-21 18:49:57 · answer #7 · answered by Jmyooooh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should show her how great she is for you. Tell her, show her, do anything it takes!
2006-10-21 18:51:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋