My boyfriend is begging me to have a threesome. He loves alot of sex and he said that would make him happy. What should I do? Should I do anything to keep him happy or will I be playing myself? Please HELP!!!!
2006-10-21 18:31:16 · 21 answers · asked by deljuana1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Would it make you happy? Is it as big a fantasy of yours as it is his? Would you have brought it up to him eventually? Would he do a MFM for you?
If the answer to all of the above isn't "yes" than neither of you are prepared to cross that bridge in your relationship. Don't do anything you are not whole-heartedly on board with, you'll just end up resenting him later for pressuring you into it.
Being in a FMF threesome doesn't mean you have to have bisexual activity anymore than a MFM threesome does. You don't have to play with the other woman if you don't want to. In a FMF the center of the attention is the M. In a MFM it is the F.
From someone that has done many threesomes, I can tell you that they are not like what your boyfriend sees on the Internet. If he thinks so he will be sadly mistaken. They are not what you think and done right, for the right reasons better than you could never imagine. :-)
2006-10-23 10:43:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's his right to ask. There's nothing wrong with him approaching the subject. And you know what- I think you should try it, at least once. You will probably feel shame but so what. Tell him you'll have a threesome with him and another girl if you can follow it up with a threesome between you and another man. If he says no then dump him.
2006-10-22 01:40:16 · answer #2 · answered by CyndiLauperfan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Introducing a relationship to polygamy is fraught with problems including trust, self esteem, etc. You risk eroding the fundamental principles of the relationship itself. Some people can make an open lifestyle work for their relationship. However, both people have to be brought into it strongly and both people have to be secure in their love, trust and sexuality.
2006-10-23 03:24:57 · answer #3 · answered by Wolfie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u have never tryed being with a girl how would u know u didnt like it tell him ud like 2 try it by yourself first 2 get use 2 the idea and see if your even going 2 like it cuz if u just jump into it than u may be weirded out by the hole thing and he maybe left in bed with the other women and may decide he want her more cuz shes willing 2 try
2006-10-22 02:02:26 · answer #4 · answered by dikejones1986(friends name 4 me) 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As someone who has done threesomes, and enjoyed them, and had them strengthen our relationship, I don't think you sound like you're in the right place for that. If you're not wanting it, then don't do it.
Tell him he'll have to convince you, but that begging just makes you think he's not man enough to handle it. He'll have to convince you that you'll enjoy it. If you're not convinced you'll enjoy it, the answer is no.
2006-10-23 12:23:55 · answer #5 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only do it if you want to do it. You shouldnt have to do something like that to keep a man. If its something you might want to try, then go for it or maybe ask if you can have one with him and another guy and see how that goes. Remember that you are worth enough to not have to prove your love to this guy by letting him sleep with another girl while with you. I hope everything works out for you.
2006-10-22 06:06:27 · answer #6 · answered by penguinatron 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 23 been w/hubby 6 1/2 years..and he would never ever ask me to do this.....if he wants another girl...why not ask yourself WHYS HE WITH YOU....WHY would you even consider letting him HAVE SEX WITH SOMEONE ELSE RIGHT IN FRONT OF YOU???Thats crazy hon...if you dont feel comfortable,dont DO IT....Ask him how he'd feel if you had sex with another man....??I am sure he wouldnt like THAT very much,,,
Good luck sweety...
2006-10-22 01:34:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it's somethin you really don't want to do then don't. But if it's just something you wouldn't CARE to do, then do it. It doesn't mean anything. It's just sex. And it's every guys dream to have two girls at once, so don't expect him to be the exception.
2006-10-22 20:54:06 · answer #8 · answered by mrmanseven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok try this ask him if he really wants a threesome and if he says yes then tell him it has to be with who ever you choose, then tell him you want it with 2 guys. i bet he changes his mind
2006-10-22 01:39:16 · answer #9 · answered by ccrider4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you let another in this time you can bet that there will be more times.What does your heart tell you to do?No, right well if you have morals and self respect you will tell him it's not your thing.And he's not respecting you either if he goes thru with it.
2006-10-22 01:36:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋