ok, i met this guy a few months ago online right here in answers. and we started chatting and got lots in common. then we met up face to face as we don't live far apart. and then a few weeks ago we went on a date. and it was great. we been chatting still and were planing another date which has been postponed 2 times. He keeps messing around with my emotions. and i'm confused as hell. one min we are ok and the next he has some issue that needs clearing up. we have talked about evryting under the sun. and i have been clear about what i want from this relatonship. so had he i thought. we have feelings for each other but not in serious love . has not gone much farther than kissing and petting. and i think about him all the time.. i may have been pushy he told me i was stressing him out. and now he wants to back off a little. well thats ok i just don't want him to dump me. is he playing games with me or not? should i even pursue this ? and how do i stop thinking about him all the time ?
2006-10-21 18:25:18 · 19 answers · asked by Babygirl20 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i also dream about him. and i have never had a boyfriend before. and i'm not really sexually experianced. he is also lots older than i'am and i'm in my 30's! i really could use some relationship advice. is there anyone else out there in a similer situation?
men and woman are both free to answer this question and i really do only want serious answers please.
2006-10-21 18:28:32 · update #1
it was a very innocent kiss and the touchy feely as one of you put it was he touched my breast once. also i am not trying to smother him i just want to keep the lines of comuntication open. and i'm not interested in doing any online dating i met him online by accident and we fell into dateing after we had been chatting everyday for weeks.... i have trouble meeting guys and he was really my first date one on one with a guy! i live in a very rural place where the guy pool is slim pickings. and i'm not desperate for a boyfriend its just that my feelings towards this guy are serious.......and he told me he has similer feelings for me....
2006-10-21 18:36:58 · update #2
as to how i met a guy on here well i answered his question and he IM'd me. and thats how we chatted. i have since hidden my IM on here. and no i don't think he will answer the question he hasn't been to this site in over a month. also to the one who said i might not have morals i do i will have you know that i have never had sex with anyone as i have been waithing my whole life for mr right . and he is really a nice guy and not a letch.. or a perv.
2006-10-21 18:47:03 · update #3
Have you ever asked him if he is seeing other people? You should.. I would back off a little too,but ask the question first. If he says no, then give the guy some space.. If he really likes you he will come around and he will want to be with you.. If you are the only one calling, and buggin for attention then maybe he is not the guy for you.. you need some patience with this one.. If he is the one.. things will work out they always do.
2006-10-21 18:33:18 · answer #1 · answered by Shy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, d more u go behind a man d more he goes far. Don't show him dat u r crazy about him.I think d more u give importance d more he takes 4 granted . Leave him alone to think what he wants out of dis relationship . After all u can never force anyone into dis . May be he's not ready 4 any kind of rlationship or sth. else is goin in his mind . U say u have discussed about everything . Coudn't u read wat's there in his mind . Since u both have met only once nth. can be concluded from dis. In my opinion let him take firstfoot forward.Try to engage in things u love to do n contrl ur emotions. All the best n bye !
2006-10-21 18:44:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Saty with him, baby he loves you. He only hurts you because he wants you so bad. Besides, you can't leave him, even though he's emotionally mindfucking you, because your CD's are in his truck. Stay with him for another 3 years and keep telling yourself he loves you and that he won't let you leave the house with your 2 kids even to see your friends. If you haven't gotten where I'm going with this and the sarcasm I was using, then maybe you really should stay with him. Trust me, you do deserve better and can get someone who will treat you better. Don't ever feel that it's your fault or that you have to keep going. This is an early sign that he can't handle a relationship and it soon be a relationshit.
2006-10-21 18:32:52 · answer #3 · answered by xxplalmxx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you meet guys on here? I didn't know you could chat and all? Yes I think if he tells you you're stressing him out there no guess work. I mean I don't want a partner that stresses me out. Life is stressful enough. If you can't back off from stressing him you should move on to someone that can tolerate you just the way you are.
2006-10-21 18:32:13 · answer #4 · answered by nomatt3r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are coming across as desperate for a boyfriend and you have scared him away. Just back off & give him some time & then try to contact him. Never smother a guy when you're just starting a relationship.
2006-10-21 18:27:42 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Someone once told me, "If you stare into the eyes of someone dear, confrontation is the key." Confront this person once and for all and find out if THEY REALLY LIKE YOU or not. Notice the eye movements of this person also. Should their eyes move away from you when confronting them, it means they are usually hiding something or they are not wanting to tell the truth. It seems to me by your situation events that this person is not serious about this. Ask yourself, "Is it worth getting hurt over someone who might not like you?" There is always better for you waiting out there, it is you who has to find it, and if you are fortunate, it can find you.
2006-10-21 18:32:05 · answer #6 · answered by RYO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let go of your expectations. Sounds like he's being upfront and you're not accepting what he's telling you. If he's telling you that you're smothering him, why would you continue to pursue him or think that he's playing games? It might work out if you let go (lowering expectations). If you don't, it might be gone forever.
So do you think he's going to answer this question himself since this is where you met him?
2006-10-21 18:31:11 · answer #7 · answered by LetMeBe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay this is what i think... he may or may not be playing with your feelings. try backing off like he says and let him think for a while. if he doesn't come around within 2 weeks then something is definitly up. confront the problem and ask him what is wrong. if he doesn't want to talk about then maybe you two aren't for each other.
2006-10-21 18:30:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you be kissing and petting on the first date??? Maybe he's looking for someone with some morals. He's trying to tell you to get lost nicely. Stop pushing the issue and leave him alone. Does he have to shout out to you to leave him alone? Sounds like you just don't get it.
2006-10-21 18:29:33 · answer #9 · answered by Lola 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am sorry that he is playing with your emotions like that but you need to let him go it sounds like you wern't doing anything wrong but he just wanted to get in your pants. leave him alone find another guy who you really like then see if he trys coming back to you. you need to give him a break. like you said its not serious yet so let him have a break. so you do not get hurt no guy is worth getting a broken heart for. but everyone is differnt follow your heart. thats the best thing i can say.
2006-10-21 18:34:26 · answer #10 · answered by jam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋