hey i have tried everything but he juss doesnt get it i told him i dontr lyke him in letters email all kinds of ways to tell a guy what else should i do to make him stop?!?!?
2006-10-21 18:05:18 · 19 answers · asked by monkey b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In my opinion, definitely not, but the very fact that you even asked the question tells me that you are still entertaining the notion. (please read my response)
First of all - my response is based on the assumption that this guy is not physically violent at this point. ...............
The fact that you are continuing to try to get the message across to him by communicating with him in some way (letters, email, etc.) is still just that - communication with him. That is feeding into his fire. Feeding into his hope. The only way to take that hope away is to take away that reinforcement - the communication. Absolutely pretend that he isn't there. If you pick up the phone and hear his voice, don't tell him not to call again. Just hang up. Or if you have caller ID, pick up the receiver just enough to stop the ringing & put it down again. Then take it off the hook for a while. Better yet, change your number to an unlisted number if that's an option. If you see him out somewhere, act as though you don't see or hear him. If his behavior continues, the only words you should speak are to tell him -as you look at him with VERY expressionless eyes- (practice these in the mirror!) that if the behavior doesn't stop, Tell him that he may not see his behavior as harrassment but that it certainly feel that way to you and that it certainly meets the definition of harrassment (be sure to look it up first). Tell him that that it seems as though he wants to be the one making the choices here so you are going to let him make a big one. He can choose whether or not to back off and leave you totally alone - no further contact of any sort. Let him know that if, however, he chooses to continue the harrassment, he can expect you to be making a choice of your own, and that that choice ill be to take legal action. Tell him the next move is his. Which way does he want it?
On the other hand...
If you really want to get back with him, stop fooling yourself and do it. But be careful. The behavior he's exhibiting is of an aggressive sort. Doesn't sound like a good candidate for a safe and healthy long term relationship to me.
2006-10-21 18:50:20 · answer #1 · answered by Lila 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 13:23:14 · answer #2 · answered by fritch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he smells like SOUP and then tell him you are in a relationship(make someone up) and then DRIVE or ask a friend to drive you to you local clerk of court and get a Protection Order.(document that tells him LEGALLY that he is NOT to contact under ANY circumstance or he will be punished by LAW)
However, if you secretly LIKE the attention......don't do anything.
Oh, and WHY are you still talking to him? Don't answer your phone, the door...hit the IGNORE button. The MORE you try to tell him the more you are saying "I MIGHT want to keep talking to you"
Hang up and call the police for harassmant. It works!
2006-10-21 18:11:52 · answer #3 · answered by Barbara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him directly.
If you have tried, then you should get a friend or someone to tell him
He probably gets the clue you don't like him
He just does it to either annoy you
Or wait until you give in
You can also ignore him
Good Luck with your problem
^_-
2006-10-21 18:11:23 · answer #4 · answered by Maddi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he is a psycho-stalker guy like me, all you gotta do is ignore him. He gradually stop bothering you. After a week, he will stop pestering you every day. After a month, he will only bother you once a week. And this guy needs serious help if he is still bothering you after two months. Good luck... You'll need it if this guys like me.
2006-10-21 18:09:19 · answer #5 · answered by ks_stud_2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is out of question to give another chance,however u may convince him by dialog that u are no more interested in him.
2006-10-21 18:13:01 · answer #6 · answered by hm_pearl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should just avoid him all together. Don't answer his
emails, hang up when he calls etc. Stay Strong.
2006-10-21 18:13:23 · answer #7 · answered by lavada 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you only want to be friends and if he cant accept it then he needs to move on.
2006-10-21 18:07:48 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IGNORE IGNORE IGNORE......... Change your e-mail, your number, and move on. As lon as you've stated your case, you need no further explanation for him. He'll get the picture, eventually.
2006-10-21 18:07:52 · answer #9 · answered by grldragon101 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to work on his self esteem because he should. Are you sure you're telling him in PlAIN english?
2006-10-21 18:12:34 · answer #10 · answered by winsribbons 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋