I have tried a lot of things but I just can't get over my shyness. I used to not be shy but then all of a sudden I became real shy and now I feel most comfortable when I am alone and uncomfortable when put in social settings.
2006-10-21 17:54:56 · 12 answers · asked by Eric 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
It seems like everytime I talk I say something stupid.
2006-10-21 18:10:17 · update #1
I've been there myself. Unfortunately with my business studies presentations were critical. I just took it one step at a time (after a shock treatment of playing the lead in a little play). Maybe you should start by asking yourself why you're nervous. For me, it was a question of other people's judgment. Have a good friend help you out and take it one small step at a time. You'll be great.
2006-10-21 18:03:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude, i used to be like you. don't worry. there is hope. you just have to put yourself out. it is very uncomfortable at first, yes. but you get used to it and then realize that it isn't so bad. don't be afraid of anything, especially of what people think. try talking to strangers. start small. i attend college and when i pass someone, i say "hi, hows it going" or something. people can either respond or choose not to. it doesn't matter cuz it only last a whole 3 seconds. no big deal. then work your way up. in class, i say something instead of being shy and just observing. participate. my advice: start small, then work your way up. then you will get to where i am. i can talk to anyone anytime. no more shyness and thank goodness cuz i feel so much more alive now. try it. good luck my friend!
2006-10-21 18:06:04 · answer #2 · answered by Jugglingmidget06 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have a problem similar to yours... I'm extremely shy and it's hard for me to meet people, but after I warm up to them I'm fine. I dont have a lot of advice except just be you and dont worry about what the other person thinks. Say what you want, do what you want and be who you want to be. Don't be shy about who you are....it makes it seem as if you are ashamed... It's hard, I know... as I said I also struggle formthis, but be positive and try being more social...the more comfortable you get in front of people the better it will get. Good Luck
2006-10-22 09:38:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2015-09-25 17:17:29 · answer #4 · answered by Myron 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did all kinds of stuff trying to rid myself of the shy bug - I even entered this stupid beauty pagaent and had to do a silly dance in front of half the school and their parents (it was in vain) - but I've come to realize that you can't just come out of it like that.
I seem to be growing out of my shyness now, though.
Maybe it just takes time...?
2006-10-21 18:04:38 · answer #5 · answered by iLLy W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bet you $10 something happened that made you a 'social outcast' and you were hurt really badly by the way everybody reacted so you are now nervous because you don't want to ever be that 'social outcast' again.
first things first, if people don't like you...screw em, its only because of their own insecurities.
secondly, the key to people wanting to spend time with you is if you give them something they want or need that they have to spend time with you to get it. for example fun! people like to laugh, to be listened to, to feel like they are 'good' people, to forget about their problems. before you can get other people to have fun with you, you have to have fun yourself. So don't take it personally if 'everybody in the world' avoids you, whats the worste their going to go? laugh at you, tell you that your stupid...if YOU don't like their company then go someplace else and practise having fun and being happy like its a game (because having fun is a game). Happiness does not come naturally, you have to learn it and believe me when I say this MOST PEOPLE ARE NOT HAPPY. why do you think they are so intollerable of 'social outcasts', its because their having a hard enough time to have fun anyway, they are insecure. So be a little selfish and go get what YOU WANT. and raise your standards...if they don't deserve to be your friend because they are judgemental then move on and forget them, your better than that!
2006-10-22 01:16:42 · answer #6 · answered by humblesupastar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to stop caring what people think.
Thats why people say "drink", the point being to lose that ego thing that makes you so hesitant.
"inhibitions".
Just picture that the people you are around also go to the bathroom just like you. Have been dumped by a bf/gf, get sick and sneeze green and yellow in a napkin too.
That kind of stuff.
Then you will see that it makes no sense to be shy around these nasty people. (in a positive way).
2006-10-21 18:09:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that can happen as we age and stress starts to set in you could bbe having some aniety;s which add to your shyness, the best thing is to just go for, dumb words and all. i have the nervouse bouts of words that make no since come outa my mouth when i get round people i meet for the first time. and as my emabarssment sets in i get it worse, but my over talkiness gets me thru it. so just go for the word throw up and hope everyone loves it. they usally do ; )
2006-10-21 19:04:10 · answer #8 · answered by Becca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow that is exactly how i feel. i think i should take my own advice. you should think of the reason ur shy. what caused it, why that caused it.. look deep into urself and fix the faults u think u have and face the beatifull world again.
good luck
~giggles~
2006-10-21 18:05:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could join a band
2006-10-21 18:02:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋