I have been with my bf for 2years. It was not a smooth-sailing, especially the last year. He has been very active in seeing other girls besides myself. He was even caught by me.
Right now, we are back together for barely a week. He finally called me up and asked me out. However, I still found out that he is still trying to chat girls up on an online website. Is that normal? Can I trust that that is just an innocent chat? Does it mean he is not being loyal?
I am trying very hard to forget of what he has done to me before but to find this out, certainly does not help.
2006-10-21 17:36:02 · 14 answers · asked by ashley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What the H***!
Get rid of him! Once cheater always cheater!
And by the way...why are you not with him? It's Saturday night you should be in his arms? Right?
2006-10-21 17:38:53 · answer #1 · answered by Jax4all 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say I would be suspicious. Men don't usually "chat" with women unless there is an ulterior motive, usually you-know-what. And given his history, sounds like the trust factor is way down.
Do yourself a favor and save a lot of heartache, find another descent guy. You'll never fully trust this one again, and once the trust is gone, there's really nothing to hold on to. Hard fact to swallow, but true.
Telling him to "stop", won't do it. He will sneak around and do it anyway if that's what he truly wants to do, no matter what he says. Words are just words. A tiger can't change it's stripes. Search his hard drive and I guarantee you'll find inappropriate materials and all sorts of chat sessions in his history (unless he's saavy enough to "clean-up" after his chats...ie...deleting history, recently typed URLS, etc.). Again, hard news to take, but true. Move on. You probably deserve better.
Advice from one who's been down this road.
2006-10-21 17:43:27 · answer #2 · answered by Steve n 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I wouldn't trust it. Trust is a thing that's hard to earn back once it's been broken. Once a cheat, always a cheat. There are exceptions, but I wouldn't deal with a bf who's already proved to be untrustworthy.
2006-10-21 17:39:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you still together. He is obviously causing so much stress and worries for you. It is not just an innocent chat nowadays onlien and remember*what you have in your relationshipwhile you are dating will be what you get when you are married, meaning if you are miserable dating, marriage will not solve anything*.
2006-10-21 17:41:34 · answer #4 · answered by Jessy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was very active in seeing other girls chances are he's probably just a player.And if he really wanted to hold it down with you this time he would know to cut off all ties with any women.You had better look for someone else who you know is
more sincere.
2006-10-21 17:41:04 · answer #5 · answered by jenn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first u have to concider what kind of a website your boyfriend is talking to these girls on. and then find out what he is talking to them about. if he is flirting in any way u might have to worry about him cheating on u again. i guess the best solution is to dump him and move on with your life. if u love him then its really to bad because subconciously u know that the worst is going to happen again otherwise you wouldnt have asked this question in the first place. the best of wishes for u and your relationship.
2006-10-21 17:43:39 · answer #6 · answered by Meltedplasticbag 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even is he is not cheating with these girls physically, he is doing it mentally. You are his gf, it is not normal for him to be dating other people (even online) while you are in a relationship together. He sounds like a jerk, you deserve better, its time to move on, he's not worth it!
2006-10-21 17:40:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People need to learn to look at the history of a person to know who they truly are. No one ever changes permanently. I wouldn't be dating a girl who did that.
2006-10-21 17:39:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
what you need to be doing is trying very hard to forget him and never forget what he did to you . remembering what he did to you will keep you from running back to him in a moment of weakness.
2006-10-21 17:46:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normal? yes, Healthy? NO. get away from this guy. He is commitment phobic.
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2006-10-21 17:39:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋