To look through their stuff if I have a feeling that something is going on? You know, they always say they have a right for privacy, but I just wanna know what you people think.
2006-10-21 17:35:30 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
YES! if your child is under the age of 18 i believe you have every right, and if they "buy a lock" break the door.
2006-10-21 17:40:14 · answer #1 · answered by hellothere 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i do not believe a parent has a right to go through their children's private living space. I am a mother of 3 boys 13, 10, and 6. i believe that to do such a thing is to break the most important bond you have with your child and that's trust. I f you believe something is going on keep trying to talk with them. get to know your children and let them know you know them. When my 13 year old was going through a difficult time in his little life he didn't want to tell me so he would give incomplete answers and knowing him as well as i did i knew he was hiding something and i would tell him so. I would continue to badger him and redirect my questions also rephrasing questions works wonders until finally he gave up the problem then i did not get mad at him or punish him for what he told me we discussed it and i let him know how i felt then left it up to him to make the final decision. My bond with my kid is stronger than ever and even though his problems are just going to get harder he knows he has me to trust in and that i completely trust him which is the best thing for your child.
2006-10-22 01:08:36 · answer #2 · answered by Cinder M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should have a real talk with them to see if they are serious about any problems. If they don't tell you, then it is privacy. If they want to tell you, then they will. You shouldn't be too worried. They probably hide it from you for a reason--because they know how you would react. Have no fear!!! They should know what they're doing. Don't worry too much. And your question, the answer is...You have rights depending on the limits they are giving you!
2006-10-22 00:38:58 · answer #3 · answered by craz34jason 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What is the relationship between yourself and the child/children concerened? While I didn't tell my parent's everythiing I did growing up, if I was asked straight out "Are you drinking?" or "Are you taking drugs?" I would answer because of the respect I have for my parents.
Try talking before "snooping". Not that it's the same situation, but I searched through my ex's personal papers becasue I thought he was cheating on me. I ended up being right unfortunatly, but the trouble I went through when he found out I went through his things wasn't worth it. Breaking trust isn't worth a snoop.
2006-10-22 07:32:01 · answer #4 · answered by arcanehex 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I depends on the age group. I say anyone under the age of 18 is a minor and if they are living in your home then you have the right to search if you feel that they may be having problems.
If drugs, promiscuity, alcohol, or smoking is something that you are concerned about then I urge you to investigate the situation.
Remember first though to straight out ask your child what is up. Tell them that youve noticed changes in them and tell them that they can talk to you. Dont be mean or overly aggressive. Just let it be known that you are worried. They may just open up to you.
2006-10-22 00:40:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you suspect something yes you have the right to go through their stuff. If there is something going on you to take care of the situation as soon as possible. Always remember you are the parent. My daughter did drugs and drank at a Young age and it was tough. I almost lost her to alcohol poisoning, it was scary to think I almost lost her . God bless you in this situation it is not going to be easy.
2006-10-22 00:56:18 · answer #6 · answered by sweet pea 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If they are under 18 and you pay the bills then every inch of the house is yours. You have the right to look in any closet or drawer you choose. You know, to clean. :-)
But, you don't want to be a very snoopy mom because then you will have problems & trust issues. I'd only do it if I suspected they were hiding something that could hurt them or get them in trouble.
2006-10-22 00:40:44 · answer #7 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I personally don't think it is right. I am a mother of a 17 year old boy....and a single parent.....I do talk to him and spend time with him and his friends. even when I have threatened to clean his room I have told him he has one hour to get anything he doesn't want me to see out..... needless to say he cleans his room himself. I have learned to trust his judgment on a lot of things,and have been impressed how he sees the world and himself in it.I think talking and being there and being involved in his life and trust do the same thing as snooping with less of a feeling of be trail.
2006-10-22 02:26:10 · answer #8 · answered by Liz H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO!
My mum did it to me, and I had nothing to hide (except for a packet of smokes and a vibrator!)
I KNEW she had done it, I confronted her and she got all huffy. I didn't trust her one bit after that.
Sure, I lived in their house, but, I did have the right to some privacy. I wouldn't do it to them.
2006-10-22 03:51:48 · answer #9 · answered by jesskar21 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if you pay the bills.
NO if you use what you are doing as a weapon against them.
My mother looked thru my things all the time. Told me she did it, constantly told me to "watch out" as eventually she will find something she did not like, and throw me out on the streets!
I got married at age 18, to get away from that hate and anger.
2006-10-22 01:04:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as they are living under your roof and you are supporting them, by all means you have the right to go thru their stuff. If they
have nothing to hide then they won't mind. The more they talk
about their privacy the deeper i would look.
2006-10-22 00:55:14 · answer #11 · answered by lavada 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋