I really like my guy friend. We only started talking like a month ago, but we are already really close (he considers me one of his few REAL friends and he is mine). He is a huge flirt, though. Especially to this one girl. She will sit in the hall on his lap and they'll chat and flirt. He gives her public attention, but in more private moments pays attention to me. We will lock eyes and have an intense, deep, soulful, understanding moments. I think he feels the intensity too. It's happened several times and he will sometimes stop by me and look deep into my eyes....even when he is w/ his friends. It's really powerful. We can totally relate to eachother.
We havent really done anything outside of school except talking for an hr privately at one football game and hanging out for a while at another. I'd die for him. He told me he likes a lot of girls, including the one he publicly flirts with. Could I be one of them? What should I do?Does he already like me? Good advice appreciated.Thanx
2006-10-21 17:32:32 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You sound like a really nice girl! You definitely sound as if you deeply care for this guy. But you can't walk into being hurt by him. He sounds like he really cares for you as well, but he likes other girls too. If you like like him, tell him how you feel. He may not know that you really like him and your uncomfortable seeing him mess with other girls in your presence. He dosn't seem like he intentionally tries to hurt you. But tell him how you feel, you need to get it off your chest and he needs to hear you tell him if he dosn't already know that you like him more than freinds. And if he dosn't feel the same way than he may not be the one anyway! If he respects you he will listen to you.......
2006-10-21 17:54:10 · answer #1 · answered by Michael C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess he still doesnt know what he really wants.
He likes you and enjoys every moment you both have with each other.
He told you that he likes a lot of girls. Maybe he isnt in the "stucked in a relationship" guy yet. He still enjoys the company of girls and likes being flirty at one time and being serious and private at another time.
He wont notice (especially if he hasnt been in a relationship yet), he would be insensitive to the deep feelings you have for him (or the other girls).
What should you do?
Well, if he is really insensitive to your feelings, take a small step forward towards giving him hints. Write letters to him, at the bottom part of the letter, write there "Write back".. etc etc...
Be careful, because he has to decide if he would go to a serious exclusive relationship OR go enjoy the moment with other girls and not go to any exclusivity yet.
But believe me.. if he chooses the latter, he'll have regrets haunting him in the future!
2006-10-22 00:44:04 · answer #2 · answered by jayp 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it seems that you do have an advantage over the other girls, that is you are his true friend and he truly cherishes that about the relationship. You two seem to have that connection that he probably does not share with many.
Although the possibility of something more than just friendship can materialize, you may have to put into consideration that he is a big flirt. He loves women/girls. You ask if you could be ONE of them. This raises a red flag because although you desire to be liked by him in an intimate way, the fact is he may not be ready or capable of a monogamous relationship at this time. So the truth be told - whether he likes you or not is one thing but can he go beyond his flirtaciousness and truly be committed for the long haul? Is he likely to commit infidelity? Do you want to be in a committed relationship with him? If so, is he capable of loyalty? You may want to ask yourself this question before attempting to date your friend as this may alter your friendship. One last thing, if he truly likes you, loves you and want to be only with you, he would've invested more time pursuing you than publicly displaying his affection for other girls. Think about it.
2006-10-22 00:46:05 · answer #3 · answered by Ana 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get ready for some cruel hard facts .. if he flirts with all the girls ... he will not stop if he starts a relationship with u ,, if it ever comes out to that... u might be jeoulous and angry with him because he behaves like that,,, and if u have a hidden fling , it will be hidden from everyone til he get that girl he like,,, he still into his hormones and wants to be a guy and wants girls attention....and popularity,,,
that long look lock feels so great insdie and makes ur heart pound
but that will faid away,,, i had that once and we saw each other passionand we felt it,, but if its withthe right person they wont want to talk about no one else or see no one but you.. he is a friend and mayb see u as a friend ,, why doesnt he give u public attention... i found my soul partner in life we understood one another that we couldnt even be apart we love one another so much that we ended up hating eachother over time because i was a flirt in his eyes and i he was a prettyboy who always put him self first,,, in many ways,,, and i ended losing my love,,, and that how i will remember him, my lost love... he move away to see if we can ever be able to be together again,.. i found out he got sick with cancer,,, and i cant even see him.. any way back to ur story,,,,
because he acted a certain way that bother me i like him alot that i didnt want to see his bad ways,,,.until he did it to me.. and i got angry with him.... so talk to ur friend ,,,, see if he give u that public attetion .,, test him out,,, girl mature faster that guys they still like 4 year difference in maturity proven by dateline nbc,,, it will hurt to accept the truth but pay attention to someone who pay close attention to ur details... ur ways .. this is a life lesson here know this and u wont get hurt to much...
2006-10-22 01:02:00 · answer #4 · answered by deyavas 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he definietely feels something for you but i think he himself can't tell what *exactly* that is. maybe you should invite him to something outta school. nothing spectacular that would imply a "date" -- guys like me usually get cold feet when they find ond out that some girl is interested in them a lil more they really like ;)
maybe just have lunch together or just cruise around and try to maintain long conversations to get to know him better. but be warned: if he really is a flirt he might stay that way in a relationship too... so you might have to get used to it without too much jealousy. if he really loves you, he won't cheat on you i am quite sure.
i hope i could help you a little?
2006-10-22 00:43:51 · answer #5 · answered by gas01ine 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with him and have a heart to heart and just let your feelings to known. But don't keeps all your eggs in one basket.
2006-10-22 00:45:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋